S: The Wonders of Mixbook
BC: \ With love from his brother, David
FC: Darryl's Amazing Life
1: Darryl was born on June 4, 1938 to Lloyd and Dagney Stark. He was a premature baby and in 1938 that was a very big deal. The doctors and nurses had shared with mom and dad that the odds were not real good for this premature baby. While my mom talked about the nurse coming into her room and holding Darryl in her hand, she thought, what a juxtaposition to be so excited and so scared. Lucky for Darryl, and quite frankly the rest of us, no one told Darryl that he was premature. He just charged on.
3: Celebrating Birthdays
4: In our family values, work ethic and commitment are a big deal. As in many young families, my mother resorted to using some of the skills she had developed after high school to help bring in additional income around the holidays. Darryl and later I, became part of the sales delivery process and I remember both of us trudging around with overshoes and lots of clothes as we delivered Christmas cards by sled. Darryl topped me out by winning a Schwinn bicycle and I settled in for a Lionel train set.
5: At about 16 years of age, Darryl got his first real job by working for the Dick Heins family on their dairy and grain farm by Detroit Lakes, MN. And while it was hard work, he grew very close to them and first developed his love of night fishing for walleyes. Darryl was quite ingenious in using this excuse later in life. Although he was eight years older than me, even I picked up on the fact that not all his night fishing trips were for walleyes (and quite frankly, maybe my mom and dad did also).
6: All things grow better with love.
8: When the family moved to Northern Minnesota in 1954, Darryl was allowed to finish the first half of his junior year in Grafton, ND. Since our farm was split between two school districts, Darryl made the decision to go the Gonvick school district. The friendships he developed were very deep and many of them still last today. While Darryl was a fun-loving guy, people began to realize that he was someone you could count on in the good times and the bad. | Life brings simple pleasures to us every day. It is up to us to make them wonderful memories. CathyAllen
9: One of Darryl's real skill-sets was listening to people. A trait that is not always evident in society, but it served him well. Learning life lessons from uncles, aunts, older people and friends, he was always willing to listen with an open mind. What many people don't know is that Darryl, at that early age, had already developed two Olympic-sized qualities: storytelling and power skiing behind cars in the deep and snow-filled ditches of Northern Minnesota. You see, the storytelling was handed down from grandparents, uncles, aunts and the power skiing came from looking around for excitement that would add to the thrill of living in Northern Minnesota.
10: He was an inspiration to all.
11: Christmas Blessings
12: Good Times ...
13: To Remember
14: Forgiveness | One event that I will share with you involved one of my early lessons on Darryl's willingness to forgive, which I observed throughout his life, but this was one of the first times I saw it in action. One of the equalizers of power skiing was that while you wanted to make the trip exciting for the skier, the corrective action in not getting it too crazy was the fact that the skier and driver inverted positions on the next round. One particular day I begged to go along. So, I became the interpreter who stared out the back window. As our neighbor Arden Buchholz roared off with his Model A and Darryl in tow, I was left to interpret the "faster" or "slower" signals from the skier.
15: Peering out through a frosty rear window of the Model A was no easy task as we careened down that road at about 30 MPH. As we approached the crest of the Bill Olson Hill, I thought I saw Darryl motion to go faster (mind you, we were skiing on old Norwegian wooden skis with one leather strap and lots of twine wrapped around the overshoe to maintain control). It was somewhere in that moment of seconds that Darryl unfortunately caught the tip of his ski in the snow. As in many of these events, a crucial part of the sport is letting go at the right time. As Darryl was ejected from his overshoes and he took those first few steps trying to ski in his stockings, I could see the words forming on his lips that I possibly hadn't interpreted the signal right.
16: As I shouted to Arden to slow down, the icy rutted roads caused us to drive perpendicular to the roadbed. For a moment I wondered if it would be my brother catching up with the car that would kill me, or the automobile rolling down over that hill that both Arden and I were worried about. As both luck and God intervened, Darryl arrived at the site of the car in his stocking feet, yanked open the door and started to laugh. I was however the next skier that day.
17: While that was a somewhat humorous story in hindsight, Darryl always continued to forgive people and not hold grudges. I guess that would be with one exception: politicians.
18: A family is pieced together with hope and faith. A family is quilted and bound with love and grace.