S: Celebrating 65 years~Barbara Jean Clemons-Reid
BC: Life Verse: Psalm 119:11 "Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee." November 24, 2011
FC: Barbara Jean Clemons Reid Celebrating 65 Years
1: When I was 7 and Barbara was around 13, she, Jacque, Cousin Pat and I were playing church upstairs in the front bedroom. I was the preacher and I was doing a pretty good job of imitating my Dad. We were singing and clapping and stomping and the whole sanctified routine. Suddenly, Barbara was convicted with her maturity and insight to stop playing around so much and have church for real, so we started praying and having what we called back then "tarrying service". To make a long story short, I received the Holy Ghost! I spoke with tongues. Barbara, knowing we being just kids would probably not be believed so she had the idea to put me on the phone as I spoke so several church members could hear. That is probably one of the greatest memories I have. Benii Clemons | *Photos contributed by Anna Shelton* | People say that Barbara and I favor one another--we look just alike-the only difference is our age and that she doesn't have a moustache.. She is more intelligent but I work well with my hands. I left home when she was in High School but, I remember on her high school graduation I was supposed to pick her up and take her to the school but I was running late. She and Inez got on the bus and left without me. When Inez and I first got married, Barbara came over and helped us decorate our house. Inez recalled living a couple of blocks away (in California) and one day she heard running footsteps and loud banging. Something was wrong with your restroom and she came running over to use ours. I remember that we never had any cross words. You are my little sister Barbara. Lloyd (and Inez) Clemons | "Nov 1946: Dad and Mom rushed their seven kids out of Villa Ridge so the eighth one wouldn't be born in that forsaken place!! We made it just in time! Not sure the date in 1957...Barbara was in charge of testimony service on the stairwell at 3325 Bond Ave. Attending the service was Jackie, Sis Pat, Sis Carrol, Bennie, and I think Sis Sheila Dotson. The service was high in spirit and very anointed as we were praising and singing to the glory of God. The anointing fell on Bennie and he started speaking in tongues and glorifying God." Harold Clemons
2: A FEW OF THE PRECIOUS MEMORIES I SHARED WITH BARBARA Wow! I have SO many wonderful memories of times Barbara & I shared, it’s difficult to select something and call it special. Like: That trip to Jamaica – we had a wonderful time in Montego Bay, but when we got to Kingston, our hotel had burned (most of it) and they put us up in rooms that had a heavy smoke smell. Half of the place was closed off and there were NO amenities. We were soooo glad when it was time to leave, but it was still a memorable trip. Living with Sister McClure in an apartment that took up the whole floor of the building. Barb & I had our own little apartment inside their big apartment. I remember helping Barb learn how to hold her knife and fork for those wonderful dinners Sister McClure cooked for us (as though we were royalty.) Buying clothes at the Pint Size Shop. We had our own special saleswoman (Harriet) who dressed us as if we were her own daughters. Saturday morning walks along the lakefront. When we got to “The Point” at 55th St. (The Point had been taken over by Native Americans until the Army came in and “rescued” the area. They fenced it in with steel wire. Armed soldiers stood/walked guard inside the fenced in area.) Barb & I used to flirt with them and say all kinds of silly stuff because we knew they couldn’t come out. They had weapons, but we weren’t afraid because that fence was between us.
3: But I think my fondest memory is when Barbara was preparing to marry Chuck. She wanted a beautiful wedding with all the trimmings, but neither of us could afford it. So we compromised and put together what I think was a beautiful occasion. She found a gorgeous gown on sale. I bought the cake and she did the best she could with the punch and refreshments. By that time we were living in a studio apartment. The main area was 13’ X 20’ and we had to accommodate everyone in the family in that small space. I don’t remember where the “boys” stayed, but all the “girls” stayed with us in that apartment for the weekend. Mother & Jacque came from California, Nadine (our former sister-in-law) and Louise came from E St. Louis, Anna and Carla (who was just a toddler) came from Harrisburg. When it was bedtime, we issued sheets and pillows to everyone. Then we proceeded to roll up in our sheets on the floor. We were lined up like mummies. Just getting to the bathroom was a fete in itself. Stepping over bodies in the dark was quite a challenge. When it was time to cook, we had no utensils large enough, so we had to go shopping for pots. And we had no place to eat (Usually Barb & I just brought our food into the main room and ate on our laps. It was fun for us, but not the kind of situation one expects when they are weekend wedding guests.) But that was just what we did. We had a small sofa, a table, and a couple of folding chairs from church. Nobody complained. We had a wonderful time. The wedding was beautiful and everything turned out perfectly. Margaret Clemons
7: Dear Barbara, We (Leon & I) wish you a very wonderful, special 65th birthday!!!! I have so many warm and happy memories of our growing up together. The first one that comes to mind is in Lebanon when we were pretty small. You remember how Mother use to get us cleaned up in the afternoons on summer days? I remember this particular day, after we were bathed and had on cute little short sets, we decided to go outside and make mud pies. Mother was very upset with us when she saw our muddy clothes. She sent us to Daddy, who was busy in his garden, to tell him what we did and get our punishment. I think he tapped us both on the bottom one time and told us how disappointed he was in us, and then sent us along our way. That’s the only “spanking” I remember getting from him. I also remember how mother always dressed us alike, so people often thought we were twins. As you began developing, and I was still skinny; mother had a seamstress make some really cute suits for you. I remember feeling quite envious, but you really did look so good in your specially-made outfits. I actually envied you more than you knew. I loved how you fixed your hair, the clothes you wore, your mannerisms, and even the great cartwheels you could do around the yard on Bond Ave.! I really “looked up” to you. I adored you then, and I adore you now. Happy Birthday, “Big Sis”. As always, I’m right behind you!!!!! Love always, Jacque (& Leon)
8: Thoughts of and for the Most Beautiful Girl in the World As I think about this Thanksgiving, there are many things that come to my mind. The first is thankfulness to God for the gift He has given to me. I didn’t deserve you and I don’t deserve you, but in spite of my faults and failures, He knew what I needed and that is you. There are many traits and characteristics that can be mentioned that highlight who you are. Many people have observed you and have commented about those traits and characteristics. I could also use the Holy Scriptures to describe you. Proverbs 31 has an apt summary of your skill sets and attributes. I want to go beyond those words to the thoughts that have caused me great joy for over forty-four years. The words to me that describe your character include Beauty, Strength, Loyalty, Devotion, Kindness, Peace, and Love.
9: A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long. She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing. She's like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises. She's up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she's put aside, plants a garden. First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started. She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She's skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking. She's quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor.
10: She doesn't worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks. Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile. When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise:
11: "Many women have done wonderful things, but you've outclassed them all!" Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-GOD. Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praises! Barbara, you are very special to me and I thank God over and over for the gem He has given. Please accept my heartfelt love which I hope gives you peace. If I had forever, I am not sure that I could say what I feel
12: Reflections of Dr. Esther Ruth Reid November 2, 2011 Bishop Brazier, during his time on earth, opened up to me many things that I had not known nor had a prior insight on really. What a blessing is God’s grace! More than 68 years ago, I like Hannah, prayed for a son. As I prayed I promised God if He gave me the son, I’d give him back to the Lord. Well, the Lord heard and answered my cry! I began to pray that I would be able to provide proper schooling for him in every way. I started early and went so far as to pray about the young ladies he was being drawn to. He did quite well in school and girls were drawn to him, which kept me praying and watching the young women. One day, however, teaching in Gary, Indiana, and attending church in Chicago where Bishop Brazier was Pastor, he saw a young lady to whom he found himself being drawn. After watching her and feeling that she was a different young woman than those he had seen in our youth meetings in the Council, he called and told me to pray with him and for him because he felt the Lord had told him this was a commendable one to pursue further. Well, he was able to get permission from her sister with whom she lived and who had brought her from California, and to whom she was accountable, to begin to “court” and go out with them both – because older sister was definitely a chaperone . Well, the young saved man wanted to ask the older sister if he could bring her home for his mother to meet because he had been given the word from the Lord that this was to be his “wife” forever! The older sister, whose name is Margaret, had made herself responsible for her younger sister. Well, Margaret called me and questioned me thoroughly, before she allowed Bro. Reid to bring her sister to our country-farm home. Our girls put on a real “show.” Their favorite brother, of whom they were as proud-as-peacocks, had a for-real-girl with whom he was in love and it seemed he wanted her to marry him! Well, our girls only knew the old-time Ohio District Council girls of the Pentecostal Assemblies of the World, Inc. (PAW) and no one so cute and well dressed as she. But of course if this was God’s choice for their big brother and the Great God of Heaven was in charge of all of this – we all had to “step up the plate” as is said and get behind the purpose of God. Dad Reid had met and knew Dad Clemons from seeing him at the PAW conventions. Mother though had borne a large family of 10 children and didn’t take out the time for conventions. We were however very good friends of Mother Clemons’ youngest sister and her husband, who was at that time assistant pastor to Bishop Scott in St. Louis, Missouri. Mother Scott passed away. As I sat beside Sis. Ivy at mother Scott’s funeral we talked. We discovered that she was aunt to a niece who was married to a Reid. Well, we began to giggle and punch each other – as we found ourselves not only old PAW friends at the conventions but also we were really sort of kin folks too.
13: It is truly a small world; especially as we Reids went on to learn. We would soon be one big happy family! I dearly love a family but now I have no brothers or sisters at all! I am actually the only one left of 18 children because I lost my baby sister, Dorothy (Dee-Dee) last year. And I am quite happy to be a part of the Clemons bunch. Margaret, who has long been my “buddy” since we first met, is a real friend of mine. One year (by this time Barbara and Chuck were very, very happily married), she (as always) agreed to allow him to take a bounty from his salary and the entire Illinois crowd went to spend a week in Maui, Hawaii! Was that fun – I’ll say! Of course the husband and his happy little wife gladly put us on the home-bound plane, and they stayed to enjoy a second honeymoon alone! They happily agree to entertain others; but they are happier to just be the two little “love birds” by themselves. Barbara, I am not sure what is planned for your memorable 65th birthday, but what ever it is it will be enjoyable, because aside from God, you are best and foremost in your husband’s life and he plans “big” and thinks more than big! Enjoy your 65th birthday and all that your husband has (beside his love) for you and I’m so happy to have a daughter like you. I love you so much. You, as a young woman who has lost your mother, have taken me on like I was your mother and you have allowed Chuck to hang on to me and as a girl you’re so extremely thoughtful – and making the daughter-like suggestions that he’d never even think of for an old lady – only a young good looking wife would make (of course I know that all those thoughtful things come from you!). Even giving to what has become my physical cares; not letting me too far out of your sight no matter where we are! Barbara, you are the way you are to such a high degree; that every one thinks you are my blood born daughter and that’s a cute way for it to be – because all 3 of us are Reids and as cute as you are I’m pleased as can be to be said to folks (because you look a bit like this old lady), “Yes, she’s my daughter.” Because I rarely ever say “daughter-in-law.” You and my favorite child, given to each other by a gracious God, are “one.” So I just have two favorite children!! Whatever your lover has planned as a birthday present, enjoy it! It will be something he has planned and thought of to show his love for a lovely wife whom God has given him; and a daughter whom I love as much as I love him. So enjoy your birthday, you two love-birds, and your two children, whom God has given you in answer to prayer! I love you and I’m as proud and pleased as can be to have you as my daughter. God bless you and I love you so much it’s unthinkable (a new word for me), Mom Reid
14: I have so many memories of the past 20+ years that I have known you, Sis. Reid. We have shared many private moments, some were serious and thoughtful and many were funny and comical and I have, and do, treasure them all. We think a lot alike and that has created a bond between us that I cherish. If I had to describe you in three words, it wouldn’t be easy to do, but the three words that come immediately to mind are “WOMAN OF GOD”. W is for “Willing” I know that if I have an issue or a person I need prayed for and ask you to join me in that prayer, I can count on your willingness to pray and that really means a lot to me. I also know that you would never ask anyone to do something that you would not be willing to do yourself. As a matter of fact, on many occasions I have witnessed you cleaning windows, or vacuuming in order to make things look presentable, rather than ask someone else to do it. You are always ready and willing to do what needs to be done. O is for “Organ Player” I get such enjoyment out of listening to you play the organ at our services because I know the effort comes from your heart and a love for God. You have used the talent He gave you for His glory. M is for “Marriage Counselor” You believe in the sanctity of marriage and along with Pastor Reid, have a beautiful gift of sharing God’s Word with couples who need help in sustaining a relationship as well as couples who are embarking upon a life together. The thing that uniquely qualifies you is the obvious love that exists in your own marriage. You teach by example. A is for “Author” You have a marvelous grasp of the English language and have used it to pen a beautiful, inspired book which has been an encouragement to all who have been blessed to read it. I have personally gleaned much from your writings and I thank you for your godly insight. N is for “Nurturing” You have a nurturing nature, a calmness in your spirit that encourages those with whom you talk, to look within themselves for the gift that God has given each of us. Even when we don’t see our gift, your nurturing spirit reassures us that it is there. God speaks through you.
15: O is for “Overcomer” I have witnessed you on many occasions when I knew you were in pain or not feeling well, but you just forged right ahead with whatever task you needed to do. There have been times when you were going to sing and your sinuses were giving you fits, but you just did not let the enemy deprive you of singing God’s praises, which made me appreciate your efforts even more. F is for “Feminine & Fastidious” You are in every way a lady and a wonderful representative for godly womanhood. You always look put together and stylish and modest. You are fastidious about yourself and your surroundings. You are an excellent example for all of us to follow---you are Godly in your appearance and manner. G is for “Gracious” As with all of us, I know there must be times you might want to yell or scream because of a situation, but because you are so gracious, you hold your tongue. There is a good lesson in your behavior for all of us, since words once spoken can never be taken back. O is for “Original” You are an original---no one like you before or since. God made you in His image, but with your very own uniqueness. While your talents are many, you are not boastful about them. You simply use each of them to glorify God and enrich the lives of others and you do it so effortlessly. D is for “Dedicated” Your dedication to everything you do is admirable and to be envied, whether it is cleaning the fingerprints off the front window, preparing food for our ladies’ meetings, organizing the music for Sunday’s service, working with the youth or working with the D.A.R.E. ministry, or supporting your husband, the dedication level is always 100%. All of this to say that my life has been enriched because of our friendship. You have set the bar high for all of us to aspire to. I love and respect you as the First Lady of Bethesda Worship Center----you do us “proud” and I love you for the friend that you have always been to me. I am a far better person for having known you. GOD BLESS YOU! Sister Jerilyn Solberg
17: My Mother, The Epitome of Class, Grace & Taste All of Your Love & Lessons Taught Simply Can't be Replaced! And the Comfort You Provided Me Within Your Embrace Kept Me Going While Growing Up The Problems You Faced Due to Race & Trying to Raise Us Right The Steps I Retrace As I'm Thinking On Your Love for Me Glows on My Face Cause it's Tangible, I Touch it Plus I Smell & I Taste I Don't Ever Have to Doubt it Cause I'm Sure & I'm Safe! Under Protection From the Prayers That You Have Sent to Gods Face I've Been Blessed with Guidance & Reproof That Can't be Replaced! So on the Day that God has Set Aside For You, Plead My Case Barbara Jean Clemons Reid Just Keep on Running Your Race! Happy 65th Birthday Mom I Love & Appreciate You For everything That You Are & Have Done Your Loving Son, Chris
19: A special birthday greeting from Evg. Carolyn Butler | I only knew Barbara a short time in Troy, Ohio, but in that time I remember her being a beautiful person inside and out. Barbara was and is a very attractive woman, more important, she is a kind person and a true Christian. Mike and I wish you a Happy Birthday!!!! Barb Foster | A Memory Of Barbara Reid- by Nancy Nalbandian Sister Reid, Looking back at the last several years, I have a very fond memory of when you were attending Oakton Community College and you decided to help some of us helpless women in the area of our health and weight control. I remember first meeting together in March of 2001 and each week on Tuesdays for a long period of time. You encouraged us and inspired us to do something to gain better health and also deal with our emotional outlook and challenges. We were successful and enjoyed sharing our triumphs with you and each other. It meant a lot to have someone who cared and would take the time to get us going in the right direction and cheer us along. Those were special times and I want to thank you for being a mentor and supporter. | Sis. Reid, the first time I met you, I saw a Friendly,Godly, Special person. A person who loves the Lord and tries to be obedient to His every word. I will always remember that you always ask, Is there anything I can do for you? (Godly qualities) Today is a special day; because you are Special. May this Birthday be just one of the Best yet; because God has many more Special Days ahead for you. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! Sis. Kyle
21: One of the things that I most admire and appreciate about Sis. Reid is her willingness to share personal experiences whether good or not with the congregation in a way that inspires understanding, compassion and growth. In addition, she addresses many issues that people are faced with in annual presentations and discussions via the Women's Ministry or special church educational workshops. She gets to the heart of matters. I believe the Lord has used Sis. Reid to bring about deliverance in many areas of people lives that gives help, hope and healing. I also have to include Pas. Reid when I speak of Sis. Reid and visa versa as they really are as "one" and complement each other so well as they live out the concept of marriage as God intended. Thank you for opening your heart and allowing the Lord to use you to be a rich blessing to others. Have a wonderful and blessed birthday and many more! With Love, Your Sister in the Lord. Gail Wharton | My memory of Sis. Reid was the year 2007, we were preparing to move and she offered to help. I thought she was just being kind and don't you know she showed up at our apartment ! I was so grateful for her help. She is truly a lady of her word ! I love that you are such a Lady and a real woman of God. Happy Birthday Sis. Reid, you have a sincere heart ! Love Ne'Cole Fort
23: I | I remember when Barbara was about 12 or 13. I was sitting on the front porch and she was turning cartwheels in the yard. I lost sight of her for a minute, then I heard her screaming. I jumped down from the porch--I remember being scared. It turned out that she had stepped on a bee. Mother patched her up, and she was fine after a few days, but this is one of my most memorable moments. Bill Clemons | I remember when Barbara was 3 or 4 years old and had come to stay with me in Mississippi. We were on the bus, either Grayhound or Trailways, me, my husband and Barbara. I remember that she had a high pitched squeeky voice and used to call me "Lulu". Barbara was looking out the window and in that voice yelled "Lulu, look at that horse!". I looked out the window and said, Girl that ain't a horse, it's a cow!--Everybody on the bus heard her! I also remember taking her to town on Saturday...everybody saved their shopping and went to town on Saturdays. Barbara walked along with me, in that high pitched voice, saying hi to everybody and also saying whatever came to her mind. I also remember that she always liked sweets, especially blackberry pie and biscuits with molasses. I wondered how I was going to explain to Mother why I let Barbara gain so much weight while she was visiting me! I think Barbara enjoyed her visit though. I also remember a yellow dress and matching bonnet that Mother made for her. I still have a picture of her wearing it. Louise Clemons-Ivy
27: He came and preached peace to you who were far away and to those who were near...now, therefore, you are no longer strangers and foreigners, rather fellow citizens with the saints and the household of God. Ephesians 2:18-19 paraphrased I love you, my beautiful Mother and Friend! I have so many wonderful memories with you. I especially am fond of the time you sat me on your lap...in the food court at Randhurst and cuddled with me. I also appreciate you buying me a stuffed version of Penny. I remember you taking me to get contact lenses for the first time. I cried because I could see without the weight of glasses on my face. I love you for taking care of me when I had my wisdom teeth taken out. I am so dramatic...you're always there for me when I'm "dying"! For each and every cream cheese pound cake, I am grateful. You are truly precious to me and it is an honor to have you as my Mother. I strive to be more like you every day-unselfish, wise, Godly and loving. If God gave me a choice, I would have chosen you! | Cher