S: All about the parent and child relationship you see everyday!! It's time for a second look!
BC: Created, written, and illustrated by Quanisha Shanice Andrews
FC: Second Chance
1: This is a dedication to all of the parents and children of today. On a personal note this magazine is dedicated to those who helped me survive to this very day "Patricia Chamberlain" "Betty McDowell" "Midge Nobles" "Sue McKendry" "Gloria McKnight" "Sylvester Herbert McDowell" "Mary Della Andrews" Thank you all so much for believing in me and helping me make it through my life. I couldn't have done this without any of you
2: Growing up i often did not understand everything i went through during my childhood. Sometimes things seemed utterly unfair; but looking back on them now, i realize that they helped shaped me into the young woman that i am today. I didn't have a perfect childhood, but i am grateful for the one i did have. When i reached appropriate age i ventured into kindergarten; not social; but extraordinary in knowledge learning and skill building | I made a few friends;participated in school activities, but i never felt truly belonging. The same pattern continued throughout childhood and adolescence. However, it was not all good times for me. Throughout elementary and middles school i suffered through constant verbal and physical bullying. This in turn severely depleted my self-esteem and sent me into a depression. I was so low down that i sought the professional help of a counselor. There i learned to deal with my self-esteem and bullying issues. Over the span of 5 years i blossomed from my shell and entered the world of high school. My first two years of high school went off without a hitch until i entered my junior year. My classes became overwhelming . I sprained my shoulder and back and missed several days of school, and started failing. I couldn't cope with the pressures of life and found myself back in a counselor's office where i learned how to deal with it. As i prepare to take the next big step into my future, i won't ever forget the lessons my childhood taught me. No matter what happens stay motivated and focused on goals, and you can make it through anything, | My Story
4: "When we hear the phrase it takes two we generally think of parents right"? Well after my continuous observations this may not always ring true | Although many people continue to disregard the behavior of children while in public facilities. It is becoming a recurring issue. It seems as though the parents of today's society don't have the time or patience it takes to calm a fussy child in public. I observed several parents and children in my outfield studies experimentation. I was somewhat disappointed by the obvious lack of discipline with parent and child | Majority of parents with a young toddler all the way to the grade school age child; would rather pawn off an object of distraction to their child instead of tending to their needs. If the parents just take the time and tend to the child their behavior would be less likely to get out of hand. It is all about parenting which is why the phrase "tough love" works. As a child when i needed discipline my mom often said this hurts me more than it hurts you. She was right it hurts a parent to punish their child but it is only because they love them and want them to understand the consequences of their behavior | Does it really take two?
5: Friends? Some parents in the recent years have taken a different approach to adolescence and teenage years. They are preferring to be their child's "friend" thinking it will help them stay informed in their child's life and help keep them out of trouble. It does not work. Studies show that most parents using this method have more difficulty with their child's behavior than the average parent. BY doing the friend method the boundaries between parent and child are erased. Therefore leaving a different level or respect and discipline within the parental guidelines
6: You Spank to Show Love??? | According to Dr. Spock , punishment should never be the main element of discipline. However because of the varying differences on punishment we cannot say it does, or does not work. However according to Dr Spock there is a line between spanking and abuse. When your intention upon spanking your child are not sincere and accurate it can become abuse. Often parents lash out and spank harder than they should. The important aspect is realizing you've gone too far. ONce you do this you can then take the necessary actions to ensure it doesn't happen again. As a child i remember getting spanked and it really hurt. but afterwards my parents would explain it is punishment but it is also done because they love me and want me to learn from my mistakes. As Dr Spock said Children provide the power and supplies, but it is up to parents to steer them in the right direction no matter what tools or methods may be used. PArents should still discipline the child but also show them love and imitation.
7: From Temper Tantrum to Attitude Back to Temper Tantrum? | According to Dr. Lemen children throw fits because it works. He is right. Children only get away with things because they can. "Betty McDowell" says "The more you let them get away with, the harder it becomes to parent them". What this means is by enabling a child you are destroying the parental boundaries and guidance they adhere to. Dr. Lemen suggests that the tantrums be ceased as soon as possible. Several other commoners stated that it won't just go away. IT will mold into their adolescence and teenage years causing the biggest attitude problems you can find. Dr Spock, says that the tantrums must be stopped at the source . I know as a young child when my brother had tantrums and laid on the floor and screamed, my mom would do the same thing until he got up which didn't take long. That may not be the way for everyone but rest assured there is a always a way to stop a tantrum
9: Sources | www.thelearningseed.com Dr. Benjamin Spock: Baby and Child Care Several editions of parenting magazine and Family Circle www.apa.com suite101..com Personal Interviews