S: Story of Us: Year One
BC: Happy One Year Anniversary! | July 19, 2010 - July 19, 2011
FC: Joe and Ashley | "In the beginning..." | Joe and Ashley
1: Once upon a time, in a city full of lights, a phone rang. Somehow wires were crossed, the stars aligned ... | and a tale of a mistaken number turned into a love to remember. And so it began...
2: Ashley was trying to get ahold of her friend Jimmy but somehow dialed the wrong number. Now most people would have ignored a text from a random girl that you clearly don't know but no, not Joe. Joe decided to play along and pretend to be Jimmy. This went on for a little while until finally, Joe came clean. He was definitely not Jimmy! | This is the very first picture you sent me and I thought you were absolutely adorable!
3: They spent 8 hours on the phone the first night, laughing and getting to know each other. It was as if they had known each other their whole lives. The bond between the two grew quickly and before they knew it, sparks were flying.
4: Joe was living in NYC, working on his record deal with the Rideaways, following his dream and Ashley was in their hometown (yes, Joe lived in Rochester too!) and had a job she loved. They had a mutual love of music and once he learned how to play "Brothers On A Hotel Bed" by Death Cab for Cutie, he had her wrapped around his finger! | Joe offered to fly her out to meet him in NYC but she was scared because he had a girlfriend. She stayed away but didn't want to.
5: They kept in touch (although Joe seemed to enjoy vanishing from the face of the Earth) from time to time and eventually met in person soon after Ashley started dating someone else. She knew it was wrong to see him but she needed to see in person if there was anything there. Of course there was, but Joe being Joe, the two lost touch again. They dated other people (the WRONG people) for a few years (a few too many) until finally realizing they were miserable. As fate would have it, they both became single. Ashley spent some time in Florida with her family and against all logic, came back to New York with nothing to her name. She felt a gravitational pull to come home. She arrived back in New York in the beginning of July and stayed with a friend. One night, bored and curious, she sent Joe a message on Facebook to see how he had been. She didn't expect to hear from him but the next day while at a friend's house, her phone rang. She recognized his voice immediately. A smile formed for the first time in a long time and she couldn't believe how natural it felt to talk to him again. It didn't take long for the feelings to rush back and before she knew it, she was on her way to his house to see him. Little did she know, she'd never spend another night without him!
6: At the absolute lowest point in Ashley's life, Joe was the light at the end of the tunnel. He needed Ashley just as much. They found themselves not only liking each other, but needing each other too. Things weren't going to be easy but they were easier together. Timing for them was all wrong the first time around but now...now it was perfect.
7: Everyone has their obsession Consuming thoughts, consuming time They hold high their prized possessions That defines the meaning of their lives You are mine, you are mine, you are mine, all mine You are mine You are mine, you are mine, you are mine, all mine You are mine There are objects of affection That can mesmerize the soul There is always one addiction That just cannot be controlled Everyone has their obsession Consuming thoughts, consuming time They hold high their prized possessions That defines the meaning of the lives
9: Joe and Ashley spent every night together from then on... Their adventure was just beginning!
11: This is our year of firsts...
12: First time bowling | First Bar | First Biore Strips
13: First bedroom together | Blue paint + Christmas lights + Ghost in storage area ______________ Obama's Den | You wanted to paint the room this color!!!
14: First birthdays together
15: Joe's 28th Birthday B.I.N.G.O! | Ashley's 25th Birthday Mel's Wedding
16: Cayuga Lake 2010
17: First boat ride together
18: Wickham Farms | What a fun day!
19: First haunted hay ride, pumpkin patch, carving party!
20: December was a hard month for them all around. Things with Joe's mom were tumultuous at best and they found themselves homeless. With neither of them having a real job, things got scary really quick. They were forced to sleep in the car, live unemployment check to check and even that wasn't much. For days, they went without food, warmth and security and it really tested their integrity. Luckily, Joe's dad and step-mother offered to let them stay there for a period of time. It was awkward and at times frustrating, but they were grateful. It allowed Joe to work through a lot of personal issues and it gave the pair time to gather their bearings and begin to look for a new home. During their time there, Jim, Joe's step-father passed away. It was hard from an outsiders position to watch the man she loved go through that loss. As Joe's girlfriend, Ashley wanted to take the pain away--the pain of Jim, the pain from the situation with Ellen and also the pain of Joe's relationship with his father. That month really wore them down. Ashley found herself struggling with not being able to fix everything for him. Perhaps this was a lesson SHE needed to learn.
21: Joe and Ashley found themselves homeless again in the beginning of January and scrounged up enough money to stay in a hotel for one night. They unloaded their luggage, ate some of the tastiest cookies in the world and put on a movie. It ended up being the best night's sleep they'd had in awhile. They set out early the next day, doubtful they'd have a roof over their heads any time soon. It would be a full day of apartment hunting and with a little encouragement from Joe, they went to look at a dud that Ashley wasn't interested in even seeing. It ended up being perfect. The landlord loved them so much that he gave them the keys THAT DAY and within an hour,they found themselves on their way to the storage unit with a moving truck. It was the break that they needed and there were absolutely no words to describe how excited they were. They kept laughing and asking, "Really?" the entire way to Uncle Bob's Storage. As hard as that month had been, they were finally able to breathe a little bit. Things were turning around, slowly but surely and now life was on their terms. Joe and Ashley had come so far. Their lives could finally begin.
22: Our first Christmas together 2010 | Ho, Ho, Ho! | Ho, Ho, Ho!
24: We spent a lot of time baking! Whenever Maia was with us, there was never a shortage of cookies, cupcakes, cake, etc!
25: "When you have nothing left but love, then for the first time you become aware that love is enough." | Joe and Ashley got settled into their first home together. 248 State Route 31 Apt 3 was officially theirs! Hours of arranging and rearranging furniture, countless trips to the store and Joe's most feared question,"Where should this go?" later, ,it felt like home. The couple needed a place of refuge after the chaotic months before that. It was exactly what they needed. They didn't have their dream jobs or a fat bank account but they had the bare essentials ...and finally Tig, and that's all that mattered! Joe was able to clear his head and stumbled upon a life changing idea, Poetic Entropy. Together, they plan to start up this business in hopes of bettering the world. The rest will fall into place...
26: We worked so hard to get our first apartment together. It was worth every minute of it! | Joe was so patient with Ashley. They took about a million and a half trips to Wal-Mart and even though he complained, he went along anyway!
27: Our first concert | Freekbass March 24, 2011
29: Easter 2011
31: Mel's Wedding May 29, 2011 It was such a beautiful day and you looked so handsome! I can't wait for our wedding day!
32: "Ideas must work through the brains and arms of great and brave men or they are no better than dreams." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
33: Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else's hands, but not you.
34: Places I'd like to see with you... | Places I'd like to see with you...
36: "Okaaay" | "You know what you did." | Tsssstsssstssss | "Hi, I was calling about the gerbil." | "I'm gonna get naked and Kazaa your dad" | "Would I do insert name here ?" | "There was one song I hated!" | "I f#*@%!% blow!" | *Eyes shut dance* | "Would you rather watch 'Year One' or 'Land of the Lost?' " | "Anyone can be passionate but it
37: Tig's quaf | Worthless Fauxlex | "Who's Gayger?" | Rummikub wars | Blue Bunny Cookie Dough Ice Cream | "Would you mind sitting over there? Can I tickle your daddy?" | JARTS! | Our neighbor Dave is into some crazy shit! | "I'm gonna narfle your darkside!" | Wheel of Fortune & Jeopardy | takes real lovers to be silly." | Dance party!
40: Joey, It has been a roller coaster of a year, hasn't it? I can speak for myself when I say it was definitely my hardest year yet. I did a lot of growing and I know that I wouldn't be where I am today without you. You are my rock. You are my safe place and I owe my life to you. You rescued me from the darkest part of myself and I am so grateful for you. You showed me what it is to really find worth in myself and I can honestly say that I've never been loved like this before, nor have I loved anyone else like this. For the first time in my life, I know what unconditional love is. I knew from the night that we met that you were different from all the rest. You set some waves in motion even back in 2007 and they haven't stopped since. I adore you and I can not wait to spend many, many more years with you. Happy one year anniversary, love! "I love you as big as the sky and with all my heart!" ~Ashley