S: Dear Birthmother,
BC: We’ve spent our lives working to become the type of parents we would have wanted. We believe we can provide a child with an exceptional upbringing in a loving home. We have a deep respect for you and the difficult decision you are facing. We wish you strength and peace as you search for the right family for you and your child. Sincerely, Julia, Kurt, and Charlie
FC: Julia, Kurt, and Charlie
1: Dear Birthmother, We are grateful to have this opportunity to introduce ourselves to you. Please know that we have an enormous respect for you and your love for your child. We cannot begin to imagine how difficult taking this path may be for you, and we can only hope that our letter might provide some encouragement and hope. We would like to help you get to know us through this letter. We are truly blessed with a happy and strong marriage and a loving family. We are now a family of three after adopting our son, Charlie, almost three years ago. Our path, however, was not an easy one. We tried for many years to get pregnant only to lose our baby one day before his due date. We were of course devastated, and we will always miss our son, Henry. Finding Charlie through the gift of adoption has been an amazing blessing and feels like it was meant to be. We continue to believe that good can come from even the most heartbreaking of circumstances, especially when people reach out to each other. We hope to reach out to you in this way and want you to know that we are thinking of you and our hearts are with you.
2: Us on vacation last summer in California.
3: Our Marriage Kurt and I have been together for thirteen years and married for the last seven of those years. We met on a ski trip just after we had both completed medical school. Kurt was so funny and considerate, I felt completely comfortable with him instantly. We fell in love during our medical training and have been inseparable ever since. Kurt can ease any situation with laughter and brings a lightness and joy to even everyday experiences. We’ve been through good times and bad and we stick together and support one another. | Our first dance at our wedding
4: Selfie of Julia, Kurt, and Charlie on a hike | Charlie celebrating his first ascent.
5: Starting a Family We tried to get pregnant for about three years. After losing our first baby one day before the due date, we were heartbroken. Bonded by this tragedy, our love and marriage only became stronger. We wanted so much to share our love and our home and start a family so we decided to apply for adoption. After completing the extensive application process, we decided to take a trip. We didn’t know how long it would take to adopt or when we would be able to travel again, so we set out for Hawaii. Only a few days into our trip when we got at surprise call from the adoption agency. We booked a flight back home immediately and were met at the airport with our Charlie. The joy that filled our hearts on that day is indescribable. Every day since then has been a tremendous blessing and we consider Charlie our own miracle. We also feel a tremendous sense of responsibility not only to Charlie but also to his birthparents. I think of his birthparents everyday and strive to be worthy of enormous gift of parenthood they have given us.
6: Julia reading in our living room | Our living room | The nursery | The nursery | Our Home We live in a medium sized city that is very close to the mountains. We moved here to be close to skiing, camping, bicycling, and hiking. We are less than a mile to trails and a protected canyon with a stream. Our home is currently being remodeled and an second story is being added, but these are some pictures of our house before hand. Our house is spacious and there is plenty of room for family and guests. We have a medium sized yard with room for playing and boulders for climbing.
7: Our Neighborhood Our neighborhood is safe, fun, and friendly, and we consider our neighbors to be like family. Many of our neighbors have young children and babies. We live within a few miles of a zoo, children’s museum, natural history museum, and lots of other great kid’s activities and take full advantage of it. | The neighborhood kids going trick or treat. | Kurt and Charlie visiting the elephants at the zoo. | Charlie and Chloe at the playground.
8: Julia Julia’s mother is German/Irish and her father is Mexican-American. As a child Julia was a competitive gymnast. In college she was a competitive cheerleader. She cheered for the NCAA division I national champions in basketball and even won a national championship in cheerleading. With her athletic talent and good grades she was awarded scholarships to college and medical school. Julia has always been interested in helping others so in college she worked as a tutor and a caregiver for autistic children. Today Julia is a well-respected doctor taking care of the sickest patients in the Intensive Care Unit. During her downtime Julia loves to sew, play guitar, and read. In addition to being a talented doctor, Julia is a great wife. She is kind, funny, and smart and enjoys doing things outdoors. She is also a sweet, patient, and nurturing mother. She does a great job dealing with the challenges of toddlerhood. She is always teaching Charlie something new or taking him on a new adventure. | Julia on a hike during a camping trip.
9: Julia teaching Charlie to skateboard | Julia at a UCLA basketball game | Charlie and Julia at a playground on vacation
10: Kurt and Charlie at a ski lodge | Above: Kurt and Charlie at the pool. Below Kurt joking around at dinner.
11: Kurt Kurt grew up in the Midwest. I think this gives him a compassionate, authentic, and grounded quality. Even though he went to a prestigious medical school, he is amazingly down to earth. He is clever and hilarious. He is also brilliant and can tell you almost anything you want to know about history, literature, art, geography, or finance. When Kurt was a boy, Kurt’s father worked as a wildlife biologist at a lake in the Midwest. Kurt’s mother was a homemaker, and later a social worker, helping people with disabilities get back to work. Kurt’s parents are both very intelligent but they did not have a lot of money. When Kurt was ten years old his family moved to the northeast so his father could work in a factory to support the family. In high school, Kurt was competitive in baseball and basketball. He was on the college crew team. He seems to pick up new sports without difficulty and currently enjoys running, bicycling, skiing, and hiking. What amazes me most about Kurt is how caring a considerate his is. He is constantly thinking of us, his family, and making sure those around him are taken care of. Most importantly, Kurt is a wonderful father. When Charlie was a baby I called him the baby whisperer because he could calm him when even I couldn’t. He is patient and kind. | Kurt on a sailing trip
12: Charlie We adopted Charlie about three years ago when he was twelve days old. His birthparents were both athletes and he is a bundle of energy. He walked early and can already ride the ski lift and ski down the hill. Charlie loves to play on the jungle gym outside, take a walk down the street to see the neighbor’s chickens, and read books together. | Charlie sings us his version of "The Wheels on the Bus"
13: More Family Kurt's mother and niece live in our town. We visit Kurt's sister, Carin, in New York a few times a year and Julia's parents in Southern California a few times a year. | Aunt Carin teaches Charlie to drive the boat | Julia's mother and father | Charlie and grandma at the petting zoo
14: What we hope to offer As parents, we strive to teach by example. We fill our home with laughter and love while also trying to provide structure and consistency. We prioritize education and helping others. We also hope to show our children a love of nature, adventure, and travel. Our goal is to provide the resources, encouragement, and support to help our children reach their highest goals. Ultimately we just want them to be happy and know that they are loved. Your child will be welcomed with open arms by our friends, neighbors, and entire family (including our dogs, Addie and Josie). Everyone is excited about our plans to adopt and can’t wait to shower our new addition with love.
15: Proud papa teaching Charlie to ski before his 2nd birthday!
16: Family camping trips, hikes, and vacations
18: Kurt and Charlie going boating and the lake house below.
19: Our dogs, Addie and Josie enjoying the outdoors.