FC: Eric and Aria
1: Hello, Thank you for taking the time to read about us. We are Eric and Aria. We have been together for more than six years. We have always wanted to have children, but after struggling with infertility, we welcome adoption as the way to expand our family. We love to spend time together watching movies, talking about books, going to the theater, cooking, dining out, taking walks, and spending time with our family and friends. Eric is a kind and compassionate person. Eric is always willing to go above and beyond the call of duty and is truly a wonderful person. He works as a lawyer but his true passion is writing. Eric enjoys doing volunteer work on his own time and loves helping others in any way that he can. His relationship with my nieces and nephew is amazing and watching him with them shows me what a wonderful father he will be. Aria is probably the kindest, most caring, selfless, and compassionate person I have ever met. She goes out of her way to help other people without any thought of reward for herself. She is a natural teacher who has been nationally recognized for her work. I have seen her with our nieces and nephew and know that she will make an ideal mother. We live in a three-bedroom home in a wonderful neighborhood. There are many children and a very nice playground within walking distance. Thank you for taking the opportunity for letting us share a little bit about us with you. We know that the decision you are making is a really difficult one. My sister once said that children are a gift that are given to us. We have to remember that they are gifts and we must raise them to succeed in life and let them become who they are meant to be. Eric and Aria "Children are not things to be molded, but people to be unfolded." Jess Lair
3: Our families are our support, our friends, and so much more. We love to spend time with them and to talk with them on the phone. We know that they will always be there for us. | Family | This is us with Aria's parents, brother, sister, and their spouses and children. This picture was taken on the beach in Cape May, New Jersey right after our wedding ceremony. | This is Eric with his parents, brother, grandmother, aunt, uncle, and cousin. This picture was taken at the Southern Mansion in Cape May right before our wedding ceremony.
4: My mother is truly my best friend and I can always count on her. | My Dad shows us in many ways that he loves us. Eric is one of his best friends. They love to go to movies and to dinners. This is a recent picture of my niece enjoying spending time with Grandpa Henry. | My relationship with my brother and sister has grown the older I become. They have become great friends. We love baby sitting my nieces and nephew, We enjoy going to visit them and love it when they come here. My niece Yael can't wait for a new cousin to play with. | Aria's Family
6: This is my mother and I at her 40th anniversary party. She is a former opera singer and high school English teacher as well as a brain tumor survivor. She is one of the strongest people I know. | My brother, Keith, is only 15 months younger than me. I am proud to call him my best friend. He is always there to listen to me, support me, and give advice. | Eric's Family
7: My father is an attorney like myself and has been my inspiration as both a professional and as a man. He has always been there for me to give me good advice in both capacities. | My Aunt Wendy, Uncle Ned and Cousin Izzy are a special part of our family.
8: Friends | We love to hang out with our friends. They are an important part of our lives and we are lucky to have them. | Aria has been friends with Shoshana and Heather since elementary school and they are still close today. | Vera is Aria's best friend. They met in college and were sorority sisters.
9: Eric with Heather's and Shoshana's husbands Ryan and Danny. | Eric with his college friends Jason, Donna, and Julie. | Don and Eric have been friends since the 7th grade.
10: Our Travels
11: We love to travel when we get the chance. Luckily, both of our parents have second homes near the beach and we can visit Florida or the Jersey Shore whenever we like. We have visited Europe, Mexico, and so many other places that we have loved. We cannot wait to go back to Israel and will hopefully be planning our next trip soon with our family.
12: Jarah loves running around our house and playing tag. Yael loves to come over for sleepovers and dancing around our house. Yael can't wait for us to read her stories and have special "Aunt Aria and Uncle Eric" time. We can't wait to have her sister, Hanna, for a sleepover. | Our House
13: Thank you very much for taking the time to review our profile. We hope that you now have a sense of whom we are as a couple and will choose us to raise your child. We understand that you are making a very difficult and life-changing decision and will promise you that we will spend every day being the best parents we can be. | Thank You
14: Aria's Autobiography Writing an autobiography has been something that I have had to do many times in my life. It is always nice to reflect on the different parts of my life. I will start from the beginning. I was born in Harrisburg, PA on November 1, 1981. I was born several weeks premature and spent the first couple of months of my life in the hospital. My mother always tells the story of my older brother and sister coming to the hospital to see me wearing cowboy boots. We moved back to Philadelphia when I was about six months old. My parents were wonderful parts of my growing up years. My mother became a school nurse when I was four years old and was always looking out for us. She made sure to be there at all the important events in my life. She is someone that I talk to several times a day and is truly one of my best friends. My father is a dentist and made sure to be at all the important events. My mother's parents played an important part in my life. They lived in Harrisburg and we went to visit them often. My grandfather was very close to his brother and sisters and owned a plumbing supply business. I loved to go to my grandparents and see them. I often would spend a week with them during the summer. My grandmother was an artist who loved us all dearly. I was a quiet and shy child being the youngest of three. I would only wear dresses. My brother Alex is eight years older then me and my sister Mara is four years older then me. I had an excellent relationship with my brother. He was like a father to me and was always looking out for me when I was in trouble. My sister and I had a typical sibling relationship. We were both in dance classes and had our usual squabbles. When I went to college, my sister and I developed an excellent relationship. She is someone that I can always count on even though she is a little bossy. Being Jewish was an important part of my life. We celebrated all of the holidays but at the time did not keep a kosher home. We went to the synagogue several times a year. We also had a weekly Friday night dinner. My favorite holiday is always Passover because it was time to see all of the family and truly enjoy them. I also loved Chanukkah for the presents that would come. I was bat mitzvahed at the age of thirteen. I remember feeling so proud of the accomplishment after all of the studying. My family became more observant when my brother decided to become a Rabbi. We began keeping a kosher home when I was in twelfth grade and it has stuck to this day. I went to a private Jewish day school from the time I was in kindergarten to twelfth grade. I learned both Hebrew and General Studies. My elementary school was a place that I felt at home. The teachers were always there for me for everything that was going in our lives. The spirit of the school led me to become a teacher today. One of my favorite things about elementary school were all of the programs that were done with multi-aged classrooms. My middle school and high school were a typical experience. I decided at the age of twelve that I wanted to be a teacher when I grew up. My parents' supporting me helped me to get a volunteer position at the Please Touch Museum. The volunteer position led me to working there in my high school years. I would work weekends and summers when I did not go to camp. I was their youngest volunteer and loved every minute of it. I was also given the opportunity of volunteering at my mom's school for my senior volunteer project. These things helped confirm that I wanted to be in the academic world. I had some struggles academically in my middle school years. I was the type of student where, if I was not interested in what was being discussed, I would zone out. I went onto the upper school and got all A's and B's. One problem with being in a small school is that many of the teachers have had your siblings. It was a lot to live up to, but one of my favorite teachers, Doc, told my mother that I was the best out of all three children. I had a small group of friends that I was very close to. One of my favorite times in high school was a four and a half month trip to Israel. We went to the Alexander Muss High school in Israel. I loved being in a place that I had learned so much about. We studied both the history of the land and what it has become today. I have not made it back since then but we are saving for our next trip to see my cousins who live there. I lived in a dorm with some of my close friends from school and was able to feel independent before college. I went to Temple University for my undergraduate degree. I had wanted to go farther from my parents, but my grandfather was very sick. My college experience was a lot of fun. I joined the sorority Alpha Epsilon Phi my freshman year. I loved having a community that was away from my home. I lived in the dorms my first two years which allowed me to grow and change. I moved into the sorority house my junior year. I made many close friends that I am still close to today.
15: I made school work an important part of my life. I participated in an Americorps program that allowed me to gain experience that helped me become the teacher I am today. I student taught in a fifth grade classroom my senior year. My mentor teacher was a wonderful mentor to me. After I graduated college, I went on to teach in the Philadelphia School District. I met Eric during this time. Eric and I met on a Jewish dating website. I knew that it was important for me to marry someone who had grown up in a similar way. We met for dinner and a movie on our first date. I remember seeing him for the first time and remembering how handsome he was. Eric and I were able to talk for hours on that first date. He made me feel special and important. I was so excited to go on my next date with him. It seems like we have been inseparable ever since that time. Eric and I got very serious pretty fast. Everything felt right from the very start of our relationship. We had a long distance relationship for the first couple of years. Eric lived in Princeton while I was in Philadelphia. After my stint in the school district, I decided to take a year off and get my masters in Jewish Studies from Gratz college. Eric helped me get through my masters by proofreading all of my work. He loved to feel apart of my schooling and is still my best proofreader today. Eric is a wonderful and kind person. He is always looking out for me and trying to make my life easier. Eric is a very shy person but, once you get to know him, he can't stop talking. He is always willing to try something new and loves to try different types of food. I could not ask for a better husband and partner then I have in Eric. During this time, Eric and I did a lot of volunteering. We love to go out and help people in many ways. Eric and I would help with food drives, walkathons, and other projects. We love to go see movies and take long walks. Eric understands my need for independence and time apart. He allows me to go out with my friends and to have the quiet time that I need at times. After graduate school, I got a job teaching in South Jersey. I love being able to give students that same education that I was given growing up. I have been at Kellman for the past six years and have loved every minute of it. The other teachers will tell you that I have thirty Jewish mothers to look after me and it is true. I guess it is time to describe myself. I have brown hair and hazel eyes. I am five feet four inches tall and beat my sister by a couple of inches. I am overweight but do try to exercise and eat well. I love to read and shop. I visit the library often. I usually have a book on tape going on in my car while I am driving. I love to walk and have a hard time being in the house for a long time. I usually have to get out and find something to keep me busy. I have not spoken about some of my favorite people in the world. I have three nieces and one nephew. My sister has two daughters, Yael and Hanna, who are one and three years old. My brother has two children, Jarah and Boaz, who are also one and three years old. I love to spend time with all of them. Yael has had a couple of sleepovers that were so much fun. I have volunteered to take Hanna as well, but we are waiting until she is a little older. I just drove up to see Yael and Hanna a couple of weeks ago. When I drove up and Yael saw me, her face lit up. It made my day. We were not close to any of our aunts and uncles growing up and I want to make sure that my children and my siblings children have that relationship with me. I am looking forward to my next visit with them.
16: Eric and I bought our house in New Jersey in 2009. We have a three-bedroom home that we love. We live in a wonderful community where there are plenty of children to play with. The local playground is only a couple of blocks away. There are many things to do in the area include swim and many children's gyms. Our only regret is that it is not closer to the community in which we are a part of. We go to a synagogue in Cherry Hill. We choose the synagogue because my coworker, Ayala, belongs there. I also work with the Rabbi's wife, who I consider a great friend. We try to go to synagogue a couple of times a month. We enjoy the services and truly feel like it is part of our family. It is a highlight of the week learning from the Torah and from the people around us. All of these things and community have helped Eric and I go through the struggle of infertility. We have spent the last couple of years going through the struggle of not being able to have a natural child. This has made Eric and I stronger as a couple and have a better marriage. We have gone through the emotional roller coaster that comes with the struggle. I know I can always count on Eric whenever I need him I know that Eric will make a wonderful father because he is so kind and careful. He will be the one to help with homework. I see him with my nieces and nephew and he loves to read them stories and to play with them. When we babysit my niece overnight, he loves to read the good night story. Yael is always happy to see him and smiles that she has the chance to play with Eric. When I have Yael by myself, she always asks me where Eric is and what is he doing. All of our struggles have helped us reach the point of pursuing adoption. Eric and I came to these terms at around the same point. We realized that it does not matter if the child is ours biologically. My family has always been open to adoption and is a perfect way for us to naturally expand our family. I think that open adoption is an important part of adoption. We think that it is important for our children to know who and where they come from. I have always been interested in learning about my own family history and would not want to take that away from anyone. We are welcome to welcoming more people into our family. I will end this with our goals with raising our children. We hope to give our children the strength, education, happiness, and much more to become productive adults in society. We will love and care for our children and I know that we will accept them for who they are. We just want to make sure that they become the best that they can become.
17: Eric's Autobiography I was born on October 18, 1975, in Livingston, New Jersey. I had a relatively happy childhood in North Caldwell, New Jersey, an affluent suburb about a half-hour west of New York City, where the HBO series Â“The SopranosÂ” was set. My parents were very loving and supportive. My father is an attorney and had a small-town solo practice, where he practiced real estate law, family law, and trusts and estates, among other fields. Since he was his own boss, he was always able to take time off from work to attend all of my athletic events, school plays, and other school function, as well as join us on family trips to Florida during my school vacations. My mother was a former high school English teacher and a former semi-professional opera singer who became a stay-at-home-mother when I was born. When I was in middle school, she went back to work and became a real estate agent. My parents had a very loving relationship and were very supportive of each other. I rarely saw them fight and I've tried to use their example in my relationship with Aria. I am very close with my parents and talk to them almost every day, although I don't see them very often, since we live at opposite ends of the state. I have one younger brother, Keith, who is only fifteen months younger than me. Today, I can call him my best friend, aside from Aria. We talk on the phone at least once per week. Unfortunately, he lives in California, so I only see him once or twice per year. Keith was married last year and is also trying for a child and dealing with infertility, so we often compare experiences. Growing up, I had a small but close extended family. My father's father died long before I was born and his mother died when I was six years old, but I have happy memories of her. My father's older sister lived only one block away from us and had a daughter my brother's age and a son two years younger than them. We spent a lot of time with them and it was like growing up with an extra brother and sister. Unfortunately, they moved away while I was in high school and I have not seen them since. My mother's parents lived in the next town and we were very close with them. We spent a lot of time with them, including sleepovers when we were younger. My grandfather died when I was in my first semester of law school and my grandmother died shortly after my wedding, so I had them for most of my life. My mother's younger sister and her husband live in Minneapolis, but we are close with them. They have a thirteen year old daughter who I treat as my niece even though she's actually my cousin. She just was bat mitzvahed in June and I enjoyed celebrating with her. I attended my local public school from Kindergarten through the sixth grade and then went to a private school about an hour away for seventh grade through twelfth grade. I was very good at academics, always at the top of my class, and graduated class valedictorian. I had several close friends that I am still in touch with. I was involved in many extracurricular activities, including the concert chorale, school plays, and the school newspaper, of which I became the editor in my senior year. I even had an internship with the local newspaper for my senior project and had several articles published. I enjoy writing and became the youngest elected member of the Author's Guild of America when I was twelve years old. As I said above, my childhood was relatively happy. Unfortunately, one major setback was that I was born with serious allergies and childhood asthma. When I was younger, I even spent time at the hospital in an oxygen tent, because of my asthma. Fortunately, I was able to control it with regular allergy shots. One of my father's clients let him use his apartment in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida, so that I could escape New Jersey allergens during allergy season, and after he sold his apartment, my parents bought an apartment of their own in Ft. Lauderdale. I have happy childhood memories of us taking long road trips down to Florida for winter and summer vacations. I also had the chance to travel a lot when I was growing up and remember going on a family trip to Canada as well as two cruises in the Caribbean. I was also fortunate enough to have the chance to go on trips to Martinique, Israel, Russia, Japan, and England with various groups when I was a teenager. Another notable event of my childhood was that while I was in college, my mother developed a brain tumor. She had only a small chance of survival, but with the help of experimental surgery, was able to pull through with only minor side effects. Being Jewish was important in our family and we belonged to a local synagogue, of which my father was a former president and where my mother sang at high holiday services every year. I attended Hebrew school classes there and was bar mitzvahed at thirteen years old. We used to go there for occasional Shabbat services and Jewish holidays. We also had regular Friday night Shabbat dinners. I became more religious when I went away to college and began attending regular religious services and my parents were very supportive of this.
18: I went to Haverford College, a small liberal arts school in Mainline Philadelphia, where I majored in history and graduated with honors. I was involved with several extracurricular activities, including Hillel Jewish student group, the concert chorale, two school musicals, a school newsletter, and the community service organization. I truly enjoyed my time there and am still in touch with several close friends from college. I also spent the second semester of my junior year studying abroad in Israel at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, where I enjoyed connecting with my Jewish heritage and learning about the history of the land. While there, I made side trips to Egypt and Jordan and spent three weeks as a civilian volunteer in the Israeli army. That was a life-changing experience and I have been back to Israel several times since then, most recently for the turn of the millennium. After graduating from college, I attended Tulane Law School in New Orleans, Louisiana, where I sort-of specialized in public interest law and environmental law and graduated with a law degree. I loved living in New Orleans, especially the food and music. I have practiced law for nearly ten years now and am currently an associate at a small general practice firm in central New Jersey. I practice mostly family law but get to work on other practice areas as well. I enjoy being able to use the law to help other people, especially the less fortunate with nowhere else to go, and am happy when I can make a positive difference in someone's life. Physically, I am five feet seven-and-a-half inches tall and weigh about one hundred and sixty pounds. I have short wavy dark brown hair and hazel-brown eyes,. I am slightly overweight but am exercising to lose those pounds and am in relatively good physical condition otherwise. I tend to be a little quiet and shy in groups and not to talk much, although once people get to know me, I talk more. I consider myself a bit of a Â“do gooder and enjoy using the law to help others, and perform occasional volunteer activities, such as going on walkathons to raise money for good causes. When Aria and I were married, in lieu of giving wedding gifts, we made donations to The Brain Tumor Society for medical research, since my mother is a brain tumor survivor. I enjoy reading and usually have a book-on-tape going in my car at all times. I try to go to the gym several times a week and enjoy long walks outside. I practiced Karate when I was in law school but haven't been able to find a good studio that teaches my style since then. I enjoy cooking and love experimenting with new dishes, as well as eating out and trying new things. I also enjoy watching movies and live theater. I met Aria six years ago on JDate, a Jewish dating web site. I joined because it was important for me to date and marry someone who was also Jewish and had a similar background and values. When I met Aria for dinner and a movie on our first date, something immediately clicked. I thought she was beautiful and found her very easy to talk to and we spent several hours just talking, barely touching our dinner. I was very happy to have met her and was looking forward to seeing her again. We were exclusive after our first date and became very serious very fast. I think we both knew early on that we had met the person we wanted to marry. The first two years of our relationship were semi-long distance, since I was living in Princeton, New Jersey, and she was living in Philadelphia, so we only saw each other on weekends, but that made our time together all the more special. Aria is a one of the kindest and most sensitive and compassionate people I have ever met and truly cares about other people. She has helped me to be a much better person with her than I could ever be on my own. She loves children and has a natural talent in this area. I am always amazed at how well I see her interacting with her students and her nieces and nephew, who truly love and respect her. Judaism is important to Aria, who teaches at a Jewish day school and keeps kosher, and she has helped me to become a better Jew. I love how close Aria is with her family, who welcomed me early on, just as my family welcomed her. Aria has been very supportive of me and I have always appreciated that. I know that she is always someone I can talk with about anything and I love how she listens and offers advice when I tell her about my workday, just as I try to listen to her. We've gone though some tough experiences together, such as our struggle with infertility, and it has only made us stronger as a couple instead of driving us apart. Aria is a voracious reader and goes through several books each week. Aria and I rarely disagree and try to talk through any conflicts that we may have between us. I would say that we have a marriage in which both of us are equal partners and we fairly divide the household chores and responsibilities.
19: Aria and I bought our first house two years ago. It is a three-bedroom home in a middle-class community in Southern New Jersey. We live in a diverse community with neighbors from all races, which I would like to expose our child to, as well as many young families with small children, so they will always have someone to play with. There is a playground in our community and we are close to several children's centers. Granted, most of Aria's friends and co-workers live in Cherry Hill, New Jersey, but that is only a twenty minute drive. Aria and I tried to have a child of our own for nearly two years. This was a stressful period in our life since we were going through various fertility treatments, only to be disappointed. Aria even became pregnant twice, only to lose the baby both times, which was very hard on both of us. We've now accepted the fact that it will be very difficult for us to have a biological child of our own and we decided together to pursue adoption. We're at a good time in our life to raise children and want to start while we are both still young. We want to raise a child of our own and do not care if it is biologically ours or not. Family is important to me and I want our child to know where they came from and to know who their biological parents are, just as I do personally. I want our child to have a relationship with their biological parents instead of always wondering about them and looking for them when they get older. Of course, this is only if the child's birth parents want this as well. I will let them decide how much contact with their child they are comfortable with. We have strong family support and I am very fortunate to work for a very family-friendly law firm with relatively light hours, so I will not need to make too many changes in my work life. Aria and I both want to raise our children to have similar beliefs and values to ourselves, such as wanting to help others and give back to society. We also want to raise Jewish children in a Jewish home with Jewish traditions. At the same time, I want our children to feel free to be themselves. I don't want to push them into doing things they are not comfortable with. Finally, my family and friends all know about our plans to adopt a child. Everyone we know, including family, friends, and co-workers, has been supportive of our decision. Aria and I know that we will be excellent parents if given the chance and want to raise a child in a warm and loving environment. We hope you will choose us for your adoptive family.