S: When you get better, remind me to tell you about the time when...
FC: From us to you...
1: "Senbatsuru" (A Thousand Cranes) A "senbatsuru" is a group of one thousand origami paper cranes held together by strings. An ancient Japanese legend promises that anyone who folds a thousand origami cranes will be granted a wish, such as long life or recovery from illness or injury. Hanging a Senbazuru in one's home is thought to be a powerfully lucky and benevolent charm. There is a famous story of a little girl, Sadako Sasaki, who lived in Hiroshima at the time of the atomic bombings. She developed leukemia from the radiation and spent her time in a nursing home creating origami cranes in the hope of making a thousand for a senbatsuru. Her wish was simply to live. However, she managed to fold only 644 cranes before she became too weak to fold any more. Her friends and family helped finish her senbatsuru by folding the remaining cranes. Sadako continues to live on in the hearts of the Japanese people, who visit a statue built in Hiroshima Peace Park of Sadako holding a giant golden crane. Thus, her wish was granted. We made this Senbatsuru for you, dear Annie, because we love you and we miss you and we cannot wait for you to come back. Love, Us.
2: "Dear Annie, When I was asked to be Department Chair, the only reason my answer was not an unequivocal Nooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” was because of you. I knew you knew everything and, more importantly, you would generously try to hide from everybody else the fact that I knew nothing! You are fun and philosophical. You know enough to not sweat the small stuff and that really helps!! Of course, you are way more organized than I will ever be and are already halfway through a list of tasks before I even realize they need to be done. You are our Departmental MOM and our Departmental VOICE (complete with karaoke). You are our spokesperson, our artist, our cheerleader, and our heart. Come back soon and whip us back into shape! Love, Kathy Schiaffino
3: When you get better remind me to tell you the time when: I guess I can’t really tell you about one specific time cause we always have a thousand laughs when we are together and you certainly don’t have to remind me to tell you how much I love you. I could, however, tell you to remind me to tell you about when I first staring working here and how comfortable and welcomed you made me feel, I didn’t want to come back to work after being home for 16 years but you made it worth it. This place is not the same without you so hurry back soon. - Maria Barbieri | "Dear Annie, When you get better,Remind me to tell you.................... How do I love thee, let me count the ways.................. I love thee to the bang, bang, bang, bang, bang, bang of the electric stapler when it got stuck and I was trying to pull out the paper, the more I would pull, the more it bang, banged. I love thee to the sound effects someone made each time they went to the copier. I can't put his initials, but you know who he was. I love thee to the countless times someone would say there was a glitch in the x-cel system. I love thee to the amount of minutes, hours we would listen to a response from someone when we asked him a question. I love thee to the amount of times we were interrupted from someone we love very much, while we were trying to concentrate on something very important. I love thee to the sound of the fun-gi....................rally the phone guy, remember? I love thee to the day you told me about the job here, and the laughs we had all the days after. I need you.................please come back soon. With mucho love + kisses, Rose""O""mary."
4: Dear Anne, Happy Birthday Dear Friend! You always brightened my days and just thinking of you brightens my life. Laughing with you, usually about not much, still ranks among the best laughs I have ever had. It’s magical the way that you are able to bring up laughs, your own and others, so quickly and easily, as if life were literally a bowl of joy and dipping into it were as fun as skinny-dipping with a bunch of girlfriends on a hot, moonlit evening. And about your laughter, just like swimming in moonlight it always has a sweetness and tenderness to it. This is a rarity and one I am happy to have the occasion to tell you I have always loved and so appreciated about you. It would be my guess that you have had the wisdom from early childhood to leave the snide, raucous, back-biting, and caustic humor to others less in love with life and less talented at hitting the ‘Joy-spot’ of most everyone you meet. Well, being a bit raucous is okay, right? You know how much you always have been appreciated for all that you have done for us as faculty and students in the psychology department and for helping to build and maintain our first-rate reputation within the university—you always made us each look our best. More importantly, you made me, and I am sure others as well, a more effective administrator, a more patient and insightful mentor, and a better person because you treated all of us, but I speak for myself—me-- with an infectious generosity and largeness of spirit that engendered at least a shadow of the same in me toward others.
5: I have learned from you how to wear difficulties more lightly and to take the bulk of my worries less seriously as should be the case. Laughter engenders perspective. (And if I used the word ‘engenders’ in a sentence like this as we were talking, it would be good enough to provoke your laughter! And after that, how could I not have a better perspective!) Life is more than joy and laughter, and more than doing good and being good, both of which you do so well. I think your most valuable secrets, which are actually not secrets at all but evident for any to see, are not only loving life, but also having a certain lightheartedness that comes from strong faith, and a deep assurance that truly loving others every minute of every day is without question the best way to live and the most profound way to feel alive. I hope, trust, and pray that on this birthday you feel the love that rushes toward you from all corners of your life, and most certainly from the small corner you and I share. And that you can feel that the love you continue to float over my head and push into my heart is radiating back at you a thousand-fold and making you smile. I treasure your gift from Assisi and our friendship. My love and best wishes for much joy and great peace. - Ann Higgins-D’Alessandro
6: When you get better, remind me to tell you about...that time you got me through my life to this point. Think about it! Job considerations, teaching opportunities, procedures to follow, deadlines to meet, courses to take, professors to work with, professors NOT to work with, place to live, places to eat, dealing with relatives, ring to pick, way to propose, mortgage papers to fake, etc. All the advice that I truly respect comes from you. All of the major life decisions I have made in the past 5 years have been run by you for approval and support. I would not be half as motivated as I am to keep going (in MANY aspects of my life) without you in my corner. I whole-heartedly cherish our friendship. AND | When you get better, remind me to tell you about...the time we first met. You probably don’t remember because it was interview day for me. I drove from Pennsylvania late the night before and when I got to Fordham I was miserably tired but had to pretend to be nice and charming. When I asked you a question I wasn’t really interested in pleasantriesand pleasantries were not what you offered! I was so appreciative to have a fellow New YAWKER give whatever information I asked of you straight without beating around the bush. I thought to myself “self, get to know her, you’re gonna like her.” I was right. The direct, concise quality of your delivery amidst of sea of ambiguity (at times, especially at Fordham) is what I’ve grown to rely on for the past 5 years. The loving, warm, wise, generous, self-less part came VERY soon after. AND | When you get better, remind me to tell you about...how I enjoy being honest with you about anything and anyone. Mostly because you always agree and feel the same way I do. Being able to “vent” about things and people is something we all need, and you are the best ventee I know. I think it might be that we’re birthday buddies, which makes us superior to everyone else and able to judge without remorse because we know we’re right. - Jimmy Lauckhardt
7: When you get better, remind me to tell you about how I was the last one to submit a vignette for your book because it's just impossible to think of one thing that stands out from our long friendship. How am I supposed to think about one thing out of our many interactions - which sometimes involved tears, sometimes annoyance at others, sometimes craziness as you juggled all the different things on your desk, and always laughter. The thing I think about most these days is how much I miss seeing your face and hearing your laughter every day. I guess I got kind of spoiled, because any time I felt like it, I could wander into your office and bitch about some asshole who pissed me off that day, or gossip about some idiot who actually thought they could get away with an idiotic plan. Jim and I always acted like you were our Bronx mother - "we should ask Anne about this," "what do you think Anne would say?" "did you tell Anne we were going to do this?" - we never did anything without making sure you ok'd it first! I miss you so much, and I can't wait for you to come back. Because - quite frankly - the place is just not right without your sunshine. There just isn't enough laughter around without you, so please keep fighting and come home! When you get better, dearest Annie, remind me to tell you about how much I love you. And how much I miss you. And how much Jim still annoys me on a daily basis. - Kay Germano
8: When you get better, remind me to tell you about how much I appreciate your help and patience throughout my graduate career. I always felt I could come to you whenever I was in a frenzy and that you would calmly handle whatever issue I was having (and that we would likely also crack a joke in the process!). Thank you again for all your help, caring, patience, and love over the years. - Suzanne Elgendy | Dear Annie, When you get better, remind me to tell you about...I have SO many stories (especially about you know who. Oh, yes you do. I think I have a new story every day! No, not Kay. She's crazy in a GOOD WAY!). You're one of the only people who truly understands!! I can just go into your office and give you a look and then you roll your eyes and I know that you know exactly what I'm going to tell you. Well, I don't have to tell you that we miss you tremendously in the office. As you know, we all think of you as our professional/student mother, and, as the expression goes, no one understands you quite like your mother. We love and miss you and can't wait to see you again. - Adam Fried
9: Anne, when you get better, remind me to tell you about the amount of warmth you bring to the psychology department. Every time I came into the office concerned about tuition, grades, or classes I had to teach, I left feeling so uplifted if I had a chance to talk with you. You have such a wonderful spirit! I appreciate every time you ask about my family even though you’ve never met them. I am grateful for the quick assistance you give whenever I have a question. I love hearing you sing karaoke!! It’s all the little things you do that really make the psychology department feel like so much more than school. Thank you for being you Anne! - Isaiah Pickens
10: I have to confess it's hard to think of a single story to encompass my experiences with you. I can't think of a particular time that stands out as my visits to the department office were usually in the context of substantial confusion related to administrative paperwork more complicated than many things we learned in class. All of the staff in our department transcend their titles, but you always knew the answer and in some cases could actually figure out my question when I couldn't. All this while displaying the traits we learned good psychologists should have. You've been a veritable superhero during my time in grad school and I can't thank you enough. I wish you the best. - Sherif Abdelmessih | When you get better, remind me to tell you...how much fun I had teaching with Dr. Muscente! The class was so much fun and it was a great teaching opportunity. He's an awesome teacher and I thank you so much for introducing us. I miss you so much! Hurry up and get back so I can enjoy your kind words and soothing presence. -Lia Amakawa | When you get better, remind me to tell you about how you made New York a home away from home---to the point where it became a home! You've always been a warm, welcoming presence in the midst of this challenging journey. Someone whom I could be myself around and go to with real life problems. Family is very important to me, and I consider you a part of it. In fact, my father still asks about you every time I mention I'm heading to Rose Hill. He could always sense that I was being taken care of, that I was in the best of hands. We'll all celebrate when you return! -Miraj Desai
11: When you get better, remind me to tell you aboutmy first month at Fordham, when my transfer credits from John Jay were a total mess, and I was stressed out and didn’t know who to talk to or what to do. I didn’t want to be a nuisance to anyone since I had just started at Fordham and was trying to make a good impression. You stepped right in, made me comfortable, took care of everything, told me exactly where to go, what to do, and who to see. From that moment, I knew that you were the person to go to in time of need. You would fix any problem, handle all the stress, and calm all my worries. Now, it’s our turn to do that for you, Anne. You are a strong, caring, and way-too important person for any of us to be without for any longer. So get well soon and bring that smile back into the department for us all to enjoy. Keep fighting, Anne. Like everything else, you can handle this! With lots of love and prayers for a speedy recovery, - Joanna Fava-Mazzella
12: Dearest Friend Annie ~ When you get better, remind me to tell you how happy hear you singing our alto notes next to me... how great it is that the same things crack us up and make us just look at each other and laugh our faces off... how glad I am to have a diner / pizza / Dunkin' Donuts friend to share my favorite pastime - EATING - what else? You inspire me with your spirit, your smarts, your kindness. You sustain my faith in God because you help me to see that He gives us what we need in this life - strength, understanding...and a friend like you, who helps me to look forward to every day we share our lives in our little world. Fondest regards & all my love to you, my dear, dear friend, Janet Bitner
13: "When you get better, remind me to tell you about...how we are finally going back to italy and have gnocchi with the gorgonzola sauce while staring at the colosseum. Wouldn't that be nice? So hurry up, will ya?!!!!! " - Joe Muscente | When you get better remind me to tell you how your loving and kind ways have touched my life. Such as, receiving e-mails when my day is not going as I would like with the words "Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference. You are always so positive. Even when you called for help, I can always remember you saying "sorry to bother you". You are always so grateful and you are never a bother. Thanks for being in my life and being the special person that you are. - Lydia Ocasio
14: ""When you get better remind me to tell you about ...how much it meant to me that your were the first person I brought communion to as a seminarian which is one major part of my formation for the priesthood and I am looking forward to our next vacation except this time we will make sure joe does not lose you."" God Bless you" -Richard Marrano | When you get better, remind me to tell you about when I was a postdoc interviewing for academic positions and I remember how thoughtfully and thoroughly you organized my visit. You left such a positive impression on me that I knew that the Fordham Psychology department would be a warm and wonderful place to begin my professional career. And over the years, you have only made the department feel like a home for me. You never failed to stop what you were doing (and you are always DOING) to help or just to chat and add a much-needed smile to my day. You are truly an inspiration. - Tiffany Yip
15: "Dear Annie, When you get better, remind me to tell you about...... How much you have been an inspiration to me, with everything you do. You are the strongest person I know. Remember our pre-birthday party treat we had together just to get through the birthday. Our many Lucy & Ethel moments. How many ice cream cones and corn on the cobs can one consume in 3 days???? Our choir laughs, too many to count. Just being together any given moment, and sharing a bond that goes beyond blood. I love you, and Happy Happy Birthday, and see you next year for another celebration. You are my hero. With love & prayers, always, - Donna Liello
16: When you get better, remind me to remind you why I am not Lebanese! - Min-Kuung Park | Annie, When you get better, remind me to tell you about how happy I am that I met you!!! I can't remember exactly when we first met, if it was when we went to Rome or when we did St. Theresa's first cabaret. I am just happy that we did. From the beginning, you've always had a smile, a kind word or a compliment for me. You always make me feel better whenever you're around. You are able to look past my flaws and always be there to be supportive and understanding...in other words you are a true friend and that is very hard to come by. Whenever there is a party, an outing, a coming together of our fellow ""kooks"" it is just not the same if you aren't there and I miss you to pieces. As I think back on all the fun we've had, all the places we've gone, especially Cancun and the Bahamas!!!!!, those memories are sweeter because you were there. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the picture of you throwing back the jello shot in your technicolor dreamcoat!!!!!!....but most of all, I LOVE YOU!!!!! - Sonia Tirado
17: When you get better, remind me to tell you how much your kind assistance and calm organization was appreciated when I came to interview at Fordham. You may recall the day - it was Valentine's Day, and there was a huge blizzard, but you were here and even called me on the way in to be sure everything was on track. You went above and beyond, and everything I've seen you do since then shows how that is your normal way to do anything. Keep it up, and I look forward to thanking you - and boring you with this story again - when I see you next! - Laura Stout Sosinsky | When you get better, remind me to tell you about the time that you were tremendously helpful when I transitioned to Fordham, making me feel immediately at home and quickly addressing all of my start-up needs from office space to computers to how things work in the Department as a whole. Your positive attitude and problem solving approach not only made for a very smooth transition but were a consistent part of making my experience of the department and my work so enjoyable. - Joshua Brown
18: The summer before I started at Fordham, I was assigned the M.A.T. as part of m assistantship which means I had to come in beginning in June. As I had no idea what a MAT was, I emailed Dr. Rivera Mindt who said, "You need to go see Ann. She is the most important person to know at Fordham and she will take care of you." From the first time I met Ann that summer I knew this was true. I am just as clueless as a soon to be fifth year as I was as a soon to be first year and if it wasn't for Ann holding my hand along the way I would never have made it through the last five years. My memories of Ann are not so much discrete, isolated memories, but rather an integral part of my entire experience at Fordham. Ann is both the friendly, smiling face of Fordham psychology and the person in the control tower operating the switchboards who keeps everything going, day after day, year after year. Ann is the first person you see in the morning and person you say goodbye to at the end of every day. Ann is the person you would ask if you forgot what class you have Tuesday morning, three-quarters of the way through the semester, and she would never make you feel embarrassed. Ann is the person who fixes your schedule after you screw it up, Ann is the person who listens when you have a bad day, or a funny story about a professor that you can't wait to tell someone. Ann always knows the right things to say. Ann always made me feel special and makes me want to be my best self. Ann is the person who keeps you going when you feel like giving up. Come back to Fordham soon so I can show you my wedding photos and give you a hug. I LOVE YOU ANN! - Love, Audra Noble | When you get better, remind me to tell you about how much we've missed you! I always enjoy having the opportunity to talk with you in the office. No matter how busy you are, you always make time for us. I feel lucky to know you, and I hope you return soon to brighten up our days. - Sarah Kamens
19: When you get better, remind me to tell you how I will never forget your kindness in always asking about my mom and praying for her during her difficult times. Your thoughtfulness, prayers, and encouragement will always be gratefully cherished by me. - John Cecero | When you get better, remind me to show you this picture of me and my wife to prove to you that I do have someone who has learned to understand me and is willing to live with my sense of humor. You are also one of those people who can do that. Consider this an invitation to have lunch with me and Sue-the-wife when you are ready. - Dave Chabot | When you get better Anne, I am looking forward to so many things, but most of all, I have been excited for months to learn how to be a good mother of two boys from you. You are so wonderful at everything that you do and it’s easy to see that one of your greatest successes is reflected in your kind, loving sons. When I found out that I was having two boys, I immediately thought of you and how I am so lucky to have you in my life. It feels calming thinking about how I can turn to you with questions and fears but also to share the joys and the little things. More than anyone, I know that you will listen to it all. I love you so much Anne. Brendan and Daniel will be very blessed to meet you soon. - Rachel Annunziato
20: "When you get better, remind me to tell you about ... how much I appreciated your motherly presence in the main office. When work and studies became stressful, I knew that I could walk into the office and feel the solidity and the warmth of your presence there. It was very grounding for me to know that you wanted the best for each one of us and would do everything within your power to help us along. Thank you!" - Bojun Hu | When you get better, remind me to tell you about...how much it meant to talk to you about my mom, and her fight, too. On top of all that you do for us everyday, you still make the time to pay individual attention to students, and invite us to share what is going on in our lives. In my case, you've always been there for a quick check-in and I am so grateful to you for that. It takes a special kind of person- with your uncommon level of kindness, sincerity, and selfless concern for others- to to do what you do. You're very much loved, and I cannot wait to see you back soon! - Di Schiener
21: Anne, When you get better, remind me to tell you about when I first came to Fordham for my interview. I was coming on an odd day—not the usual Tuesday/Wednesday or Wednesday/Thursday that we usually do—so plans were pretty confused. On the day I was leaving Providence for New York, I still didn’t have my hotel reservations or interview schedule. I remember sitting in my office half an hour before I had to leave to catch the train to New York, waiting to hear from you and Pat about where I was staying and who I’d be seeing. As you can imagine, I was pretty frazzled (and I’m sure you were, too!). The day of my interview, I was extra nervous. I was still out of sorts from the last minute planning, and I was so afraid that you’d take my million phone calls and emails from the day before to mean that I was a pain in the ass (Not that I’m not a pain in the ass, but at least that day, I wasn’t trying to be!). When I got to the department, you were the first person I saw, and Anne, within 30 seconds, you made me feel so much better. You put me completely at ease. You made me feel like we had known each other for years and were just old friends meeting up. As we chatted throughout the day, you made me feel like this would be a place that I could fit in and be a part of. You made me realize that while every department has its quirks, Fordham would be the place where we’d laugh about them. You made me comfortable from the first day I was here, and I can’t wait for you to come back! Big, big, big hug! - Peggy Andover
22: When you get better, remind me to tell you about how your gratitude really touched me. I'm not sure if you will even remember this, but awhile back a difficult undergraduate student had to be transferred into one of the labs I was teaching. I saw you in the office and you asked me if it would be alright to transfer the student into my class, and I said yes. You were so appreciative and gave me this great big hug. I remember thinking, "wow, why is she so appreciative? I am barely doing anything, and I am certainly not doing anything for her!" But, I know that this is completely reflective of the wonderful person you are - always considerate, appreciative, and loving. Get well soon. We all miss you in psychology! - Lisa DeBellis | When you get better, remind me to tell you...how much fun I had teaching with Dr. Muscente! The class was so much fun and it was a great teaching opportunity. He's an awesome teacher and I thank you so much for introducing us. I miss you so much! Hurry up and get back so I can enjoy your kind words and soothing presence. - Lia Rohler
23: "Dear Anne, When you get better, remind me to tell you about the time that you helped me put together the ADP Interview Day during my first year in the program! I was working as Ann Higgins’ grad assistant that year and from the beginning of September, she kept mentioning this elusive “Interview Day” that I was going to be in charge of – I had no idea what she was referring to but throughout the fall semester, I played along like I knew exactly what I was supposed to be doing. In true Ann Higgins fashion, she waited until mid-January to sit down with me and explain this “project” and to figure out the details. She decided that Interview Day would be two weeks from that day – at the time, this seemed totally infeasible not just for me (needing to get all of the organizational aspects taken care of), but also for all of the interviewees! At that point I wasn’t aware that this was pretty typical of Ann’s organizational style! I honestly could not have pulled everything together for the 2009 ADP Interview Day without all of your help, Anne! I remember that you were there to help me with everything from finding the nametags to organizing the interviewee one-on-one meetings with faculty members. Even when Dr. Fisher decided at the last minute that she needed to leave half way through the day, you helped me to coordinate rescheduling all of the interviewee meetings so that everything worked out. This was during my first year in the program, when so many things seemed overwhelming – I know that all of the grad students have similar stories of the time that you “saved” them from one thing or another and that you’ve always been there as a supportive mentor and friend and we all appreciate it! I have more funny anecdotes from that ADP Interview Day that I can’t wait to share with you next time I see you! Take care, - Jackie Horan
24: When you get better, remind me to tell you about how much I appreciated how wonderful you were to me when I first started at Fordham. Starting a new job is always challenging and a little nerve-wracking. Whenever I saw you during that first semester, you always had a smile for me (and usually a kind word or two to go along with the smile). Your kindness made me feel very much at home. - Karen Siedlecki | When you get better, remind me to tell you how for years, your many admirers have included the stream of officers of our RH Psychology Society and Psi Chi. You were always encouraging and helpful when student officers needed the essentials for their meetings - a room, audiovisual equipment, posters, photocopies. Your "caritas" always showed when you served others. You received the chapter PsiChi award your first year in this department, and then were inducted as a life member of Psi Chi (based on your own outstanding coursework), then attended the Psi Chi induction ceremony where your friend Maria Barbieri was presented the annual RH psi Chi Award by outgoing President Chelsea Gloth in 2009 (photo attached). How much we all love you, Anne. - Harold Takooshian | When, over the course of several years, I was trying fruitlessly to find a publisher for my late father's Holocaust memoirs, I would call upon you frequently to type endless cover letters for me to prospective publishers, which, of course, you did with your unfailing good spirit. At that time the manuscript was just referred to as "the memoirs." One day you said to me, 'How about calling it A Physician Under the Nazis?' What a great idea, I thought, and thus the title of the book was born. You came up then with exactly the right words, as you always have, with thoughtfulness and caring. With my great love always, - Dave Glenwick
25: When you get better, remind me to tell you about the times that you rescued me from disaster. I especially recall the time when I inherited Dan Mroczek's mega-section of Introductory Psychology consisting of four sections of 30 students. I had not thought through what a problem it would be to grade the eight multiple choice exams I had scheduled and post grades for 120 students in a timely manner. You saved me from this peril by suggesting that perhaps I could use a grader. I had not considered this option as I had never seen it implemented in our department before. I quickly agreed but understood that this option would only happen if someone could be found. You were then juggling schedules of many grad students trying to cover many responsibilities. I was so pleased when you found someone for me. It really made my first experience teaching such a large lecture section go well. You worked your magic for me a second time the following year. Thank you so much for both gifts. - Warren Tryon
26: When you get better, remind me to tell you about one of the first times that I met you when I started at Fordham. Remembering back, I was very nervous and intimidated about finally being in a PhD" program, but was put at ease with my intial interactions with Barry, yourself, and others around the office. I remember thinking how motherly you were and how nice it was to have you, Rosemary, and that other inidivudal (I forget her name) who is now Maria, around to help us out. There was some piece of business that I needed attending to. I remember I felt too shy or nervous to ask anyone about it, thinking it wasn't important and I would figure it out by myself. An older student in the program said to me, "Go ask Anne. She likes to help people out." He really encouraged me to go see you, that you would enjoy being able to help me. Well, I don't think I ever actually went to you, thinking that he must be wrong or not wanting to be a nuisance. In any case, what he told me turned out to be so true. You were always there to help out with a gentle smile and warm comment of encouragement, and seemed to genuinely enjoy being able to support us. Being able to stop in for a quick chat or hellp was always comforting admist the crazy stress and deadlines of graduate student life. I look forward to your return and being able to ask for your support again when I need it. - Brian Pilecki | Annie, when you come back remind me to tell you .... just how much I appreciate all of your help. It is shocking how little I would have accomplished had you not been there to help me along with every year, if not every minute, of my graduate education. From helping to identify classes I could teach to figuring out how to use blackboard (and yes for those of us technically challenged it was much needed), you were there. Thank you. You are an incredible person and I'm so lucky to have had an opportunity to be a student while you were working at Fordham. I can't wait for you to come back so I can say all of this in person! - Kate Pivavrova
27: Dear Anne, when you get better, remind me to tell you about the time when I drank too much at the Christmas party during my first year of grad school, and you told me all about how great you think our class is--it was one of my favorite moments of that first, and highly defining year of graduate school. We were outside of McGinley and you were smoking a cigarette and I plopped down next to you, more than a few too many glasses of wine in to the night, and I said, 'I'm so embarassed because i think i'm drunk!' or something to that effect. And you, taking a slow drag of your smoke, said to me "honey, everybody here is drunk. at least you're having fun. you have one of the best classes I have seen in a long time--you're a really solid group. don't let school take you over, make sure you all stay friends with each other". I barely knew you, and it had only been one semester, and you had sized us all up and decided that you liked us, and you gave me specific instructions that we were all supposed to like each other :) Well, I took your advice; we are all still good friends and many of us attended each others' weddings, have seen each others' babies, and are now proudly watching each other graduate or go off to internship. We wish you could have been with the whole time, but your presence was certainly felt. I wish you the best for a speedy recovery so you can return to school and start doling out advice to all of the new students, and reminding us of whats truly important--the relationships we build with each other. Lots of love, - Sumi Raghavan
28: When you get better, remind me to tell you about how thankful I was for all your help and kindness when I came to US in Fall 2006 for the first time. I still remember when I came here, the Department of Human Resources had problem processing my assistantship, you helped me go through all the paperwork and gave me emotional support all the time. When you get better, remind me to tell you about how thankful I was for your hard work and patience. I remember we always got your reminders about registration, fellowship, deadlines, and so on. Even when I submitted my materials until the very last minute and I felt so sorry, you always smiled. I believe everyone is grateful to have you around. Love, I will pray for you, Ping Guo.
29: When you get better, remind me to thank you for all of your help and kindness throughout my time at Fordham. I remember in particular how diligent you were at helping me to have the accidental "F" changed on my transcript - as internship application time fast approached! I was very nervous about the whole internship application process, and I was especially nervous about sending out a transcript that would make it look like I failed Ethics class! You were helpful every step of the bureaucratic way in getting that resolved, and always did so with care and empathy for my anxiety over the situation. The department is so lucky to have someone like you - who really cares about each and every one of us. I just want you to know that the feelings are mutual. I really care about how you are doing now and have tremendous faith in your resilience in fighting your current disease. So keep fighting Anne! And know that we are fighting with you, holding you in our hearts. - Nate Thoma
30: When you get better, remind me to tell you about how important you've been to me. For five years you've consistently, and calmly, handled every issue that has arisen regarding school. For this book, I had wanted to pick out one story, but you've helped me so many times it's hard to choose. It's like waking up each morning to the same alarm - the instances are so frequent they blend together. But what makes you unique is not the things you've done, but the way you've done them. We came into your office frenzied and incoherent and left feeling capable and appreciated. That sense of security, in knowing you were there, has been priceless. It is an art to make so many people feel so independently valued - and it's one you've mastered. I hope we've given back even a fraction of what you've given to us. You are loved and sorely missed. - Becky Weiss
31: When you get better, remind me to tell you about the wonderful first impression you made. I had just started classes and before I knew anyone you greeted me by name. I thought to myself, “Wow, what a wonderful program; they really treat you special here.” That was one of the first experiences I had as a new student and have carried with me throughout the years. You always set such a warm tone. I always look forward to your emails with your inspirational quotes or prayers. Often times they arrived at a time when I was in need of a lift. I tell people you are the glue that holds the department together and I am so grateful for all your help in resolving so many issues (I am sure, oftentimes, before I was even aware of them). But most of all, I am grateful to experience your kindness. Get well soon, friend. - Melissa DeFeo