S: TO DAD, WITH LOVE
1: Let's Rewind a little ....
3: Like branches on a tree, our lives may grow in different directions yet our roots remain as one.
5: Dad We don't think many words can fully capture how we feel and how lucky we are to call you dad. You are truly one of the best people in this world, and the love that flows from others only makes this more clear in our heads. Your heart could not be more centered and your priorities are never shuffled. Watching you interact with other people is a lesson in humility and wit! You are our role-model. We find things funny when you laugh at them- Senthil, Koundamani, or even Mr. Bean are not half as funny without your laugh track! We burst with pride whenever you speak in public and blanket the enamored audience with your warmth and sincerity. We watch on in awe as you pick up a toy plastic harmonica and play tunes as if you had been practicing everyday! We forward on your movie reviews to our friends with lots of excitement and very casually mention to people that you went to IIM-A (as if that makes us smarter!), and secretly feel cool to be the immediate family of the most contributing member of cooljangs! Dad, thank you for caring so much! Whenever we fight amongst ourselves, you get so scared and nervous that there is going to be this big filmy rift between us. Like the time we fought over the make-up box, or when we were fighting over who does the dishes while living together in NY, or even when we have squabbled over who gets the upper berth on our trips to Tirunelveli. You were always there to break up the fights (or in the case of the make-up incident, break the make-up box itself!) and be the voice of reason, instilling in us that we need to be there for each other and never fight. Please know that no matter how much we scream, yell, or pull each others’ hair out, we love each other to bits and we know that there is nothing more important than our family and we will always make nice (sometimes aided by a brand new bigger better make-up box from Dubai), and continue to love unconditionally. Your lessons have been simple, clear and consistent. You raised us to give without expecting in return, to love without agenda, to learn without arrogance, to live well without frugality..because who knows what tomorrow brings! There's so much more you have taught us over the years FLIP PAGES to find out what .. Of everything fun in the world, our favorite place will always be sitting on the bed next to you, head propped on your shoulder, or stretched out diagonally, while you watch TV and Amma snores next to us promising that she’s awake as you poke her at 10 minute intervals! Here’s to many many many more years of that!!! Happy 60th Birthday Dad. YOU ROCK!!
7: LOVE | You and Mom taught us how to selflessly care... while having fun!
8: Hi Kumar, Happy birthday !!!!! This is a special birthday and at this point so many things in our life flash in front of my eyes .... How we met ??? my introduction to new foods .. sizzlers, french toast,...!! Never knew what an IIMA graduate meant... the shock I got when I saw your excellent academic records when you gave me your resume for applying for jobs to different places!! wondered whether I was stuck with a wrong fellow/nerd!!! Our life in Bombay, so many night shows, Beach, introduction to Paav Bhaji, Kala khatta, children, School admission, Change to Chennai..so much of official travel for you, our lives away from each other for six months .. you in Bangalore and me in Chennai.. still it was fun.. you visiting us on week ends and the time spent was qualitative... Our life in Bangalore in that beautiful 5th main house, our move to Muscat.. with just two suitcases... how thechildren were excited and said " Dad the house looks like a HOTEL" (because the whole house was carpeted), and our beautiful new car ( Toyota).
9: How destiny was ... we had no idea about a place called Muscat.. we had to look up the map to know where it was located... me applying for the Saud Bahwan job, on the insistence of Thyagu, I just ran to somebody's house to get hold of the Hindu paper where the advertisement had appeared.. and signed the application for you ( because you were away in Germany), you saying you were bindaas at the interview because you had gone for an interview for which you were not serious about !! How life took us..... we landed up in Muscat and have lived here not one, two or three years but a Solid TWENTY ONE AND HALF YEARS .. the best part of our life... children grew up here, went to school, went to college, started working and Monu has got married...we earned so many good friends, We could not have asked for more from God... He has been kind extremely benevolent and I have to keep thanking him for giving me such a wonderful partner and life... Thank you Sher..Lion .( you know why I call you that) ... it has been an amazing journey with you as my life partner.. ..this song aptly summarizes it. I know you hate such cheesy things... but I just have to embarrass you... Love You, God Bless Pammi
11: “In prayer it is better to have a heart without words than words without a heart.” | Pray
12: SLEEP - or at least try to be horizontal
14: Hi Daddy, Thanks for showing us how important fun is. smirks, giggles, smiles, laughs, chortles, roars | HUMOR
17: We spell hero D.A.D. | FROM SINGAPORE TO SANTA BARBARA ....
18: Even standing next to the Big B!
19: EFFORTLESS STYLE | You are our in-house style guru
21: Dad you have taught us that nothing in life means anything more than family. We're proud to be yours.
23: All our favourite memories are with you...
25: Do have any idea how much you have touched all our lives? | Shoba says...translated from her words.... " You and akka have been sent as God's messenger for me ... at a time when I was finding my life bleak... I came to work for you... After coming here I have stabilized in my life... my children have been settled... I have four Grand children now... I am a much happier and better person... I used to be so quiet and such an introvert... you both and your children have taught me to laugh and enjoy life. My children see such a dramatic change in me from what I was.. when I was drowned in my miseries. I greatly admire you both .. the love and the kind of relationship you both have... teaches me in life that there is nothing more important than have a good attitude in life. The love, the encouragement and support that you have given .. I cannot thank you in words. You will always remain in my heart and in my prayers. Wish God gives you both good health, happiness and you continue to live the same way as you do now.. and I am sure I will come and see you sometime... somewhere. The most important incident in my life was when you called me up in front of people during Monisha's wedding and introduced me to all saying I was the one who took care of Dadiji... I was touched . Please pardon me if anytime I have hurt your feelings without knowing. God bless. Shoba"
26: HAPPY BIRTHDAY FROM THE DELHI GANG! | This brings forth our kumar athimber's style of taking a party to a crescendo! | Below reminds me of my wedding shopping in which you took the lead instead of the DULHA!! - Rabu
27: All our favourite memories are with you... | One of our memorable annual family trips which included the trademark singing sessions with the unusual accompaniments(sharaab & kebab of course!) | Athimber has always been a father figure to both of us-guiding & inspiring us all along. - Totu&Chinku
28: Our most treasured family heirlooms are our sweet family memories. | Pillaiprayathile Kumar You know our father suddenly passed away following a heart attack in April 1957 at his age of 52 ! It happened in Delhi , when kumar was barely 6 yrs old . From then on till he joined the Madras Institute of Technology @ age-20 ,he grew up under my care . In 1957 he came to live with me in Bhilai . He did his schooling in Hindi medium of instruction in Bhilai . He was a brilliant pupil with tremendous grasp of whatever he was taught . Doubtless, he was class-topper wherever he studied . He completed schooling winning merit scholarship . The only ritual he did his best to resist from the age of 6 was the oil bath !! . It required the muscle strength of at least three people , me, my mother & my sister . The child of 6 or 7 displayed all his strength to escape from the bathroom ! One us used to literally sit on him to apply oil on his head & anoint it on the rest of his body . The adults who indulged in the exercise would be perspiring at the end of it all . This apart, Kumar was a goodie-goodie boy . His merit scholarship continued in M.I.T. & surprisingly in IIMA too ! See how brilliant he has been . On his birthday Manni & I convey our blessings & very best wishes for his good health, happiness & long life! May God Bless him & his whole family . Lots of love from Anna and Manni
31: Great Grandparents | Parents | Grandparents
32: more notes | Bhilai/Neiveli: Whenever we visited Perimma and Balu mama, the three of us will have a wonderful time. Kumar was always our leader ! Once Lalitha Bharathi was visiting Perimma (Dhadhiji) with her offspring Bharathi. As a group we did not care to play with Bharathi because she had a mean streak !!! (She had demolished half of our "play kalchatti cooking set" by gnawing at them during her previous visits..). But nevertheless we were assigned the task of keeping Bharathi entertained when her mother visited with the adults. Balu mama had an office Jeep parked outside which used to be one of our hang outs.. The Jeep was quite worn out and the upholstery was awkwardly sticking out in a lot of places. As our leader, Kumar came up with a bright idea. He told Bharathi that we will only play with her IF SHE WERE TO LICK THE DIRTY UPHOLSTERY SPONGE STICKING OUT OF THE SEATS OF THE JEEP. We heaved a sigh of relief thinking that he was so clever for coming up with the idea to get us out of playing with Bharathi only to find out that out of sheer desperation, Bharathi decided to lick the sponge !!!!!!!!! (Our getting into a lot of trouble when Perimma came to know about this later is another story !!!!!!) . When Kumar was about 10-12, we had all gone to Botanical gardens to spend the day. Kumar got angry with Perimma for something and he took off . At first no one worried about him. But when he didn't show up after an hour or so, everyone became very worried. We started looking everywhere but there was no sign of him. Everyone got so concerned and worried. After searching everywhere we finally found him sitting on a bench playing the harmonica and entertaining all the Ghurkas and having fun !!! (Least concerned about the rest of the family !!!!!) Madras: Kumar came to Madras to do his Pre University and stayed with us for a year. With him just a couple of years ahead of me, I lived in constant fear that I may never be able to measure up to the standards that he set ! And then one night.. Janvi, Kumar, Sheela & I were sound asleep in one room when Amma & Appa were sleeping in the other room. Somewhere in the neighbourhood, we could hear couple of cats meowing.. The next second, Kumar grabbed his blanket and started running towards Amma/Appa's room while yelling out "Peenai Peenai" . Needless to say we all followed our leader and landed on Appa who was woken up from a deep sleep. For The next 30 minutes, the house was pretty chaotic as laughter filled the room when slowly everyone found out the reason for all the commotion !! I then realized that Kumar was also like the rest of us ... with normal phobias .. in this case, a cat !! Don't know if it has changed over the years !!!!!! I can go on writing about so many more but I think I should stop now !!!! Love Shobi
34: My Dearest Chithappa, Wish you a very happy birthday! Just cannot believe that you are turning 60.. well, you definitely don't look it. :) Will try to keep my message short and crisp. After papa passed away, the one person I looked upto as a father was YOU, and the only person who ever came close to being one. Thank you for that. I realized that you are that way with everyone - warm and ever loving. We are very lucky to have you in our lives - sharing lots of joy and love always. There are very small but important things that I have admired about you, from my childhood - the way you quickly wear a sock, the smile that always reaches your eyes, your love towards family, and your simple countenance that looks peaceful! I still do.. Please stay this way always.. God bless! Love & Hugs Deepa
35: Great Grandparents | Parents | My carefree childhood Filled with joy , frolic and a whole lot of madness Made madder and more joyful by you A special uncle, who came into our lives To torture and torment With buckets of icy water in the mornings And play all the very mad games of a 10 year old Including cricket with a crazy ball Engulfing us into your life Involving yourself in ours Your music “with a boogie and a cue Broken hearted avenue” Hours at “work” cracking the Rubiks cube Would anyone believe you were married And had an important job ?? But that is what makes you YOU The fun never stops But there are many other facets too The deepest purest affection for everyone around The sincerest good wishes for all The thoughts that you express come straight from your heart Endearing you to each one who knows you Including little Snoopy who made you cry Who would believe that you are 60 ? Still a child at heart Remain so always Our most precious and special GOOMER Happy Birthday Keep lighting up lives ! - RUBYGrandparents | My carefree childhood Filled with joy , frolic and a whole lot of madness Made madder and more joyful by you A special uncle, who came into our lives To torture and torment With buckets of icy water in the mornings And play all the very mad games of a 10 year old Including cricket with a crazy ball Engulfing us into your life Involving yourself in ours Your music “with a boogie and a cue Broken hearted avenue” Hours at “work” cracking the Rubiks cube Would anyone believe you were married And had an important job ?? But that is what makes you YOU The fun never stops But there are many other facets too The deepest purest affection for everyone around The sincerest good wishes for all The thoughts that you express come straight from your heart Endearing you to each one who knows you Including little Snoopy who made you cry Who would believe that you are 60 ? Still a child at heart Remain so always Our most precious and special GOOMER Happy Birthday Keep lighting up lives ! - RUBY
37: There was an auctioneer called Chester Allen, highly humourous..( he will show a broken plate and say that was used by Sir Winston Churchill ) He used to conduct auction of furniture and household goods between 11AM and 1Noon on Sundays near Brigade road/MG road junction.Mani., Kumar and I used to go regularly for this. Any useless stuff including some broken pens etc. used to be auctioned and Kumar was the first person to raise the hand and bid. His mother who was also in Bangalore was terrified of this and would tell Kumar not to bid for any stuff. Later Mani and I used to hold his hand on either side to prevent him from bidding. When we returned home his mother will be waiting outside anxiously and will be happy to see us with empty hands, K will tell her that he bought 2 cupboards, 1 steel almirah and a sofa set which are coming in a cart. His poor Amma would believe it and Mani and I assured her that we prevented him from buying the junk. I think he got a good kick by bidding for stuff tho not needed by him!! He was after all in his early 20s. Cheers Murthy
38: When I was small, we used to live in Jamshedpur. Mummy and I would come down to Coimbatre every summer because Jamshedpur would get incredibly hot. The holidays would start with me calling Kumar Mama "Kumar mama" - strict instructions from my mother, you see! And he used to tease me a lot - so after a while, it became "Kumar". And towards the end of our stay, it would be "Dai Kumar!" Kid you not! This happened one night - April 5th, 1969. Yeah you guessed it, the night before Ruby was born. Mummy started her labour pains at night, and I was terrified with all the noise. Then Balu Mama took Her 'away' in the car. That was the end of the world as far as I was concerned. So Kumar mama decided to pacify me by telling me a 'story'. I will say this in Tamil, as that is how it has the maximum impact: Kumar: "Oru oorule oru nari irunthuthaam." Me: Mmmm? Kumar: "Athoda kathai seri." Me: "Baaaeeee!" and a fresh flood of tears!
39: Kumar (Mama) came to live with us for about a year or a bit more when I was in the 9th standard at school. I was, at best, an indifferent Math and Science student. My parents were really quite concerned about this because the next year, I would sit for my board exams - the ICSE. They were really scared about the grades I would manage to get. And so was I. Then Kumar Mama felt that he could help me. He spent many evenings explaining Math and Science to me in a way that teachers at school could not. This made me get interested in these subjects, and I worked really hard at them. To the point that I was working out EVERY problem in my Math book and could understand the whole concept of how things worked. I did my ICSE, and surprise - when the results came out, I had got 90% in Math and a Special Award that came with it! Thank you Kumar Mama. That would have been an impossible dream, without you. Love and Happy Birthday, Ani
44: THE FAMILY IS GETTING BIGGER!
45: MAHESHS LETTER
47: It's been an amazing 60 years, but don't feel wistful of the past, you have a lot of fun things to look forward to ... many more books filled with new memories... | 20 December 2011