BC: Married February 25, 2010
FC: So They Say
1: This book is dedicated to the marriage of Dallen & Anna Chitty
2: Congratulations! We are so happy for you two. Our advice would be to always be kind to one another. Put each others needs first. Don't let anyone or anything come before each other. Don't forget about why you fell in love and how you felt. Keep the romance alive. Go out on dates still. Have a lot of fun. We wish you lots and lots of happiness. Love, Dad & Mom Sandal
3: Bub and Anna, You guys already have what it takes to have a successful marriage. You both love being with each other and always put the other one's needs first. Remember to always talk about what is bothering you and let it go. Don't hold grudges. You're going to have disagreements, just don't let them last. It's ok to have different opinions. But always be a team. Make time to have fun together....which I'm sure you two can do! You already both work so hard and have so much to proud of. Just always make good financial choices. Don't build up debt. Spend lots of time with your kids. Do things as a family and be involved in their activities. It goes by so fast, so enjoy every minute. And remember, always bring the kids over to Grandma and Poppa's (that would be me and your dad when you have kids) so that we can spoil them rotten. You two are on your own now! (Nah, we'll see you when you bring the kids over!) We are so proud of you and all you have accomplished already. Just remember, hard work never killed anyone, but always make time for the fun too! We love you!!! Mom & Dad
6: Be kind to one another and never go to bed angry with one another.
7: Rules for a happy marriage according to Len & Joan Chitty (Your aged grandparents) There are no set rules; you just make them up as you go along, although there are some things that are essential such as HONESTY, TRUST, and HUMOR. A sense of humor (which you two have in abundance) is so important – if you can see the funny side of life each day then life becomes fun. Remember to laugh daily and always laugh with each other – never at each other. You have to have dreams – when you lose your dreams you die inside. NEVER have regrets – life is too short for regrets. NEVER go to bed on an argument, whatever the problem, solve it before you go to sleep and Never, Never forget to say ‘I love you’ Talk to each other about everything, life in general, the world in general, your goals, your dreams, your beliefs, your doubts and fears, your mistakes and your successes, your failures and your triumphs – silence builds barriers and marriage is no place for barriers. Always honor you parents but never try to live their lives and don’t let them live yours – remember that there should only ever be two people in a marriage, parents never should be in the marriage just a wonderful support mechanism. Keep the fun and silliness of youth alive in your mind whatever your age. Will all this guarantee a long and happy life together – No of course not - that comes naturally with love and patience but it has taken us happily through almost 53 years of marriage. .
10: Dallen & Anna...First, Congratulations! We're so happy for you! The best advice we can think to pass on is to always be the first one to apologize! Even if you're POSITIVE that the other one is wrong, you waste a lot of time being mad at eachother when if one of you would just say sorry and talk about it, you'd both be happier! Remember that both of you are bringing different backgrounds, traditions and experiences to the table, which doesn't mean they're wrong, it just means they're different! Be open minded and patient with one another as you learn every little quirk about each other! We wish you the best and have fun with your new life together!!!! Love you both! Trevor and Shayla Stone
11: We have loved our marriage more and more each year. As fun as the first year was, it was also more challenging than we expected—there are a lot of adjustments—but the good times far outweigh the tough ones. It’s amazing how quickly and easily disagreements and conflicts can arise. Learn what each other needs in those situations. One of you may want to hurry and resolve the situation, while the other may need some time to think about it. It seems like everyone gives the advice to “never go to bed angry or upset,” but we have found that doesn’t work for us. Usually in a disagreement we need that extra time and rest to move through the situation. But, even when upset, we have prayed together, kissed, and told each other “I love you,” before going | to sleep. Learning how to have disagreements has been more important than trying or expecting not to have them—they’ll come. Now on the more positive side, it has helped us to know how we prefer love to be shown to us, which is usually the same way we show love to others. The book this idea comes from is called “The Five Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman. It’s not as cheesy as it sounds, it’s really simple to read and understand, and the ideas can go a long way. The five love languages (or ways in which we generally give & receive love from one another) are: words, time, gifts, touch, and acts of service. Check it out and read together—you won’t be disappointed! Marriage is a journey & a wonderful adventure! We are excited for you guys to begin!
14: If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!
15: Dallen and Anna Marriage has the ability to amplify your relationships strengths and weaknesses. Remember when you have a disagreement, which you will, don't turn it into a power struggle but instead a growing experience. P.S If that doesn't work, have lots of sex! Love and Best Wishes, Darren and Aimee Carr
16: Two of these we accomplished, one we are working on! Don't let your family get so busy that you don't sit down to at least one meal a day together.Make allowances for your spouse's imperfections as readily as you do for your own.Remember that no time spent with your children is ever wasted.
17: Dallen and Anna, The most important advice we can give you is never let money come between you. There will be times when money can become tight. Work together to solve those issues, not against each other, and always budget your money wisely making sure you put savings away for a rainy day. We love you and wish you the best through out your lives.
18: Dallen and Anna, On the occasion of your wedding, we will try to offer some advice and counsel. Although there will be a sense of celebration at this time, the occasion has great significance not only in society but also in Heavenly Father's plan for the eternal happiness of His children. A woman needs a good man and a man needs a good woman and their children need good parents. A good marriage requires selfless devotion to one another. Honor, duty and respect; these concepts when applied to life will make the ordinary superlative. Aim for the stars, make your lives more than Social Security numbers; make them memorable. In the twilight of your lives, may you enjoy the blessing of knowing that you did your best and that you have no regrets. And Dallen, our final thought. Always remember this: a happy wife, a happy life. Our love and best wishes, Granddaddy and Grandma Janette
19: Dear Dallen and Anna, Bob's advice is sweet--be sure that your spouse's happiness is the most important thing in your life. For my advice, I always remember how people would say, "don't ever go to bed mad". My advice is to go to bed, and get up the morning to sort out your problems when you're not so grumpy. It's worked for us for almost 35 years. From both of us, we wish the best for you and hope you'll stop by and see us from time to time. Bob and Shanna Burnside
21: Dallen and Anna, Dallen I’m proud to call you my best friend. You have an incredible heart and I fully trust that you will treat Anna the way any woman should be treated. Anna I set you up with my best friend because there is something special about you. I made this book made for you because I believe advice from loved ones is important. I hope that you take the advice in this book seriously and apply it in your relationship. Congratulations, I love you guys.