S: Aurelia and Cassius
FC: Aurelia and Cassius: A Traditional Roman Wedding
1: The Groom I have met Aurelia once when we were both small children, and I have never heard her speak. Although she is timid, my father has ensured me that she has been well educated, as her family is blessed with considerable wealth and has paid to send each son and daughter to school. Furthermore, I’ve been told that she’s grown to be tall and beautiful, with dark hair and alabaster skin. I know that such a learned and striking young woman like this is rare, but having never conversed with her, I sometimes have my doubts about our marriage. It’s my job to make this ceremony perfect, so I’ve tried hard to get to know Aurelia as well as I possibly can without meeting her. For example, her parents visited recently for dinner, and were able to diverge some more details about their daughter. She’s not as timid as the girl I met eight years ago; she’s been toughened by her four younger brothers. She’s an excellent cook, and well liked by all of her servants. All in all, she seems to be an agreeable spouse and will provide an excellent dowry. I look forward to the ceremony next week. | The Bride I don't remember meeting Cassius at all. Even if I did, I wouldn't have imagined that one day I would be leaving my family and getting married to him. I am no longer the quiet child I was years ago. I’ve grown up to be a beautiful young girl and I am educated as well. I could have had any husband I wanted, and not so long ago I fell in love with a dashing young man. But before anything could proceed my parents told me I was to marry Cassius. I cried and complained to my mother but in the end I knew my parents had my best interests at heart. My parents haven’t told me much about Cassius except that he is very rich and is a shoe-in to become praetor, which is very impressive. I don’t love Cassius and I don’t really want to marry him. However, I am ready to give up my childhood toys and home to start a new life with him for my family. As part of the dowry my parents are sending a few of the slaves we have with me. I am glad that they are coming with me; it will help me feel more at home in Cassius’ villa. I know that I will belong to my husband and I am prepared to become the perfect wife, always heeding and supportive of his decisions, no matter what. I will do what he says, when he says it. Soon the preparations for the wedding will start and all the ceremonies will commence. Before I know it I will be married. I don’t know what to expect with this marriage, but I am hoping everything goes smoothly.
2: Mr. & Mrs. Figulus and Mr. & Mrs. Capito request the pleasure of your company at the engagement of their children Aurelia Matella Capito to Cassius Antonius Figulus Tuesday, the Second of June Two Thousand and Twelve At the Capito Estate
3: I have consulted the Auspices about when the wedding should take place, and they have told me in certainty that June 2nd is the best date for our ceremony. We'll avoid the Kalends just barely and steer clear of the half moon. | To Do: 1) Meet with Auspices 2) Pay for/ arrange Wedding Breakfast 3) Draw up tabulae nuptiales 4) Meet with Publius, my best man and the Priest
4: Based on the long standing tradition of both of our familes, Mr. Capito and I have decided to carry out the fading practice of cum manu marriage. We could have chosen the more common ritual of sine manu marriage, where the bride remains legally under the control of her father, or Confarratio, which is strict and does not allow divorce, but I want Aurelia to be a true and voluntary member of the Figulus family. With all of these preparations, I hardly have time to worry about meeting Aurelia. I hope she is at least indifferent, if not optimistic, about the upcoming ceremony.
5: The engagement party,sponsalia, was quite a lovely affair. We were very happy with the way everything worked out. all the guests that we had invited showed up to give us their wishes. We first started with the ceremonies. Mr. Capito, my father promised the marriage on mu behalf and the dowry was decided. Following that was the ring ceremony. As soon as he ring was placed on my third finger, we both felt an unspoken connection. it was as if our hearts had been merged. I did not speak but I made sure Cassi us knew I would be a supportive wife. After the ceremonies were completed, the party began. The food was absolutely divine and the wine was the best we had ever tasted. The finest wine was imported from Britain and Ethiopian performers were hired to put on a show. It was such a spectacular show , I had never seen anything like it.. It was the best engagement party ever.
6: As is accustomed, I have dedicated my bulla to the lares of my father's house, as well as some of my childhood toys. I have already tried on my wedding dress to make sure it fits perfectly. It didn't fall to my feet and we had to get it altered a little bit. I gathered all my belongings and have kept them ready. I just made sure that my wreath had been perfectly made. My mother has prepared me well for my transformation tomorrow into a newly wedded woman. I have been preparing to leave my father's house and settle into a new home. I am ready. Tomorrow my mother will dress me and my hair will be parted into a pointed spear with six locks to keep away bad spirits . My mother will also tie the knot of Hercules which afterwards only Cassius will be allowed to remove. Tomorrow I am getting married. I am ready.
7: It doesn't matter where you go in life, what you do ..... it's who you have beside you. | Dear Friends and Family We would love to thank you all for honoring us with your presence to join us in the union of our two families. Thank You for your generous gifts, they are greatly appreciated and we hope to see you soon -Cassius and Aurelia
8: We have changed over the years, but the sparkle in your eyes is as bright as ever, and my love for you is even stronger.
9: XO | The Engagement Party | Cassius The sponsalia went spectacularly. My father wasn't able to be present, so I was there myself. We exchanged gifts, among which were a silver tripod, fine wine, jewelry from my mother, as well as three white lambs. I then presented the engagement ring to Aurelia, placing it on the third finger of her left hand. She was as beautiful as my father had described, and stood proudly throughout the afternoon. Still, however, she was silent; whether this was out of respect, or because there was nothing to say, I do not know. Regardless, I now feel as if we are connected, our fates sealed.
10: love | VBI TV GAIVS, EGO GAIA
12: Our Wedding Ceremonies Consent/Courtship- At this time in Rome, when a daughter became old enough to marry, her father began looking for suitable grooms. In this "ceremony" , usually a groom would come and seek the daughters hand in marriage. If the daughter was too young, consent was given by the father. Sponsalia- An engagement ceremony or party was not a legal requirement and depended on the financial status of both families. It was a ceremony that showed public consent of the bride and groom to the marriage. Gifts were exchanged between the families and the groom placed a ring on the bride's left hand, on the third finger. At the engagement ceremony, the dowry was decided on, but was not paid until after the wedding.
13: Wedding Preparation- On the night before the wedding, the bride-to-be gave her bulla to her father, and gave her toys away to her family. The bride tried on her wedding dress to make sure it fell to her feet. Then, on the morning of her wedding day, the bride was dressed by her mother. A belt was put around her tunic. This was called the belt of Hercules. Only the husband could untie this knot. The bride also wore a flame colored veil, flammeum. The veil was topped with a wreath of flowers that the bride made herself. Conferreatio- A very detailed ceremony held at the bride's father's house. Again consent was given by both sides. The bride consented by saying " Quando tu Gaius, ego Gaia". Then the bride and groom sat on stools opposite eachother and the ceremonies continued. Next came the sacrificial part of the ceremony where the pontifex maximus, or just a pontifex made the sacrifice to the god Jupiter. There were ten witnesses to this ceremony. After the sacrifice was made, cake was offered to the bride and groom.
14: Wedding Dinner- Occasionally, after the wedding ceremony, a dinner would be provided by the bride's family or sometimes at the grooms house. at this dinner, the cake was passed out to all the guests. It is similar to the modern wedding reception. Bridal Procession- After the dinner, the bride was taken, by procession to her new husband's house. This was a very important ceremony and could not be left out. Flute players and torch bearers lead the procession. Anyone could join in for fun. While proceeding, the bride held onto her mother, while nuts were thrown upon them. The groom would then pretend to tear the bride away from her mother as ritual. Then when the procession arrived at the groom's house, the bride again chanted her consent, smeared oil on the door post to get rid of the evil eye. Then the bride was carried across the threshold by the groom and her new life started.
15: Works Cited --"Ancient Roman Weddings - Ancient Rome for Kids." Ancient Rome for Kids. Web. 13 Feb. 2012.
16: We are living happily ever after...
17: Together is the best place to be!
18: Side by side, year by year...
19: Knowing you will be with me in all my tomorrows, makes my today so wonderful.
23: “The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life.”
25: There is no feeling more comforting and consoling than knowing you are right next to the one you love.
27: It doesn't matter where you go in life, what you do ..... it's who you have beside you.