BC: Free to be me
FC: Sharing This Journey Through Life | MaryLou Dreis Ives
1: Hello and welcome!! As many of you know, I love quotes and short stories with a message. This book will be an attempt to bring many of my favorite quotes and stories together for the purpose of my enjoyment and hopefully yours. To start the ball rolling here goes... Success Is speaking words of praise, In cheering other people's ways; In doing just the best you can, With every task and every plan. It's silence when your speech would hurt, Politeness when your neighbor's curt. It's deafness when the scandal flows and sympathy with others' woes. It's loyalty when duty calls, courage when disaster falls. It's patience when the hours are long & found in laughter & song. It's in the silent time of prayer, in happiness and despair, In all of life and nothing less, we find the thing we call success. | Free yourself from negative people. Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and like-minded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you - people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be you - and being you is the only way to truly live.
2: This goes out to all of the people who have been broken but have been strong enough to let go. For the people who have hurt so badly that they felt they could never love again, but kept their head up. For those who feel like going back to their former lover to put all the pieces back where they belong in hopes everything would fit, but accept the cold hard truth instead. For the people that wish loneliness wasn't a part of them, but put up with it anyhow. For the people who come home with no missed calls, but smile anyway. For the people that periodically miss the past,
3: but are so much more excited for the future. For the people that have wounds still healing. For the people that have so much tied to their past relationship, but break those chains to start fresh. For the people that want to look back so badly, but focus on the road ahead. For the people that pick up the phone so tempted to call, but keep their dignity in tact instead. For the people that never wanted to let go, but had to. For the people that still believe in love even after all of the hurt their heart has endured. For all the people that gave up not because most times it's better just to let go.
4: The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame The gift is yours - It is an amazing journey and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins." by Bob Mastinel
5: I do not define myself by how many roadblocks have appeared in my path I define myself by the courage I've found to forge new roads. I do not define myself by how many disappointments I've faced. I define myself by the forgiveness and the faith I have found to begin again. I do not define myself by how long a relationship lasted. I define myself by how much I have loved , and been willing to love again. I do not define myself by how many times I have been knocked down. I define myself by how many times I have struggled to my feet. I am not my pain. I am not my past. I am that which has emerged from the fire.
6: The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. | Every human has four endowments - - self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom. The power to choose, to respond, to change. ~Stephen R. Covey~
7: Time is like a river, you cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again. Enjoy every moment of life. | Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So, love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don't. And believe that everything happens for a reason...if you get a chance-take it;; if it changes your life-let it. Nobody said it would be easy...They just promised it would be worth it. | There'll be two dates on your tombstone. And all your friends will read them. But all that's gonna matter is that little dash between them.
8: She paused on the journey and looked back at where she had come from She saw the spots where she had stumbled and gotten up again. And she was able to see how far she had come and what an incredible traveler she'd become. ~Queenisms
9: You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in the front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever... connections are made with the heart, not the tongue." ~JoyBell C
10: This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind...let it be something good.
11: Let yourself fall in love break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.
12: Whatever is happening in your life, don't pre-occupy yourself with the question Why? But rather ponder more on to Where? these events will be bringing you. Know you are being led to somewhere beautiful, beyond your present harsh reality. Once you get to the Where, then you'll know the Why.
13: Trust your heart and embrace the journey. You may make a wrong turn but your heart will get you back on the right path. Just keep making choices and don't second guess yourself. ~E'yen A. Gardner
14: Learnings in Life | I've learned that many things are not as easy as they look. I've learned that the only true failure is not to try.. I've learned that sometimes it's safest to shut up. I've learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers have followed me there. I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think. I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them, and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated. I've learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it.
15: I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but just don't know how how to show it. I've learned that you can make someone's day by simply sending them a little note. I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the greater his or her to cast blame on others. I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I've learned that it's taking me a long time... to become the person I want to be. I've learned that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological. I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.
16: A meaningful life is not being rich, being popular, being highly educated or being perfect... It is about real, being humble, being strong and being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others. It is only then that we could have a full happy and contented life Truthfollower.com
17: If you don't make the time to work on creating the life you want, you're eventually going to be forced to spend a LOT of time dealing with a life you don't want. ~Kevin Ngo You either get bitter or you get better. It's that simple. You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, it belongs to you. ~Josh Shipp
18: The older you get, the more quiet you become. Life humbles you so deeply as you age. You realize how uch nonsense you've wasted time on. When my absence doesn't alter your life, then my presence has no meaning in it. ~curiano.com
19: This is life. People will screw you over. You will fight with your family. You'll witness things that will change you forever. You'll blame new lovers for things old lovers did. You'll love best friends you thought would always be there. You'll come to realize that everyone has a past. You'll cry, you'll laugh, and you'll embarrass yourself. But then, you'll find your very own moment where none of that matters, where you can sit back and realize that crap happens to the people who can handle it and that this is who you are, and that no one should want to change you, including yourself.
20: You don't have to put anyone else down in order to stand up for yourself. You do have to stand up for yourself to keep from being put down, taken advantage of, or taken for granted again. We let people know how we want to be treated, not only by our actions, but by our inactions as well. Being non-confrontational is good, but shying away from confrontations that someone always stated will only lead to more.
21: Sometimes all we need is one person who is there... who is there without any conditions, drama or reason. Who doesn't care what the conditions are... who would run to us however far. It's great when some people go from your life... it is like cleaning out the cobwebs that surround your heart and mind and letting all the fresh energy and love in. This creates a place for all those who deserve to be in your life. Feel blessed to see them go. It's the best that can happen for your happy tomorrow.
22: For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth, there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a love somewhere to receive it. You're not as different as you think. I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination. Every man dies. Not every man really lives.
23: You can complain because roses have thorns or you can rejoice because thorns have roses. Zig Ziglar Keep in mind that the true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
24: I have come to the frightening conclusion... That I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides. whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming. J.W. Goethe
25: Everyone feels emotional pain in their lives. You can either use that to become a better & stronger person or you can use it as an excuse not to. ********** Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. ********** To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children...to leave the world a better place...to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded. ********** Don't talk unless you can improve the silence. | Strength of Character
26: Kindness is one of the greatest gifts you can bestow upon each other. If somone is in need, lend them a helping hand. Do not wait for a thank you. True kindness lies within the act of giving without the expectation of something in return. If we all do one random act of kindness daily, we just might set the world in the right direction.
27: God won't ask what kind of car you drove, but will ask how many people you drove home who didn't have transportation. God won't ask how much overtime you worked, but will ask if you worked overtime for your family or loved ones. God won't ask what you did to help yourself but will ask what you did to help others. God won't ask how many friends you had, but will ask how many people to whom you were a friend. God won't ask what you do to protect your rights, but will ask what you did to protect the rights of others. God won't ask how many times your deeds matched your words, but will ask how many times they didn't.
28: Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. ~Albert Einstein **************************** Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes. ~Sigmund Freud *************************** In seeking happiness for others, you will find it in yourself. ~Unknown *************************** Love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is a fruit of love, the verb. ~Stephen Covey **************************** Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms--to chose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. ~Viktor Frankl
29: He who fears he will suffer, already suffers because he fears. ~Michel De Montaigne **************************************** Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm ~Winston Churchill **************************************** You must be the change you wish to see in the world. ~Gandhi **************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that do not see the one that has been opened for us. ~Helen Keller *************************************** Challenges is what makes life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful. ~Joshua J. Marine ****************************************
30: If you want happiness for an hour - take a nap. If you want happiness for a year - inherit a fortune, if you want happiness for a life time - help someone else. ~Chinese proverb ************************************* Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. ~Viktor Frankl ************************************** A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes ************************************* Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated. ~Confucius ************************************ Many people are passionate, but because of their limiting beliefs about who they are and what they can do, they never take actions that could make their dream a reality. ~Anthony Robins
31: Some Good Advice To have a friend, you must be a friend, starting with yourself. The greatest hunger a person has is to be needed. Help create that feeling in others. The greatest virtue is kindness. You can't love everyone, but you can be kind to everyone. Don't try to impress others. Let them have fun impressing you. Be enthusiastic. Nothing of consequence was ever achieved without enthusiasm. Be positive. Positive people attract others, while negative people repel. You have greater impact on others by the way you listen than by the way you talk. Gossip cheapens the one who gossips more than the one gossiped about.
32: Call a person by his or her name and use it often in conversation. Communicate cheerfulness. Differences are bound to occur and can be resolved if conflict is managed in a polite manner. If you are given to making fun of someone, be sure it is of yourself. Be genuinely interested in others. Get them to talk about themselves. A smile doesn't cost anything and pays big dividends. Not only does it make you feel good, but it makes everyone else feel better too. Be the first to say, "Hello, Good to see you!" "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" The golden rule is where it all begins and ends.
33: What is Real Success? Everyone wants success, and yet they often don't know they have it. For most, it is the maddening chase toward a better way of life or more of something. More fame, power, recognition, money, or material stuff. For some, it is the understanding of a loving partner, the love of their child, or the people that they can count on when life throws them a curve. I am coming to believe that success is not more material wealth, but peace, happiness, contentment, and love. Most of all love. Real success is not to be sought after in the outer world, but discovered in your inner world. I am not condemning the stuff of life. We all want the things that life offers. But we don't need as much as we think we do. Sooner or later you will discover that real success is friends, strangers, and anyone who crosses our path. It is kindness shared, support given and received, listening, giving and caring. These will endure while your car rusts, your toys break, and you tire of the temporary gratifications that bring you what you think is real. What matters is people. What lasts is love.
34: What counts are true friends, and if you treasure these you can count yourself a success. Most of what I really need to know about to live, and what to do, and how to be, I learned in kindergarten. These are the things I learned: Save everything; play fair; don't hit people; put things back where you found them; clean up your own mess; don't take things that aren't yours; say you're sorry when you hurt somebody; wash your hands before you eat; live a balanced life; learn some and think some; draw and sing and dance and play and work every day some; take a nap in the afternoon; when you go out into the world, watch for traffic, hold hands and stick together; be aware of wonder; Think of what a better world it would be if we all had cookies and milk at three o'clock every afternoon and then laid down with our blankets for a nap. Or if we had a basic policy in our nation and other nations always to put things back where we found them and cleaned up our own messes. And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.
35: To my Children When I spill some food on my nice new dress, or maybe forget to tie my shoe, please be patient and perhaps reminisce about the many hours I spent with you. When I taught you how to eat with care, plus tying laces and learning your numbers too. Dressing yourself and combing your hair, those were precious hours spent with you. So when I forget what I was about to say, just give me a minute or two. It probably wasn't important anyway, and I would much rather listen to you. If I tell the story one more time, and you know the ending through and through, please remember your first nursery rhyme, when I rehearsed it a hundred times with you. When my legs are tired and it's hard to stand, or walk the steady pace that I would like to do, please take me carefully by my hand and guide me now as I so often did for you.
36: He Is Just a Little Boy He stands at the plate with his heart pounding fast. The bases are loaded, the die has been cast. Mom and Dad cannot help him, he stands all alone. A hit at this moment, would send the team home. The ball meets the plate, he swings and he misses. There's a groan from the crowd, with some boos and some hisses. A thoughtless voice cries, "Strike out the bum." Tears fill his eyes, the game's no longer fun. So open your heart and give him a break, For it's moments like this, a man you can make. Please keep this in mind, when you hear someone forget, He is just a little boy, and not a man yet. by Chaplain Bob Fox
37: As You Travel Through Life As you travel through life there are always those times when decisions just have to be made, when the choices are hard, and solutions seem scarce, and the rain seems to soak your parade.. There are some situations where all you can do is simply let go and move on Gather your courage and choose a direction That carries you toward a new dawn. There might be adventures you never imagined Just waiting around the next bend, And wishes and dreams just about to come true In ways you can't yet comprehend.
38: Perhaps you'll go places you never expected And see things that you've never seen, Or travel to fabulous, faraway worlds And wonderful spots in between! Perhaps you'll find warmth and affection and caring and somebody special who's there To help you stay centered and listen with interest to stories and feelings you share. Perhaps you'll find comfort in knowing your friends Are supportive of all that you do, And believe that whatever decisions you make, They'll be the right choices for you. So keep putting one foot in front of the other, And taking your life day by day... There's a brighter tomorrow that jut down the road - Don't look back! You're not going that way!
39: The Price They Paid - the 56 men who signed the Declaration of Independence and their fate 5 signers were captured by the British as traitors, and tortured before they died. 12 had their homes ransacked and burned. 2 lost their sons in the revolutionary army, another had 2 sons captured. 9 of the 56 fought and died from wounds or hardships of the revolutionary war. They signed and they pledged their lives, their fortunes, & their sacred honor. What kind of men were they? 24 were lawyers & jurists. 11 were merchants. 9 were farmers & large plantation owners, men of means, well educated. But they signed the Declaration of Independence knowing full well that the penalty would be death if they were captured.