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1: Welcome to the story of Steve and Drew! We appreciate that finding the right family to place your child with is difficult. We are so thankful to you for taking the time to allow us to share our story with you. We can't wait to hear your story and learn about you too! | Drew and Steve
2: We met thirteen years ago, in February 2000, when Drew was living in East Texas, and Steve was living in a small town in Oklahoma. Steve had recently moved to Oklahoma from Canada to work for the Indian Health Service. Drew was completing his nursing degree. The relationship was long distance for a year, until we both moved to Dallas in February 2001. | Drew is the dreamer, and Steve is the realist. Drew is very outgoing, and Steve a little more reserved. Drew is the kite, and Steve is the string. Our opposites work well with one another other and we have a great relationship based on honesty and love. We both want each other to achieve the best that they can, and be the best person they can be. | Our Relationship
3: We feel very lucky to have found one another. We share the same values, morals, and beliefs. In December of 2013, after thirteen years of a committed relationship, we will finally be getting married - now that marriage equality has been passed in our home state. | In September of 2001, our loving dog, Beamer, was born. We are blessed to have him in our lives and know he will make a great companion for our child.
4: Meet Steve Steve is an Optometrist, who loves his career, but also loves his time off. He works to live, as opposed to living to work. He loves to travel, whether it be to the other side of the world or within our home state. Steve also loves to ski, go camping, and loves amusement parks - the scarier the ride the better! Movies are an important past time, as is hanging out with friends and family. | Fun Facts About Steve Raced Quarter Midget race cars from age 8-16 Squared Danced from age 8-18 Is Canadian, but has lived in the USA since 1995 Loves Christmas! Can't relax for long periods of time...he always has to be doing something! Has jumped off the Stratosphere building in Las Vegas Is a serious vacation planner - Especially if it involves a cruise! Loves Ketchup potato chips - It's a Canadian thing
5: Steve's Story So far, I have to admit, I feel I have had a pretty good life. I was raised in a great family, with lots of love and attention, and had the type of childhood that I wish my own child to have. I grew up with my older sister and mom and dad, near Vancouver, BC, in a suburb where kids could just be kids. I played soccer, joined the Boy Scouts, and generally filled in most of my free time with activities. Apparently, it was my parents' overall plan to keep me busy, so that I wouldn't fall in with the "bad crowd." My parents raised me well - to be ethical, moral, hard-working, caring, and independent. We were raised Anglican, which is very similar to the US Episcopal, and we went to church for many years, until our Sunday's became busy with my Quarter Midget car racing. Although a fun sport, I also learned many of life's lessons through racing - teamwork, sportsmanship, reasoning, dealing with disappointment and more. When we were not racing on weekends, my family camped significantly, and attended the annual Square Dance festival in Penticton, BC every single year until I was 18. This yearly camping trip is in fact one of my most favorite memories. After graduating high school, I flew across the country to Ontario, Canada, to attend college, and then started Optometry school in Oregon in 1995. Although my parents helped me pay for my education significantly, it was also expected that I worked hard every summer and put everything I made towards my schooling. During Optometry school I was privileged enough to travel on four eye care mission trips to Jamaica, Brazil, Mexico and Kazakhstan (Kazakhstan in the winter was SO cold). These mission trips changed my life forever and made me appreciate what I had in my life so much more. continued on next page...
7: After Optometry school, I moved to Oklahoma to work for the Chickasaw Indian Tribe. It was while I was in Oklahoma that I met Drew, and we moved to Dallas, Texas, where we adopted our dog, Beamer, bought a house, and enjoyed our life together. In 2007 we decided to move to Washington, DC, where we lived only four blocks from the White House. In 2010, we moved to the Pacific Northwest so that I could be closer to my family. Sadly, this was a year after my mother passed away from Ovarian Cancer. I think the passing of my mother really taught me to live for the present and not put things off for the future. I think this is part of the reason why Drew and I live life to the fullest and cherish times with friends and family. Sadly, you never know when things will change forever. We love to travel, and recently returned from an adventure of a lifetime in the Antarctic. Our future travels include the Galapagos Islands later this year, and Australia sometime in the next few years. My family has also started to plan more vacations together and I look forward to those times greatly. I feel that my upbringing and experiences allowed me to develop into what I honestly feel is a really good person. I find myself to be very caring, honest, ethical, and very hard working. I always strive to do my very best at things, and I always look out for other people. I can not wait to become a parent one day very soon and begin to raise our child with the same great value system, upbringing, and love that I was lucky enough to enjoy.
8: Meet Drew Drew is a Registered Nurse and after many years of working in the Emergency Room (he has some crazy stories), he now works as a Clinical Nurse Educator for a pharmaceutical company. He received his Nursing degree in the year 2000, and continued his studies to achieve a Masters Degree in Human Resources Training and Development. Drew loves spending time with friends, going to movies, and going to the theater (especially to see the musical, "Wicked"). He loves to travel, but is an avid reader and is just as happy curled up by the fire with a good book. | Fun Facts About Drew His favorite color is purple He grew up in Mexico from age 5-16 (and is fluent in Spanish) His favorite day is a cold, rainy, dark day and loves thunderstorms He looooooves Harry Potter! He looooooooooves Christmas even more! His favorite animal is the bear - black, brown, polar - he loves them all equally! His favorite flower is the Texas Bluebonnet He truly feels Disneyland is the happiest place on earth!!!
9: Drew's Story If you only knew how difficult it is for me to put "me" on one page! I am definitely the "extroverted talker" and I would much rather be in person in a park overlooking some trees and just have a conversation with you! So, hopefully that will happen! I was born to an extremely right-wing religious family who moved to Mexico to live as missionaries when I was 5 years old. Although I grew up no longer holding the beliefs and traditions that my parents have, I was forever changed by the experience of growing up in Mexico. I was raised to be fluent in Spanish, but most importantly, I learned tremendous life lessons that I will hand down to my children - compassion, honesty, integrity, empathy, and determination. I have four college degrees; I love school and I could easily be a professional student! I love to take continuing education classes just for fun - whether it be a sign language course or a cooking or photography class! I am a Registered Nurse and have also obtained a Master's Degree in Training (which is my passion). I love education and have chosen to work in the pharmaceutical industry. I currently educate patients living with Multiple Sclerosis, on how to live with their disease, overcome obstacles and live their lives to the fullest. I am an avid reader and keep every book that I have ever read in a library in the house. I can't wait to read to my children! I love Disney, Harry Potter, and Christmas, so when those things are combined (Disney/Harry Potter Theme Park in December), well - my mind is blown! continued on next page...
11: When I met Steve over 13 years ago, my life took on a whole different meaning. No one can be more in love with their partner than I am! I respect him greatly and he has taught me so very much. We have a very loving relationship that is most definitely built on trust, values, and mutual encouragement. We are the perfect compliment to each other in terms of our personalities and likes/dislikes. I am definitely the out going one who loves to have a good time and never backs down from a challenge! Our biggest passion in life is traveling. We have been all over the world and definitely intend to take our children right along with us. We want to instill in them a sense of community, not just in their neighborhood, but in the world - a sense of social responsibility - to teach them about the religions, beliefs, politics, and values of others. We have already started researching how old babies need to be to go on a plane, cruise, and rides at Disney! I have family members and friends who are adopted and I have always had a passion to adopt - even from a very young age. Steve and I entered into our relationship knowing that one day we would try to adopt children. The time has come! We have prepared as much as we possibly can - enjoying baby classes, CPR courses, buying some baby toys and clothes, and preparing the eventual nursery. I can't wait to meet you! I hope you like what you see in our story and that we connect! Our adoption counselor, Heather, always reminds me: "Drew, don't worry - just be yourself, because what happens in the end is that all the stars align, and your words will connect with the heart of a certain birthparent and they will connect with you, and they will know that you and Steve will be the perfect adoptive parents to their bundle of joy" - and she's right!
12: We live in a small community of homes in a suburb outside of a major city. Our community has kids playing in the street, neighbors visiting each other on a Sunday afternoon, and a nice playground for kids to play in. | Our Home
13: There are abundant parks nearby that are great for walking, fishing and even boating. We live in one of the best school districts in the state, and specifically chose this area to live because we knew we were adopting and wanted access to great schools. | Our neighbors right next door have a three month old, and the neighbors beside them have a one month old. The community is full of young children, and we look forward to our children playing together in the years to come.
14: We love everything about winter. We love the snow, the cold weather, and we especially love Christmas. In fact, Drew starts playing Christmas music on the 1st of November every year (ok, in mid-October sometimes too)! | Our Favorite Things
15: We have a passion for traveling, and exploring the traditions and values of other cultures of the world. We want to use that knowledge to always remember how many viewpoints there are in the world, and allow us to always appreciate what we have in our lives. | Of course, when our love of Christmas and travel collide...well, no one can resist Disney at Christmas. We have unofficially made this a tradition we try to keep at least every couple of years. We cannot wait to take our children here!
18: Family and friends are extremely important to us. We cherish the relationships we have, with not only our birth families, but also the relationships we have with our "families of choice." | Family and Friends
20: Our child (and hopefully children) will be raised in a nurturing home full of unconditional love. We will teach them the value of hard work, and work to instill the best morals and ethics that we possibly can. Raising a child with positive self-esteem will be an absolute goal, as will raising one who will be a contributing member of society. | We would like to instill the values of church in our child, in an atmosphere of inclusion, as opposed to the exclusion found in some churches. There will not be religious overbearance, but instead learning the valuable lessons that church can teach us. | Dreams For Our Child
21: As we raise our child, we will keep them involved in several sports and activities, to allow them to find their passions and enjoy their life. We hope to travel extensively with our child, both internationally and locally. Travel will expose our child to all different life situations, and many different cultures. If the other cultures we experience are less fortunate than ours, this will help our child be appreciative of what they have and learn the importance of helping others. Specifically, as Steve has done many Eye Care mission trips to several disadvantaged areas of the world, we will certainly take our child on one of these mission trips as well. We also want our child to have an extremely fun life. We will spend quality time together, teach our child to ski, ride a bike, fly a kite and overall have a great childhood that leads to a happy and successful adulthood.
23: Our Open Adoption Aspirations Ever since we met thirteen years ago, we always knew that we wanted to adopt. When we learned of open adoption, we knew that this was the type of adoption we wanted. What better way to raise our child, than knowing where they came from and who they are. By having the birthmother/parents in the child's life, there will never be the hole in their heart that some adoptive children can have. We wish for the birthmother/parents to be an important part of the child's life. We realize that this will mean different things to different birthparents. We are very open to allowing the relationship to unfold as it may, depending on the wishes of the birthparents. We would love, however, to become close with the birthparents, and enjoy them in our lives as great friends...knowing that they too have a desire to see our child grow up having the happiest childhood possible, and grow into a caring, responsible, and loving adult. It is our belief that the more people who love and care for a child, the better that child's life will be. We are so excited about our own open adoption becoming a reality, and thank you for spending your time reading our story. Steve and Drew