FC: Baby Book | By:Dhwani Patel
1: Baby Book Project | By: Dhwani Patel
2: In less than a month of my existence, my mother discovered she was pregnant with me. She was 29 years old when she had me. Because they’d already had my brother, they were really adamant about having a girl. Pregnancy, as my mother described it, was a breeze, because she’d already been through it once. She was very watchful of her health, only wanting the best for me. Thankfully, my mother never had a taste for alcohol or smoking (she still doesn’t), so I was never exposed to any teratogens of the sort. She tried to keep her diet as organic as possible and ate a plethora of different fruits and vegetables. Because my mother was a vegetarian, she looked to nuts, legumes, and yogurt to provide plenty of protein.
3: "A precious baby has come from above to live in our hearts and fill them with love." | She did admit to a lot of morning sickness and inability to eat for long periods of time due to nauseousness. After 9 long months, I was finally born on October 9th, 1997 by c-section. Indians typically name their babies based on their astrological sign. For me, my name had to start with a D or an R. Few hours following my birth, my mother had decided to name Dhwani a common name for girls, which means sound, or the sound of rain on a roof in Sanskrit. My nursery was dominantly white, brown, and black because it belonged to my brother before me and my parents didn't want gender specific colors for the nursery.
4: I was 9 pounds at birth, and 21 inches
5: Comparatively, most of my statistics fall between the average range. My parents had attempted to get me to walk at around 9 months, but they were oblivious to the role that maturation played in my first steps. Maturation is the biological progression that plays a rather imperative role in development. This means I had to learn how to sit up and crawl before I could start walking. Similarly, my parents were eager to begin potty training me at around 20 months. They became frustrated at times and often wondered what they were doing wrong, and yet again, they were ignorant to the concept of maturation. Before becoming fully potty trained, I had to be able to control my bladder as well as cognitive skills that allowed me to know when I had to use the bathroom.
6: By definition, puberty is the process in which the body undergoes changes to allow for reproduction. Females develop breasts and experience menarche whereas males undergo a deepening of the voice as well as growth of body hair. To me, it seems to be a period of self-discovery and coming to terms with reality and adulthood. Because adolescence involves physical, emotional, and mental maturation I don’t believe it occurs at a fixed point for all because as cliche as it sounds, we’re all unique individuals exposed to different environments.
8: It’s a quite strange experience to watch your friends. One in particular developed rather early. She became shy and self-conscious, watching the portions of her meal, making comments that indicated that she envied the rest of us. Although she was offered support and comfort, she insisted that no one understood her situation. She became distant and eventually sought friendship from an older crowd. Though she seemed content with her newfound friends, there was still an untouchable barrier. Despite the fact that her body was as mature as theirs, her mentality was indicative of her true age. She sought attention and became involved with certain groups for the wrong reasons.
9: Another friend watched those around her change and transform, silently waiting her turn. She grew impatient, convinced she was different, that she’d never be accepted by her peers. She didn’t exhibit the same social skills as her friend. She was neglected by most boys who only seemed to adore and admire her friends. The people she once called friends seemed to be slipping from her very grip. After what seemed to be a lifetime, she began to notice changes, physically and mentally. The social and mental skills that once seemed foreign to her had finally found her. Because she had more time to mature mentally before she matured physically, she was able to make better and thought-out decisions concerning her romantic and social life. Though both friends suffered a period of loneliness, the early bloomer suffered a disadvantage, while the other friend benefited from her late maturation.
10: As a child I was very eager to grow up, not wanting to wait for all the rights of a full-grown adult. That soon changed as time progressed. Story after story, my schemas of adulthood changed and caused to me to develop a Peter Pan-esque attitude towards growing up. This was expected as teenagers are typically more fearful of aging and death than adults. Of course this doesn’t hold true today. Although now I look forward to the opportunities and freedoms associated with adulthood, a small bit of the Peter Pan still remains.
11: First Word: Dada, 7 months Dada meant dad or grandpa in my native language. According to my parents, I spent a lot of time with my grandfather who would repeat dada continuously until I would repeat it back to him. This supports Skinner’s theory of language acquisition that people have to be taught how to speak. I did not have any odd phrases or words that I repeated as a child. I did not have any speech impediments. I progressed through all the stages of language formation without any difficulties.
12: I was most attached to my mom, because she stayed home to take care of me while my dad was out most of the day for work. I was very demanding of her attention and became upset if she averted her attention to my brother or anyone else.
13: Imprinting is the formation of tendencies based on what is perceived from the environment and the caregiver. Imprinting is something that occurs in several species of animals, but cannot be performed by humans. I did not form any attachments with any objects. My favourite toy was a mini kitchen set. Though it could have been appealing towards boys, it was quite obvious that it was made to entertain girls. When I’d ask my brother to play with me with the mini kitchen he’d refuse, justifying his decision with “playing kitchen is for girls”.
16: Piaget’s theory of cognitive development seems to be realistic and accurate based on my own experiences. My habit of placing things into my mouth as a baby allowed me to create schemas as to what can and cannot be eaten. I was always in the company of books at a young age. From the ages of 2 to 4, my reading consisted of associating words with colorful and clear images. This allowed the formation of language schemas. Later in the preoperational stage, reading evolved to reading complex sentences and being able to interpret the simple underlying meaning or feelings associated with the words and sentences. As I progressed into the concrete operational stage, I developed the ability to conserve. I could recognize that one cookie and a cookie split into two were equivalent to each other, an ability I failed to exhibit in the preoperational stage. The formal operational stage was accompanied by the ability to reason and process things in a more abstract manner. At the age of 11 I was acquired the ability to translate a word problems onto into mathematical equations, or to analyze a book by identifying literary terms such as mood, setting, and themes.
17: This comic exhibits adolescent egocentrism as the boy appears to be thinking from a very narrow-minded and egocentric view on what makes life unfair.
18: I was an extremely self-conscious middle schooler. I was thoroughly convinced that everyone was watching my every move, judging my every action. This perception of imaginary audience lead me to stay within my comfort zone, and I regularly avoided anything that could potentially embarrass myself. I would avoid dancing at parties and eventually parties or social gatherings in general. I briefly slipped into a state of antisociality from the ages of 12 to 14 because of this self-consciousness.
19: Infants are typically classified as either difficult or easygoing. This refers to the personality of an infant. Difficult babies were typically described as being fidgety and unpredictable in terms of sleeping, feeding, and diaper changing, whereas easygoing babies were quite the opposite. My parents describe me as a very difficult baby. My parents complain about the sleepless nights they suffered due to my incessant cries throughout the night. I would rarely sleep in my crib and demanded to be held and continued to cry until I received what I wanted. My parents described me as being a very sassy, opinionated, and justice-seeking infant. I was always the first to stand up in a situation when someone was being treated unfairly. I feel as though my temperament as a child reflects my personality today. Today, I am still very opinionated, though I tend to internalize most of my opinions out of the fear of offending anyone.
20: In a generation where excessive stress among teens has become a normality, some teens have begun developing mental disorders that were somewhat of a rarity in the generation of our parents and grandparents. However, aspects of our culture have made it possible to view these mental disorders in an almost glamourous fashion, allowing young and impressionable minds to see these serious disorders such as depression as “trendy”. Romanticizing mental disorders is an issue that I've seen frequently and occurs in front of my eyes on a daily basis. As a friend to someone that was actually diagnosed with clinical depression, I've become more sensitive to this issue. More often than not, this happens over social media such as Twitter, Tumblr, and even Facebook. Ironically, some people view depression as a beautifully sad thing. These schemas of depression and insecurities come from movies, books, or even music that describe a beautiful depressed girl being saved by a boy, or how a boy falls in love with a girl that is highly insecure of herself. To some young girls, these insecurities can equate to love, attention and affection, therefore some showcase their
21: insecurities in hopes of receiving attention. Social media plays a vital role in this issue. Often, you can find tweets reading, "If I get a 1000 RTs I won't commit tonight". Not only does this insult those that are actually suicidal, but it allows others to see how much attention you can receive if you just pretend to be depressed. Tumblr has also accumulated a large community of people that are actually depressed in addition to those that claim to be depressed. As delirious as it sounds, some people have a desire to be a part of that community and often equate minute amounts of sadness as depression just to fit in. It becomes dangerous to the point where it becomes hard to distinguish between the people that actually have a mental disorder and those that simply pretend for attention. Most of us learn quickly to recognize that some of these people are simply attention-seekers, but in the process we might encounter a person with an actual mental illness and brush them off as another attention-seeker. This shows that I am in the post-conventional stage of morality because it is an opinion that I hold regardless of whether it is accepted by society or not.
22: Nature vs. Nurture | Nature vs. nurture is a topic that has been in debate for quite a while now. Personally, I believe the two work harmoniously. The nature perspective of this argument focuses on the genetic predispositions whereas nurture focuses on environmental influences. Neither would exist without the other. For example, according to my family history, I have the ability to be very tall, but this may be restricted due to environmental factors. In addition, I was born with light skin, yet my skin has darkened over the years due to the environment. In my opinion, neither nature nor nurture presides over the other, but each exist to complement the other.
23: Bibliography http://www.babycenter.com/0_developmental-milestones-sitting_6505.bc http://www.babycenter.com/0_developmental-milestone-walking_6507.bc http://www.babycenter.com/0_teething_11243.bc http://www.babycenter.com/0_infant-potty-training-what-it-is-and-how-to-do-it_1745035.bc http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/baby-teeth/AN00355