S: Our Wedding
FC: ASHLEY | DAVID | 7.7.12 | CHAPEL HILL, NORTH CAROLINA
1: OUR SPECIAL DAY
2: Getting Ready
7: Ceremony | Opening Words & Statement of Purpose We are gathered this day to share in the celebration of marriage between David and Ashley. Marriage is the joining of two lives, the mystical, physical, and emotional union of two human beings who have separate histories, separate destinies. It is the merging and intermeshing of two bodies, two personalities, two individuals who willingly choose to set aside the solitary exploration of themselves to discover who they are in the presence of one another. Ashley and David, no moment is without meaning and no undertaking is without significance, so be honored and expanded by the promises you are about to make, the marriage you are about to create. In marriage we say not only ‘I love you today’ but also, ‘I promise to love you tomorrow, the next day, and always.’ In promising always, we promise each other time. We promise to exercise our love, to stretch it large enough to embrace the unforeseen realities of the future, to love in hard times as well as when we are exhilarated by the pleasures of romance. For marriage is more than just the sentimental formalizing of a feeling. It is a vote of confidence, indeed of conviction, that the romantic feeling of love will be enlarged to encompass far more than itself, that both persons will be able, in time, and within the sacred circle of marriage, to infinitely expand. In this ceremony we celebrate love come to life in David and Ashley’s lives, an outward symbol of this inward relationship, and take with them a joyful step toward its fulfillment Declaration of Intention David and Ashley, now in the time honored way I ask you to declare your intentions one to the other: Do you, David, offer yourself wholly and joyfully, and do you choose Ashley as the person with whom you will share your life, in laughter and in tears, in conflict and tranquility, loving what you know of her, and trusting what you do not know yet? Do you, Ashley, offer yourself wholly and joyfully, and do you choose David as the person with whom you will share your life, in laughter and in tears, in conflict and tranquility, loving what you know of him, and trusting what you do not know yet? Questions to Guests Although marriage is a bond between two people it is larger than they alone, and as it matures their union may be strengthened by the support of family and friends. You who witness this union, do you pledge to help uphold and affirm this marriage? Preface To The Vows Now we begin the part of the ceremony in which David and Ashley declare their love and commitment to each other. When two people make such a pledge in marriage, they create a partnership unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise made by two people who love one another which takes a lifetime to fulfill. Love is not static, but rather a continuous challenge to work together. A successful marriage depends on a willingness to give as well as receive, and to create out of separate hopes and ideals, a shared love and trust. For while marriage symbolizes the intimate sharing of two lives, this sharing must not diminish but enhance the individuality of each partner. A marriage that lasts is one which continually grows and in which each person is individually developing while increasing their understanding of the other. Vows Ashley, to reaffirm the relationship we have been building together and in the presence of our family and friends, these things I promise to you on our wedding day. I promise to explore life with you; to commit my love to you; to respect your individuality; to remember that both anger and acceptance have their place; to be with you through life’s changes; to treasure and cherish you; and to nurture and strengthen the love between us, through all the days of our lives. David, to reaffirm the relationship we have been building together and in the presence of our family and friends, these things I promise to you on our wedding day. I promise to explore life with you; to commit my love to you; to respect your individuality; to remember that both anger and acceptance have their place; to be with you through life’s changes; to treasure and cherish you; and to nurture and strengthen the love between us, through all the days of our lives.
8: Statement On The Symbolism of the Rings You bring rings to further seal these vows. These rings are formed each in a circle, representing an unending form. Love that is nurtured can be as these rings. They are a symbol of unity. Your lives are now being joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever you go, may you always return to one another in your togetherness. May you find in each other the love that all seek. May you grow in understanding and in compassion. And may the home you are establishing together be such a place of love that many will find there a neighbor and a friend. May these rings upon your hands symbolize the love within your hearts. Exchange of Rings Ashley, I give you this ring not as a bond, but as a pledge. May it encircle your finger as my love does your heart. David, I give you this ring not as a bond, but as a pledge. May it encircle your finger as my love does your heart. Unity Candle Ceremony When the two of you entered into this ceremony, you did so as two separate individuals. Symbolic of your separateness, two candles have been lit by your mothers. I would like you to allow these two candles to continue to burn because marriage does not end your individuality. Instead, where your two individual lights touch, there is created a third entity, the couple, an entity which will always burn brighter, stand higher and be more important than either individual. Now in the presence of these people as witness, you have spoken the words and performed the rites which unite your lives; I call upon you to let your individual flames flow together that the couple be created. Pronouncement of Marriage Since you, David and Ashley have joined yourselves, each to the other, in marriage and have signified your commitment to each other in the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of a ring, you are now husband and wife for life. Words of Celebration Your marriage vows have not been completed in this ceremony, but in the renewed commitment you make each day. Each day, for the rest of your lives, you will make choices. You will choose whether to be demanding, or whether to be kind and patient. You will choose whether to find fault or whether to be forgiving and steadfast in your love. In the days and years ahead, you will have to choose, again and again, whether or not to keep your love as the single most important part of your lives. Each of you have chosen the other as your life’s partner and today you promised to make your love for each other your ongoing choice. Believe in the power of love. Believe that love is the single most potent force in our lives. Love makes our burdens lighter and our joys more intense. Love from each other gives us faith in ourselves and faith in the goodness of all humanity. The capacity to love is our great chance for happiness. Embrace I invite you to share your first kiss as husband and wife. Presentation I now invite all of you to stand and join me in welcoming David and Ashley into marriage. Let their union remind us of the importance of love in our own lives. May it inspire our hearts to continually appreciate one another, as family and as friends. Introduction And now I’d like to introduce to you, for the first time as a married couple, Mr. and Mrs. David and Ashley Adamson.
15: THE RECEPTION
32: Bride & Groom
37: Something borrowed, Something blue. | Something old, Something new,