S: Rob Hughes
FC: Rob Hughes
5: He always liked fishing
7: Seventh grade graduation. | Growing up, Rob Liked to take things apart so he could build other things.
9: Rob looked out for all of his siblings. He enjoyed teaching us things.
10: Your Dad was not the best goalie on the soccer team. But, he always played as hard as he could. He had more heart than most of the people out on the field
11: Fro Power | Fros were cool | Say What?
12: I rarely heard Rob sing out loud except for something silly, but he really loved singing in chorus and in the church choir.
13: Your dad loved building things and he was really good at it. The quality of his work was always the best. He liked to, “give people a little more than they asked for” when he did a job for them. He always smelled of chewing tobacco, sweaty leather and fresh cut wood. He loved the smell of fresh cut wood.
14: As a big brother, he looked out for us. He also made us laugh.
15: And he fell in love
16: Many times he looked different, but he was always the same old Rob
17: Camping was a passion. Spending time with his family was a necessity.
18: He liked to fish | And drink beer
19: Your Dad was happiest when he was with you, his kids
20: When I think of your Dad, I remember a really kind person. Your dad was the kind of person who went out of his way to be kind to other people. I think it was largely due to his parents and his faith, but I just think he was a kind person to the core. I hated working construction and your dad would ask me to work with him during the summer. I remember working with him at the home of an older woman who lived in a rougher part of town. We were re-doing her kitchen cabinets. It was a nasty job. I could not understand why he took the job. Half of the cabinet doors were not even there to cut the new ones from. We spent two days fixing her kitchen and another couple days painting. At the end of the job, your Dad took almost nothing for all the work he did. I asked him about it in the truck on the way home. He told me that someone had already started the project and once she gave them the money they took off. Your dad finished the job for her at almost cost because he thought she was a nice lady and he wanted to make it right because someone had taken advantage of her. This was not the only time I worked with him that he demonstrated this level of kindness.
21: After cancer treatments and pneumonia destroyed his most of his lungs, your Dad realized he physically could not do construction anymore. He had pretty much lost everything financially. Your Dad showed great courage and kept going. When he was well enough to walk again, he enrolled in DeVry University and began studying computer programming. He was inspiring. He probably weighed 105 lbs. and had to carry an oxygen bottle with him everywhere. He had to stop walking every 20 yards to rest and catch his breath. He made this trip to school two days a week. He really began to love programming. He continued at school for almost two semesters and ended up getting too sick to continue. I think he would really enjoy the application revolution we are seeing today with smart-phones. He was very creative and had a good mind for things like that.
22: I think the last three years of his life the only thing that kept him alive was the two of you. There were three major episodes in the hospital and each one we thought he would die because he was so sick. But he did not to everyones amazement and he would work hard to get well so that he could start getting the two of you again on the weekends. Between the pneumonia and the cancer treatment he ended up with only 20 percent lung function. When he lived with Kelly and I, walking to the bathroom from his room(less than 12 feet) caused him to get out of breath. It was kind of painful to watch. But for three years, getting the two of you every other weekend was what he lived for. He would muster up enough energy to play with you and most of the time he wanted to take you somewhere to play putt-putt or ride go carts. We would take him places in his wheel chair. He was very stubborn about being helped. But when his kids were around I don’t think he minded riding in the wheelchair as much because the two of you liked to ride in it with him and he got to hold you. He loved that.
23: In every situation what people experience and remember is based on their perspective. I’m going to share with you my experience of the day your Dad died. I have always feared death and feared the thought of people I love dying, but not anymore. Your Dad had been in the hospital for about a week. It was a roller coaster ride, better one day and worse the next. As the week progressed, they were adding more medication to try to keep organs from shutting down. He had been on the ventilator for the last few days because he was not getting enough oxygen on his own. They had put him on heavy sedatives to keep him from fighting the breathing tube. The doctor was going to meet with us at 9:30 am to update us and talk about options. Surprisingly, your Mom showed up at the ICU waiting room. Now, your Dad had been in the hospital many times before and been on deaths door many times. It was amazing to me that she showed up when she did at that time, on that day. At 9:30 we were told it was time to shut off life support because the organ failure was worsening and he could not recover. The nurses needed to prepare and it was going to be about 30 minutes before things would be turned off. We were all in tears. After so many times on the verge of dying and eventually getter better, we were in shock it would not happen again. Grandpa asked your Mom if she wanted to stay and be in the room with everyone when the life support was turned off and she seemed pleased to have been asked and she accepted. i imagine everyone was a little surprised. Since their separation and divorce, your Dad and Mom were not very nice to each other. Quite often they seemed to do things just to hurt each other. Honestly, it was not good between them at all. | The nurses let us know that it was time and we all went in the room. We walked into the room and your Dad was sedated and on the ventilator. Everyone began crying and moved around the bed. They began disconnecting the last few medications and then turned off the ventilator. The crying became louder from everyone in the room as we watched the heart monitor begin to show the pulse rate slow. We all began to cry but soon one cry began get louder in the the room and soon almost drowned out the other cries. It was coming from your mother, who had been seated on the right side of the bed and was now laying over your fathers legs. I looked around the room and began meeting the eyes of others who had also begun looking around. Something seemed to be happening. Pain, anger and other emotions were being expressed by your Mom. Surprisingly, the room did not get thick with all the emotion that was being expressed. It all seemed to be dissipating and clearing. I found I was not crying from grief, but the way you would when cry when a baby was being born or some other beautiful experience was occurring. So were many others in the room. It sounds strange, but in the moment he did not seem to want to go. Actually, he never wanted to go. He lived every day to be with his children but in this moment it seemed he wanted to share his last few moments with her. I felt as if he just wanted to hold your Mom one more time when they were both without the anger and pain they had experienced for so many years. The heart monitor read twenty beats per minute and slowing. After a few moments, monitor went flat. He passed on. Surprisingly, we found ourselves not standing in a hospital room stale with death but a room that felt more like a forest after a spring rain. We all began to hug each other. On that day, the life of your father taught me about forgiveness. Nothing has been the same since that day. I am a better person because I knew him.
24: He really loved you two and did everything he could to be here with you
25: Your dad and I shared a room for the first 12 years of my life until he got his own room. On more than one occasion,Grandma and Grandpa used to tell us in the morning at breakfast that your dad and I had woke them up in the middle of the night. | Your dad and I would have had a dream together about being pirates or something and Grandma and Grandpa would find us standing up on our beds shouting out commands or having some great adventure together. Neither of us would remember the “dream” in the morning. In the last years of his life, we were very close and talked a lot about life together. I think we always had an interesting connection to each other. | On a number of occasions over the years, when I have seen the two of you or was looking at pictures of prom or a baseball game you have taken part in, I get this very strong sense of being proud of you and I have realized that your dad is still watching over you and he is very proud of the amazing people you are both turning out to be. | ..."he is very proud"...
26: Your Dad had his own unique brand of humor. The following pages are the type of emails we would receive from him on a regular basis. (whether we wanted to or not)
27: Emails from Rob Always irreverent, usually funny Email#1: ________________________________________ Date: Wed, June 12, 2002 10:21:55 AM Subject: Talk about morning breath From:Rob
28: _________________________________ Date: Tue, June 11, 2002 2:58:29 AM Subject: Fw:From the Office of Homeland Security From: Rob
29: President Bush, attempting to further allay fears, addressed the nation Tuesday. "My fellow Americans, you may have noticed some small changes in the way we're asking you to go about your daily business," said Bush, his words muffled by a brass diving helmet. "The government is not trying to scare you. We just want you to be prepared for the very remote possibility that your lives will never be the same." "Again, I cannot stress enough what a longshot that particular unspecified scenario is," Bush continued. "We are not facing what I would call a 'credible threat,' so don't even bother worrying about it." Bush went on to say that, in the coming weeks, those living in the Midwest and parts of the Sun Belt may notice a sudden increase in the number of submersibles in the streets. He also asked residents of Miami, New York, and San Francisco to be tolerant of any inconvenience caused by the construction of large trimaran-hull ships there, urging them to be considerate of the workers racing to finish them by next week. "I expect every citizen to do his duty and be brave," Bush said. "Good night, and God bless the United Aquatic States of Hydro-America." | During a Tuesday appearance on Larry King Live, Vice-President Dick Cheney stressed that the life-vest distribution has nothing to do with the current state of world affairs. A police officer patrols Brooklyn in the new NYPD uniform."This move was not done in anticipation of any sort of terrorist attack," Cheney said. "That's ridiculous. If only you were privy to the specifics of the closed-door meeting I had this morning with President Bush, Tom Ridge, Condoleezza Rice, Secretary of State Powell, Defense Secretary Rumsfeld, CIA director George Tenet, and several leading State Department meteorologists, you would know just how silly and unfounded those fears are." Added Cheney: "The U.S. has received no threats at any time in the past 22 hours, so you can all just relax." Despite such assurances, many Americans remain concerned. "I don't like having to keep the kids in their little water wings," said Michelle Barerras, a Grand Junction, CO, third-grade teacher. "They look really cute in them, but it's unnerving. And this morning, all the teachers have received a Department of Education memo informing us that geography units would soon be obsolete. It's being replaced with a special 'Swimming Is Fun-damental!' unit with an emphasis on surviving high waves and avoiding waterborne automobiles. Why?" "On CNN today, they said the current nationwide threat level on the Homeland Security Advisory System was just raised from 'Elevated' to 'Extreme,'" said Eileen Buchsbaum of St. Louis. "Cheney told reporters it was just 'routine procedure,' and that it had nothing to do with any false rumors of thermal bombs planted beneath the ice caps." While most citizens are unhappy about the vague warnings, the sudden emphasis on water safety has proven a boon to some traditionally stagnant industries. SeaTech, a San Diego-based harpoon manufacturer, was recently awarded a $2.2 billion government subsidy to develop a lightweight, handheld harpoon that can withstand water temperatures above 200 degrees. And the Department of the Navy expects the construction of its newly announced Idaho, Missouri, and Ohio shipyards to create more than 50,000 new jobs.
30: ________________________________________ Date: Tue, June 11, 2002 3:00:18 AM Subject: Fw:..a senior moment From: Rob
31: Loving Dad | Supportive parent | Always thought of others
32: Your dad loved fishing and to him the best days fishing were when he caught something. He often said that a good day fishing was when a dragon fly landed on the end of his fishing pole. Whenever I see a dragon fly, it reminds me of him.
33: When we see you, we see him
35: He might not make it into the family picture anymore, but we are all who we are today because we were touched by his love and kindness. He is always here.