BC: The End
1: Hello, As we try to write this letter we are stumped. How can we possibly put into words all that we are and all that we hope to be as parents to your baby? It seems impossible. But then we think about what you are going through as you make an adoption plan for your child and we’re humbled. We cannot begin to know how difficult this decision is for you. Please know that we wish you comfort and strength throughout this journey. Hopefully this book, in some small way, will help. We are Debb and Jim, a stable, loving, deeply committed couple who desire to become first-time parents through adoption. Both of us are very close with our families, and we each have many fond memories of how we were raised. We want that to continue. We want the opportunity to pay-forward to your child the countless blessings and gifts our families have bestowed on us. If chosen to become your child’s adoptive parents, we will... ... raise your child to know God’s unconditional love and grace. Praying together as a family at the dinner table, being active in our church, and finding service opportunities in our community will all be a part of this. ... make sure your child knows the value of education and has access to schools and opportunities that best suit his or her needs, abilities, and interests. ... help your child discover his or her passion by exposing your child to sports, music, and hobbies beginning at a young age. ... provide structure and boundaries so your child always knows they are safe, respected and loved even when he or she is mad at us or feel we’re being unreasonable. ... read bedtime stories, have tickle fights, splash around at bath time and in the swimming pool, and do all we can to make thousands upon thousands of treasured memories out of life’s simple moments. ... honor you. As we get to know you, and you us, we hope that we can agree on some degree of openness in our relationship that allows your child to always know you, your story, and your love. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Debb and Jim
2: We met in 2001 during a mutual friend’s graduation party. Debb jokes that she was attracted to Jim the minute she first laid eyes on him but she never got “the vibe” that he was interested. She finally gave up trying to impress him, relaxed, and let her sassy-self come out. She was pleasantly surprised the next day to learn Jim had asked their friends for Debb’s phone number and their help facilitating another meeting. Three years later, we married. That was more than seven years ago. | Our love story
4: "Miss Silly Pants" | By Jim | (1) | (2) | (3) | (4) | (7)
5: The first night we met, Debb challenged my best friend and put him in his place during a cut-throat game of darts. It cracked me up. Her playful spirit, her wit, and her spunky attitude helped me nick name her “Miss Silly Pants”. Debb is incredibly smart, independent, and amazingly compassionate. I watch Debb with nieces, nephews, and our friends’ kids. I hear her talk about the children with whom she volunteers and babysits. I have no doubt she will be a loving mother who will provide fun adventures, compassionate structure, and unconditional acceptance for your baby. | About these photos: 1) Jim and Debb at her graduation from graduate school. 2) Debb and Oboe at his graduation from Puppy School. 3) Debb and niece ham it up 4) Debb gives this look when she's "up to something" 5) Debb with her sister, cousins, and niece 6) Debb's sassy, short hair cut 7) Debb talked Jim into going for a ride. | (5) | (6)
6: Jim never did get what “the vibe” was, but he did show me what being a true gentleman is. Never have I met a man who is so selfless, kind and personable. When we first met, we dated long distance. We spent a lot of time getting to know each other over the phone. One night it came up in conversation that I really like Cocoa Puffs and Corn Pops. A few weeks later when I made a trip to Michigan to visit him, guess what was in the pantry? Cocoa Puffs and Corn Pops. | "My Prince" | By Debb
7: Jim is not a man of grand gestures. He’s the kind of man who finds ways to make the ordinary, day-to-day stuff special and meaningful. I trust in him and our relationship more than I ever imagined I could. He is, quite simply, my prince and my rock. I know he will be a true partner in parenthood. He will be a patient father who will play with, teach and love your baby without limitations.
8: Both of us come from tight-knit families. We travel two or three times a year to see them. | Debb's family is spread out across the country. Most of Jim's family is in Ohio. | Meet our family
10: Our suburban neighborhood is full of children. Both the elementary and middle schools are within walking distance. Our home has a large driveway perfect for riding bikes and a fenced backyard just waiting for a play set. The community pool is down the block, and there is a park, pond, and playground just a short walk away. | Our home
11: Oboe is a lovable character. While he's no longer a puppy, he still has lots of life and pep left in him. He does great with children and he even knows the difference between their toys and his own. | Our dog, Oboe | Meet "The Boy", our dog, Oboe
18: A family is pieced together with hope and faith. A family is quilted and bound with love and grace.