S: Questions for My Father
BC: Christmas 2011
FC: Questions for My Father Finding the Man Behind Your Dad
1: What is the most important lesson you learned from your dad? | Don't give up!!! Be persistent!!! Think first, decide, and then act.
2: What's the proudest memory you have for each of your children?
3: John: Watching him successfully coach SCCS’s basketball team Noah: When he went to the World’s Fair in Canada and sang in a choir Gabe: When he was awarded the "Character Award" at school Beth: When she graduated as the “Salutatorian” of her class. She worked very hard!!!
5: As a boy what did you want to be when you grew up? | I wanted to be just like my Dad and become an Engineer; even though I didn't even know what an engineer was. When I entered college, it was still my goal.
7: What's the biggest mistake you've ever made? | I invested $20,000 in currency trading based on the reasoning of another person. The people running the business were dishonest and I lost all of the money.
8: What's the best part of having a son? | You get to mentor a boy, youth, young man, and then see them develop into a man who makes you proud. I am proud of each of my sons!
9: What's the best part of having a daughter? Knowing you are the example she uses to compare any young man she meets.
11: How did you propose to mom? | I first talked to her dad and asked him if I could ask her because she was only 17 yrs. He said "OK" so I asked her to marry me after I finished college. She said NO WAY!! It would be now—no waiting!!!
12: With all of the boys, they were competitive about everything, whether it was riding their horses or playing with their toys. Mom and I did pretty good with the boys, when Beth came into the family, nether one of us knew what to do. Even though Beth wanted to be a tomboy, she wanted to have a “relationship” with her brothers . They were not into that. | What's the biggest difference between raising sons and daughters?
14: What's your favorite movie? | Ladyhawk
15: What did you always want to do but never had the chance? | Vacation in Hawaii on the sandy beach.
16: What makes a good dad? | Being married to a good mom!
17: Seeing all my children serving God. | What has been your proudest day as a dad?
18: What was the funniest thing | When Gabe was about 1 yr. old, he like to bang the pots and pans in the kitchen when Mom was working. Mom would open the dishwasher door and put Gabe on the door and let him just bang away. | GABE | John loved to ride his toy horse. He would ride it so violently that it would come off the floor. He could make it buck and move around the house on the horse. He could climb onto the horse before he could walk!!! | JOHN
19: you saw your children do? | One summer day when we lived in Galt and we got our 1st calf named “Butterfly”. We had been watching the rodeo on TV and Noah decided he wanted to ride Butterfly like he saw on TV. I found a rope and put it around the calf and put Noah on the calf and wrapped the rope around Noah’s hand. I asked Noah if he was ready, he said "yes" so I slapped Butterfly on the butt. She took one big buck and Noah went flying into the air.He landed on his back, got the breath knocked out of him and was scared. He got up crying and ran for the house yelling he didn't want to play rodeo any more. | NOAH | Beth went on a trip with grandpa and grandma Ethel. She thought she was so mature, the way she dressed was a crack-up. | BETH
20: What have you learned from being a dad? | A dad is a representation of God to their child. The view of God you provide is totally up to you and makes a lasting impression on the children.
21: I met her at a street dance. She was there with her boyfriend who I knew. He went off to college, so I made my move on her! Our first official date was to a drive-in movie and saw JUNGLE BOOK. | How did you meet mom? Where did you take her on your first date?
22: Raising children is consuming of energy and time. When you have 5 to take care of it leaves little time or energy for each other. Spontaneity and creativity was the best answer for us. | How did you and mom keep your relationship alive while raising children? | Looking back through your dad, granddad, and so on, what characteristics do we all share?
23: Heter history was based on previous Heter men and their wives. The Heter future will result from what we leave as a legacy to our children which are family traditions and principles that honor the name.
24: Commitment: Your mate WILL fail you!! No matter how hard they try or how much they love you, they will make decisions and take actions that will hurt you in some way. It may be on purpose or by accident, but if the action is not “life threatening” you must remain committed to the marriage when repentance is made. Common Goals: (1) Children: when and how many!! No unilaterally planned pregnancies. (2) Where to Live: don't assume your spouse will be willing to move to Greenland just because you want to. 3) Church Attendance: You must go to the same church and be committed to the church and doctrine | Common Values: More important than romance and sexual attraction, the couple must have life values that harmonize with each other. They don't have to be identical, but they must be compatible. These values include (1) Spiritual values, no missionary marrying!! Do not be unequally yoked with someone of an incompatible faith or denomination and (2) Ethical values, agreement on what is good and acceptable conduct and action. | What are the vital ingredients of a healthy marriage?
25: Getting married to a 17 yr. old girl when I had no job, no money and knew that I was going to be drafted into the Army and probably go to Vietnam and get killed. How could I leave a 17 yr. old widow?? What if she got pregnant before I left??? | What's the biggest risk you've ever taken?
26: What's your favorite book and why? | As a boy, it was Walter Farley’s books about the Black Stallion. My favorites were “The Island Stallion” & The Island Stallion’s Fury. Boys and Stallions relate!!! As a young unmarried adult, it was “Love Story” by Eric Segal. Lucy sent it to me when I was at San Diego State. I related to being persistent in seeking after what I wanted. As a mature adult, it has been the Bible, which gives me spiritual guidance. Other than the Bible, a book titled “Rising in the West” it was about the people who moved from the dust bowl to California during the depression years. That is why my mom came from Oklahoma to Trona and eventually met my Dad.