S: Lauren Birthday Book - 2013
1: Full of Joy Full of Life Full of Love Full of Kindness
5: To my Lon on your 50th Birthday You were special to our family from the day you arrived - the first and only girl on your Dad's side of the family for almost 50 years! You proved to be even more special as time went by, charming everyone with your dimpled smile and winning ways, bringing so much fun and laughter and love with you wherever you ventured. You handled your brothers with a finesse beyond your years - remember how you convinced Martin that the green and yellow fruit gums were the best, and that you were graciously prepared to relieve him of the red and black ones in exchange? I think he was 18 before he discovered that the black and red ones were the really desirable ones. Barry and I watched as you grew and matured into the loveliest daughter any parents could have dreamed of, and had no qualms about your ability to fend for yourself when you set off for New York, knowing that your warmth, sense of fun, and generosity of spirit would draw people to you, and that you would never want for friends to care about you wherever you might be. And here you are today, fifty years old, and as gorgeous as ever, with a loving husband and three extraordinary children who love you to bits. I have always told you that I'm sure you must be the best mother in the world. Who else could make even a trip to the dentist into a fun experience? I am constantly amazed at the myriad things you manage to accomplish, all with such aplomb, while at the same time being there, with such warmth and love, for the rest of the family and all your friends, and all without missing a beat. Whenever I arrive in your home, every preparation will have been made to make me feel totally welcome and at home, with every wish foreseen, a list of suggestions for what's on in New York, my friends alerted, and of course the route maps you prepare each day pointing me in the right direction. Your generosity, thoughtfulness, love and concern are boundless, and something I truly treasure. I am so proud of the beautiful, caring and accomplished person you have become, and may the laughter we share fill the years ahead. Shine on, my Lon.
6: MY SISTER The Upper West Side has become our new home (While our country of birth now seems foreign) Familiar features, Congenial creatures, And nobody more so than Lauren. Delivered exactly five decades ago, This object was screeching and dribbling; It lived in a crib And threw up on a bib - A most satisfactory sibling. Since then we have seen some adventures indeed; She's my ally in leisure and labor, My therapist, coach, BFF and hostess, Adviser, bartender and neighbor. Both sides of the sea, and New York end-to-end From the Battery to the Apollo, A classier sister I couldn't have wished, With many more decades to follow!
8: Stunning Lauren shares her joie de vivre with her brothers | 3 + 1 beautiful children and 17 years later, she is still as exuberant as ever! | The meeting of two great minds, propping up yet another David.... oh, and the kids are smart too. | The beginning of a wonderful intertwined journey of cousins and aunts. One might say, a Long and Winding Road. | Lauren and Gillian take Washington by storm! If only someone were listening. | Matisse, eat your heart out. Picasso, no competition. Lauren and her sisters-in-law are a work of great art!
9: To Lauren, The über-sister –in-law of the Upper West Side! We have had quite a journey together over the past, I refuse to say how many, years. With me just a few steps ahead of you in age, and you a few steps ahead of me in everything else, we have been a formidable pair. From birthdays and bar mitzvahs, to dinners and dreams, we have shared them all, even joint custody of our children. Thanks to you, we have travelled together around the country and around the world, with our families, and sometimes just us girls. Some of the trips were just fabulous, and others were sublime; you figure out which was which. I sometimes wonder where the Katz-Heymanns would have been without you. Sacha might have starved (seems improbable), Dan would have been without too many things to mention (very probable), and I would have been out on the street begging for patients (but only in the good weather). We also would not have had nearly as much fun. As the doyenne of your Upper West Side Salon, you have become legendary. Forget art and literature when you can have a gourmet meal on 104th St. (Well, I suppose if Woody Allen showed up to discuss movies, you'd probably let him in, even if he didn’t bring a dish). All your parties, big and small, have sparkled with food, drink and song late into the not-so-wee hours of the morning. Lucky are those who snag an invitation (or are related to you). As they say, you are generous to a fault. You are the only person I know who goes shopping for a bar mitzvah dress, and comes out with a shirt for your mother, a scarf for your friend, and a dress for your sister-in-law (somehow you still manage to look great on the day). Lauren, you have been my family, my friend, my advisor, and my confidante. You made chemo more manageable and loss more bearable. And for that, I am eternally grateful. I hope we have many more years of vacations, theater, movies, searching for the perfect restaurant and the perfect haircut, together. I won’t go up the London Eye with you, but to continue the festivities, I will meet you near the Trevi Fountain in May. PS: Things don't really go downhill until age 54. So enjoy! Happy Birthday
12: Dear Lauren One of my fondest memories of you is when you told me one day "I had a dream last night that you and Alki would get married and I would be a bridesmaid" Well that dream came true and that was almost 37 years ago! I love it that our families are still so close - I hope this will continue always and that we will continue to play a significant part in each others lives - we are up to the 4th generation! Happy 50th birthday! We wish you a wonderful day, year and continued health, happiness and fun with with those lucky enough to be your friends and family Love as always Sue and Alki xxx
14: Dear Lauren, You really are my second mom. For as long as we’ve been nephew and aunt, you’ve put food on my plate, clothes on my back, and an extra roof over my head. On countless occasions you have treated me as nothing less than a 4th child. You’re always there when I need a helping hand, someone to talk to, or an audience for a joke. For 16 years you’ve been nothing but caring, considerate, and loving. I guess all I can say is, to my favorite, most culinarily-, comedically- and athletically-talented aunt (yes, I said it), lots and lots and lots and lots of love from your absolutely favorite nephew. Happy Birthday Sacha.
15: HOW LAUREN INFLUENCED ME: BOYS, VICES, CAREER: BOYS: AFTER A WEEKEND OF HEAVY MAKE OUT ACTION WITH A BEARDED FRIEND, THE MONDAY MORNING DEBRIEF CALL WITH LAUREN WAS DISRUPTED WHEN MY LIPS (LITERALLY) PEELED OFF; AS PER USUAL, LAUREN SAVED THE DAY: COURIERED OVER HEAVY DUTY NIPPLE MOISTURIZER SHE WAS USING FOR BREASTFEEDING CHAFING (BELLA) THAT WE SLATHERED ALL OVER MY LIPS – PAVING THE WAY FOR FURTHER HEAVY PETTING AND A FUN FEW WEEKS. YAY! VICE (LAME, BUT THIS IS FOR PUBLIC CONSUMPTION): SNEAKING IN AFTER SHABBAT DINNER SMOKES ON THE SIDEWALK OUTSIDE THE APARTMENT ON 86TH STREET (AND BEING CAUGHT BY GRANDFATHER BARRY AND SHAMED SHAMED SHAMED) CAREER KICK STARTER: MY PATH TO EMPLOYMENT BEGAN WITH LAUREN, WHEN AT AGE 5 (TAG TEAMING WITH LYNETTE AT A SEDER) SHE CONVINCED ME TO LEARN TO READ . AND THE REST IS HISTORY. SHE CONTINUES TO HOLD SUCH IMPORTANT SWAY AND INFLUENCE, FYI. MARK
19: O QUEEN OF TUTTUTTEN! THE ROCK OF THE KIBBUTZ SELFLESS FRIEND SUPERSTAR PARENT (to all the Kibbutz kids!) WE SALUTE YOU WE LOVE YOU HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Lots and Lots of Love Ronald, Judith, Max, Zoe & Ziggy - Anna Quindlen on life: “I show up. I listen. I try to laugh. I am a good friend to my friends, and they to me. Without them, there would be nothing to say to you today, because I would be a cardboard cutout.”
21: Alon, Li, Lenny and Noah
22: TO DEAR LAUREN 45 years about of knowing each other Spanning some 4 generations from Cape Town to New YorkBut historically our Grandparents knowing each other, then our Moms meeting at Wynberg Junior some 70 years ago and still dear Friends. Then My mom introducing Your dear Dad to Bea , Lifelong friendships . Meeting you at my late Granny Mary s House in Rondebosch at the tender age of you being about 3 years old To Menorah Nursery school with my sister Suzanne, Laur, Lolly dearest Lauren, My friend , adopted sister, family in the early years of living in NY in the late 80 s I was reminded recently of puffer jackets , when I purchased a hideous one when first in New York , and Lauren somehow diplomatically telling me to dump it. A FRIEND who goes beyond the call of friendship. Being the organizer , helper support in a moment when the ceiling collapsed in my rented apartment , Laur finally took me under her wing and schlepped around up town , downtown and made a decision for a new home for me when I was battling with decisions. The friendships Lauren shared , the people you have brought together Enriching all our lives. Laur has been the centre of so many Lives. From the early friendship days of going out, going away in a group with David, Barry, Steph myself, Gigi , Tracy a constant in the background Cooks , Andrea , Gillian meeting Dan through your connections. Lisa and your Bella and Lola being friends. The circles and threads connecting you to my life and so many others lives all around the globe. Laur Not withstanding you are your wonderful familys Mama , Wife ,Daughter Niece , Sister , Sister'in'law, aunt ,etc So a good woman , not even a question. A friend to laugh with , Have fun with , cry with and just be with. The one and only Laur, who I miss but know that you are there . In my trips back to N.Y , your embracing my children and making time for me in your busy family and work lives. The fabulous Israel trip celebrating Gidons Barmitzvah brought together your fabulous Aunt Rene and Uncle Charles and family from Sydney . David s Orre family as much a part of you as your family., The Dear Katz family where Lorna and the late Toffy always made us all feel welcome in their home. Happy Happy 50th Dear Dear Laur.,Your Love , Care enthusiasm and Interest In all that goes on in our lives . A BIG TOAST TO A FRIEND FOR ALL SEASONS 4 generations , and counting .... KATHY ACKERMAN ROBINS CAPE TOWN 2013
24: Lauren, you are a special and amazing friend. I'm sure your generosity and dedication as a friend has been covered off on a lot. I wanted to say how much I have learned from you as a parent. You taught me how to honor the children we have, not the ones we might want. You brought this to life so vividly when you told the story at Aaron's Bar Mitzvah about him playing in the park with a balloon tied around his waist so he could venture further. It is something I think about a lot in parenting, and something you appear to do intuitively. It's beautiful. Love, Ingrid
27: “Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art...It has no survival value; rather is one of those things that give value to survival.” C.S. Lewis (1898-1963) Ange and Lauren met in the small kiddies playground in Central Park, NY around the ‘turn of the century’! Ange excitedly came home telling us that she met the sweetest, most gentle South African mommy of a similarly aged child and could not believe her luck! “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” C.S. Lewis (1898-1963) We soon struck up a friendship with Lauren and David and have tried over all the years, the miles, the time zones and all of life’s circumstances to stay in touch, simply because it is so worth it, even when it is only for a minute!! Lauren is just SO kind, gentle, calm and consistent. Lauren is always just beautiful Lauren, with those gorgeous, bright big eyes that smile at you constantly! We all wish Lauren the most wonderful 50th Birthday and wish her magnificent health and masses of happiness for at least another 50 glorious years!!! With our fond love and affection, Andre, Ange, Grant, Graysen and Blake Shearer | LAUREN HEYMAN, OUR DEAR FRIEND, WHOM WE MET THROUGH OUR BOYS!!
28: Lauren: I am pregnant Sharlene: Rubbish!!!!!! Hard to believe that was 10 years ago. Can't wait to see what this big decade birthday brings. Love the Karma Living gang.
31: To Dearest Lauren Happy 50th birthday,we cheerfully extend. To the most wonderful person, and loving dear friend. We hope all your wishes, certainly come true. Our bond and our friendship, through the years just grew. Happy 50th birthday, with good health that shall last. May joy fill your heart, when you think of the past. Your values and dreams, we shall always support. These words and this poem, is forever too short. Happy 50th birthday, to us you are dear. You bring joy to our souls, whenever you're near. Till the end of our days, our friend you'll remain. You've turned only fifty, life’s beginning again! | With all our love and best wishes for a special birthday Adrienne and Brad
32: FOR LAUREN on the OCCASION of HER 50th BIRTHDAY | What a woman! What a wife! What a mother! But to us the Ringlers, what a wonderful friend- always generous, warm, loyal and so caring and concerned. A true woman of valor! 50 is the new 30!!! This is the start of a great decade. Lauren we wish you a very happy healthy 50th birthday!
33: Lauren I don't even remember the moment we met ... you are one of those people I feel I have known all my life. But I do remember barging into your hospital room with Joan hours after you had just given birth to Gidon ( we really didn't know each other well yet) and you were do gracious and warm! Believe me, I would not have been so sweet! It was at that moment that I know you were absolutely a very special lady! We continued to force our way into your life- joining you in Israel for Gidons Bar Mitzvah, and always made to feel special. You have that amazing warmth and caring for those around you- always looking to do things for others. I hope we can share many more wonderful milestones together, can watch Bella and Lola grow together. I wish you only joy, good health, love and nachis from your beautiful children! Much love Lisa, Noah and Lola xx
35: Dearest Lauren, Some memories I treasure: At your wedding a number of your friends thought I was your Mom. What a lovely compliment! Our "tea time" together. (we will now need to find another venue) Your visits for both the good and tough times the happiness I feel when we are together THE ESSENCE OF LIFE IS TO CARE THE SECRET OF LIFE IS TO DARE THE ADVENTURE OF LIFE IS TO LEARN THE CHALLENGE OF LIFE IS TO CHANGE THE JOY OF LIFE IS TO LOVE. LOVE YOU LOTS ----may today and your next 50 years bring you, along with your family, JOY, HEALTH, and LOVING Hugs Ruth
40: Fall 2006: LAUREN and CAL outside ABC Carpet. LAUREN: Come, we’ll just pop inside. I’m looking for a rug for the living room. CAL: You want to go here? LAUREN: Is that a trick question? CAL: No. It’s just... Well, I would have gone to Bloomingdale’s. LAUREN: Am I an amateur? They have nothing. CAL: Bloomingdale’s? LAUREN: Bloomingdale’s, Macy’s... Nothing. CAL: Well, what kind of rug are you looking for? LAUREN: A nice rug. CAL: Can you be a little more specific? LAUREN: Inviting but cozy. Tasteful but will stand up to children. CAL: Modern or Oriental? LAUREN: Possibly CAL: What size? LAUREN: Square. Or rectangle. But not too big. Well, it depends on the coffee table. CAL: Because? LAUREN: Don’t you think we’ll put the coffee table on the rug? | CAL: I guess. How big’s the coffee table? LAUREN: We haven’t bought it yet. CAL: Well, what color rug are you thinking about? LAUREN: That’s simple – something that goes with the couch. CAL: What color is the couch? LAUREN: We haven’t decided yet. Repeat: 2007, 2008. Fall 2009: LAUREN and CAL walking on Broadway outside of Barnes and Noble. CAL: Any luck with the rug? LAUREN: Nothing. What do you think about a circular rug? CAL: Once you’re elected President. LAUREN: You see what I’m up against. CAL: You know I had this friend in high school, Janis Weiner. Her mother was always looking for the perfect lamps for the living room. All the time I knew her – we could never sit in that room after dark. LAUREN: So what you’re telling me is ... you don’t like our chandelier? Here’s to 50 more years of making wonderful choices..... Love, Cal | Mrs. Orelowitz Decorates Her Dream House
41: ...we are always happy to see Lauren. She is incredibly warm, smart and beautiful...and a proof that you can look great at 50!! ...And most importantly...she is the coolest mom. Carlos and Larry. :)
44: Love, Jonny M.
46: Lauren She shines in each of her many facets: mother, wife, daughter, sister, aunt, sister-in-law, cousin, friend, colleague. I am privileged to call her my friend. Our relationship is one sustained over many years by coffee dates. Given the quotidian nature of these coffee dates, I was stunned to see her ‘dressed’ for Aaron’s barmitzvah. As Bea put it, ‘She cleans up well.’ Thank you for being who you are: for your grace, your empathy, your humility, your love, your conviction, your passion and your sense of humor. I am grateful for the moments that we share and look forward to many more decades of ‘coffee’. Love, Sharon Anstey | Dearest Lo, Wishing you another 50'ish Years on this planet. Look forward to spending them with you as we come full circle, back into diapers and chopped up food. Even though we don't see so much of you, we adore you....your kindness, honesty and generosity always shine through. Thanks for including us in your circle. Happy happy birthday "young lady". Love light and laughter always Sandy and Mark | Dear Lauren, Who knew that we, who were casual co-workers and neighbors on the UWS would become such great friends. The transition started with a purple folder and a "bible" that you wrote and we edited. So many coffees where we started out talking about work and after time moved on to the personal. I count on your counsel both professionally and personally. Your friendship means the world to me. I love you, Valerie
47: Love from John and Diana
48: Dearest Lauren What can one say about you on a page Lau? You have so much within you that is so incredibly resourceful and strong, loving and generous, wise and intuitive. To know you and have you as a friend is truly a blessing. You have enormous capacity to be there 100 percent for those close to you. It is both a gift for you and those in your circle. So many New York memories float around in my head for before then you were Marty's older sister. A birthday brunch for you in New York on the 8 Feb 1998 when we didnt show up. I just had to nip down to Mount Sinai and give birth to Rudi that morning. The worry about infertility ...... still not believing you were fertile after Aaron's birth! Lots of late nights out with our men arguing energetically over so many things and loving it..... whiskey and ice flowing. Did we have to drug ourselves at that stage? You are an awesome mother and wife and whatever you do , you do it with such enthusiasm and courage. Your mental and physical tenacity and stamina are an inspiration to us all. We love you loads Have such a special 50th birthday on that very special day 8 Feruary 2013. Lots of love Deb, Jonny and family
53: Phenomenal Woman By: Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size But when I start to tell them, They think I'm telling lies. I say, It's in the reach of my arms The span of my hips, The stride of my step, The curl of my lips. I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me. I walk into a room Just as cool as you please, And to a man, The fellows stand or Fall down on their knees. Then they swarm around me, A hive of honey bees. I say, It's the fire in my eyes, And the flash of my teeth, The swing in my waist, And the joy in my feet. I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me. | Men themselves have wondered What they see in me. They try so much But they can't touch My inner mystery. When I try to show them They say they still can't see. I say, It's in the arch of my back, The sun of my smile, The ride of my breasts, The grace of my style. I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me. Now you understand Just why my head's not bowed. I don't shout or jump about Or have to talk real loud. When you see me passing It ought to make you proud. I say, It's in the click of my heels, The bend of my hair, the palm of my hand, The need of my care, 'Cause I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me. | Dearest Lauren, You are a phenomenal woman and mother. You have been an excellent example of how a virtuous women should be like. I thank you for allowing me to be apart of your life and your family. I adore you simply because of who you are. Happy birthday you big girl. God bless you always. With lots of love, January