FC: Memories From Your MPSD Friends | June 2011
1: We're going to miss you, Joel! | "We can learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box."
2: So Many Kids, So Little Time | Joel has always had a knack for remembering kids' names. Sweetie, Honey, or Buddy pretty much covered it... | Now, is that sweetie or honey? | Riverview Rockets
3: School's out forever! | MEA Retirement Dinner May 12, 2011
4: It's all fun and games! | Congratulations on a very well deserved retirement! It's been a true pleasure to work with you over the last seven years. you've been a great friend, colleague, and mentor. See you at the Dr.... Dan Redwine | Feeling lucky?
5: Joel, Something to keep in mind following retirement... If you suspect Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder (A.A.A.D.D.), this is how it manifests itself: You decide to water your garden. As you turn on the hose in the driveway, you look over at your car and decide your car needs washing. As you start toward the garage, you notice that there is mail on the porch table that you brought up from the mailbox earlier. You decide to go through the mail before you wash the car. You lay your car keys down on the table, put the junk mail in the trash can under the table, and notice that the can is full. So, you decide to put the bills back on the table and take out the trash first. But then you think, "Since I am going to be near the mailbox when I take out the garbage anyway, I may as well pay the bills first. You take your check book off the table and see that there is only one check left. Your extra checks are in your desk in the study, so you go inside the house to your desk where you find the can of Coke that you had been drinking. You're going to look for your checks, but first you need to push the Coke aside so that you don't accidentally knock it over. You see that the Coke is getting warm, and you decide you should put it in the refrigerator to keep it cold. As you head to the kitchen with the Coke, a vase of flowers on the counter catches your eye: they need to be watered. You place the coke down on the work surface, and you discover your reading glasses that you have been searching for all morning. You decide you better put them back on your desk, but first you're going to water the flowers. You set the glasses back down on the work top, fill a container with water and suddenly you spot the TV remote. Someone has left it on the kitchen table. You realize that tonight when you go to watch TV, you will be looking for the remote, but you won't remember that it's on the kitchen table, so you decide to put it back in the living room where it belongs, but first you'll water the flowers. You pour some water in the flowers, but quite a bit of it spills on the floor. So, you set the remote back down on the table, get some towels and wipe up the spill. Then, you head down the hall trying to remember what you were planning to do. At the the end of the day: The car isn't washed. The bills aren't paid. There is a warm can of Coke sitting on the work surface. The flowers don't have enough water. There is still only one check in your checkbook. You can't find the TV remote. You can't find your glasses and you don't remember what you did with the car keys. Then, when you try to figure out why nothing got done today, you're really baffled because you know you were busy all day long, and you're really tired. You realize this is a serious problem, and you'll try to get some help for it, but firs you check your e-mail. Then you remember, you left the water running.................................. Joel, if you feel you need an evaluation for this at any point, just give me a call. Dan
6: My favorite memory of Joel is the day he revealed his true colors to me...we were standing near the main office of RV when a student wobbled up to Joel and said, "Mr. Rubin, I don't feel so good." Joel (ever so compassionately) pushed the kid over to me, and before he could say, "Tell Ms. Skubal" the kid throws up all over my shoes. I looked at Joel to find him grinning from ear to ear as he backed away, while I was left to clean up the mess. I should have been really mad, but I wasn't. There was something respectable about him dodging that bullet. Little did I know that this incident would be one in a long line of what are now classic Rubin stunts... Corrie Skubal | When I think of Joel, I will remember him saying, "Cathi, do you have a minute?" ...but a minute's just never long enough! Thanks for all you have done for the children of Riverview School. Cathi Burish
7: This won't hurt a bit... Joel was always giving me advice. One time, I received a certificate from Care Cat to fill my car up with gas after transporting kids to doctor appointments. I thought it was for real. The only one laughing was Joel...I have been gullible for his pranks. It was just that I wanted to have fun with him. I hope that I am not that gullible...ok Joel, maybe I am. BUT he was always sincere and kind to me when my son married a girl of Jewish Faith last September. He helped me understand the traditions and told me about a hupa for the first time. Joel's compassion for children will be missed in the Kindergarten Center. Happy retirement Joel. Nan Oswald
8: Sure, I can show you where to file this! | Joel, I was thinking about protesting this whole "please jot down a memory or not of good wishes" thing! I am still in denial that you will be leaving us. Just as I am not ready for Lucas to leave home and go off to college, I am also not ready for you to leave MPSD. You were one of the first people I met when I came to MPSD fresh out of grad school. We were assigned the same three buildings and we quickly became good friends. Although my assigned mentor was a school psychologist, you were much more of a mentor to me during those first few years than anybody. Grad school taught me how to be a school psychologist; you taught me how to function effectively in a school system. I thank you for that. Building assignments changed and we did not always work in the same buildings, but the friendship lasted. I want you to know that I look up to you as a professional and as a person. I'm not sure if many people realize just how much you have helped the students in Manitowoc since you have been here. Sometimes our work is evaluated by our ability to complete the proper paperwork or follow procedure more than the impact we actually have on the lives of children. Your impact has not gone unnoticed and you deserve much more credit than you have been given. I want to wish you a very happy retirement. I am sure that you will find time to enjoy yourself and make frequent visits to the "Dr." (You know what I mean) Paul Glover
9: Joel, Little did I know that when you approached me about a way to "get to know students" and "become more involved" at Jackson, it would entail missing my lunches every Thursday for the next 7 years :) ALL KIDDING ASIDE, you were right, game club has provided me with endless ways to become involved and to develop relationships with students. YOUR idea of game club has provided "at least 60 kids per week :)" with something to look forward to and a source of positivity during their day. I am proud to say I'm a part of it and will do my best to continue your legacy within the game club for years to come...I can't comment on being able to teach how to play Risk though :) I will miss walking by your office and hearing you express, "do you have a minute" and your mantra of "I remember back at Riverview" during BCT. We will have to brainstorm a new idea for the endless kids who request "Mr. Rubin" time to be rewarded by for behavior modification! You have done great things for children Rubs...I'm thrilled to know you and to have learned from you. Looking forward to a spontaneous Pizza Hut buffet lunch in the future.... In friendship, Kellea Ewen
10: "The influence of a good educator can never be erased." | Were you sent to the office again? | Joel, "You are one of a kind." You will be missed. Robin Kohlman | Joel, Here's to never having to use a "blue substitute invoice again! Happy Retirement! Deb Rhein | Joel, Thanks for all the magic you brought to Riverview School over the years. It just won't be the same without you! We'll have to get together some day and enjoy an Uncle Mike's apple pie. Enjoy your retirement! Sandy Diedrich
11: Joel, You taught me a lot about families over the last many years. You often reminded me that we always need to be patient and tolerant and families are often doing the very best that they can for their children. You helped me (more than once) through the maze of people at DHS to link me up with the right case worker or social worker or advocate that could help me find a parent or obtain a signature. Your calm demeanor always helped at IEP meetings or in situations when parents (or staff!) might have been a bit on edge about the outcome of the meeting. You are passionate about your beliefs and I truly respect that. You deserve much happiness and time to relax in your retirement. Enjoy! Cindy Fuller :) | 1:00 Friday Early Childhood Meeting | -Call Human Services! -Game Club 12:00 | "I'll do my best!"
12: I love kids! | Can't wait 'til I can retire... | Typical counselor | "When I first came to Jackson there were a couple of "therapy" games that didn't have directions with them anymore so I asked Joel if he could teach them to me. Joel was very nice and obliged. Unfortunately there was one particular game called Mountaineering that I couldn't quite grasp the concept of. I think I asked Joel to explain that game to me a hundred times...poor Joel! :) To this day I still do not know exactly how to play Mountaineering but not for Joel's lack of trying. :) Throughout my years of working with Joel, he has been an adviser, colleague, and friend. I will miss him dearly!!! Amy Pendergast
13: Memories for Joel Joel, Glover, Jirik, Geerdts and I fill out NCAA basketball tournament brackets every year...I 'd just like to say that I'm saddened that Joel won't be around anymore! The rest of the guys in the pupil services department enjoyed his donation to a free lunch at Maretti's every year! Todd Hadler Oh, the good times before Strengthening Families when we sat in the counseling office and you taught me how to play craps. A meaningful use of time that I can use for the rest of my life...prepping for strengthening families that night wouldn't have had such a long term benefit :) Tiffani Schley Joel, thank you for your dedication and awesome work with kids particularly in the area of homeless children. Best wishes and enjoy your retirement. Mike Zupek Joel had a magical way of working with a nonverbal, select-mute student by using stuffed animals. He has always shown all children his genuine love and concern for them. Joel allows children to be who they are when they are with him-accepts everyone without judgment. Terri Augustine
14: Here, take a seat on my couch... | Even though Joel never reached the pinnacle of the profession by becoming a School Social Work Specialist, his contributions to the children of the Manitowoc Public School District will be long remembered and treasured by his colleagues, and especially by the children and families of this community. I wish you the best of everything in retirement. Greg Jirik | Joel, I tried to mentor you since you came to Manitowoc 17 yeas ago. I have to say that my success was limited [:)] but I enjoyed every minute of it :). I really did enjoy working with you in Manitowoc and I want to wish you well in your retirement and future endeavors. Hopefully we can keep in touch. Take care and CONGRATULATIONS!! Sincerely, Brian Geerdts | Teachers Administrators Secretaries School Psychologists Custodians Lunch Ladies School Social Workers
15: Dear Joel, What can I say...I will miss you terribly! You have been my confidante, my sanity, my laughter, and my best friend. I cannot even count the number of times you have been able to finish my sentence (you knew I was going to say that, didn't you?) We have laughed our butts off, and I am so thankful for your sense of humor, since it is just as devious as mine....and no, it's not because you rubbed off on me. We just share a mind....and since you're retiring, I'd like the other half back now! I am crying as I write this, because I guess it is starting to sink in that you are actually leaving! I don't know what I will do without you, but "I'll do my best!" You have approached your work as your passion for people and not as a job. I admire so much the genuine kindness you show children and families. I have seen people bare their souls to you, because they know you are a person of integrity and caring. We have visited many homes together (why does it always have to be the worst one on the block or in the lot?)....I will never forget the social work stance!! I wish you a full and happy retirement. You are to be celebrated! I'm sure you will live on in this district in infamy! I will expect you to make regular field trips to visit and do lunch! Game club next summer? You are wonderful and I will miss you! Take good care of yourself! Tracy Bandt
16: Happy days are here at last, The days of 8 to 3 are past,. You've worked all your life and paid your dues, Now you get to do what you and your family want to choose. Happy Retirement/ We'll miss you. Enjoy... Lynna Widmer! | BCTs...parent interviews...evaluations... IEPs...and who can forget the traveling Care Cat! It's been a blast!! Enjoy your well-deserved retirement!!! Ellen Boldt | 1:30 Pupil Services Meeting- Central Office | Joel, I just want you to know I will miss our discussions about what's wrong with this goofy world of ours but we sure came up with some clever solutions, don't you think! Also, I want to personally thank you for the many times you've asked about my son serving overseas. I truly appreciate your thoughtfulness. Best wishes on your retirement...I'm just a little jealous...HA! Take care and I'll miss you, Connie Schneider
17: Joel, I wish you many years of doing whatever you want whenever you want! You should be very proud of all you have done for children. You are one of the most dedicated people I have had the pleasure of working with. You will be missed! Dawn
18: Tell me more about it... | 8:00-BCT Jackson
19: How does that make you feel? | Memories for Joel " Best wishes in your retirement. The MPSD will surely miss your wisdom, dedication and heart for students. Take care! Janet Schmidt I really want to wish him all the best!! Since I've been in Manitowoc, Joel has always been a very caring, concerned super social worker willing to give his all for the kids and families he worked with. He used his knowledge, intellect, and incredible problem solving skills to benefit every kid. The MPSD is losing one fine guy, but I wish him all the best in his retirement and am secretly jealous. Julie Schewe My wish for you Joel is that you never have to dream of I CARE CAT again! Enjoy your retirement knowing that you truly made a positive difference in the lives of thousands of children. From game club, to those crazy I CARE rules you helped our students feel welcome, supported, and ready to learn. As a parent and colleague I offer you a thousand thanks. Sincerely, Duane Simmons Congrats on you retirement! It was fun working with you on the initial formation of our District Crisis Team. You were an instrumental component to that committee and the safety of our students within our district. Thanks for all you have done for students. Erin Thennes Joel, Kids learn best when they feel safe, teachers teach best when they feel safe, and you have made that possible during your years at MPSD. Thank you for all you have done to impact the District Safety Team. I consider it a blessing to have known you, worked with you and my life is better for it! Thank you Michael Morgan
20: To my dear friend, Ruby: It's at times like these that I wish that I had the gift of expressing myself in writing. If I did, I would let you know in much grander terms that I think you are an amazing human being. I would express that you are one of the most influential people in my professional life. You've helped to guide and shape my practice; modeling your values and wisdom to a very "green" professional and this continues today with you as my go-to person when I'm lost or unsure. I would also state with fancy words or analogies that your friendship, care and protection brightened my days and gave me the courage to try things that I never considered possible. I would remind you of memories that still bring a smile to my face such as: the ideas from Seinfeld on how to hide under your desk for napping purposes, presenting in Mackinaw Island, the file cabinet incident and of course our quest for "Happy Land". Oh... and the list could go on, couldn't it? So instead I will use the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson to capture the essence of who you are and to remind you of the success you have achieved in your personal and professional life: "To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children...to leave the world a better place...to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded." Rubes, in every way this is you! Thank you for sharing your time, your gifts and your life with me-and all of us. I can honestly say that I am a better person because of your influence on my life. I want to wish you a relaxing, enjoyable, and fulfilling retirement. Please know, I expect that with the extra time you will have away from work, my expectation of you finding Happy Land has increased. Please call when you find it. I'm packed and ready to go! With love, Jenny Schneider
21: I care!