BC: Published December 2011
FC: Our Family
1: Our family - Alex, Julie, Brian and Marlee | Dear Birth Mother We would like to say first how much respect we have for the very difficult choices you have had to make, and for your considering adoption for your child. It is a very loving and selfless choice. Brian and I tried to have our own child, briefly trying fertility before we decided adoption was right for us. We are very excited to grow our family this way. Marlee and Alex are also very excited to have a little brother or sister. We hope the profile we have created will give you an idea of who we are as a family, and what our values, hopes and dreams are for our future. Thank you for considering us
2: How Our Story Began
3: Brian and I met later in life. He was divorced with 2 kids, I had never been married. We both knew quickly we were right for each other. We often talk about how our journeys brought us together at just the right time. We feel very blessed to have found each other. | Brian's children Alex and Marlee were very welcoming to Julie from the beginning. We are all now a strong family unit. We look forward to our time together. ( They spend 50% of their time with us and 50% with their mom) We have made many wonderful family memories. This photo is from hiking in Devil's lake - one of our favorite places to go. We like to take trips to Wisconsin Dells in the summers as well. | Brian and Julie
4: Our Wedding was a lot of fun - it was very child oriented. Alex and Marlee stood up in the wedding and we had a unity ceremony that included them in the vows. The kids were very involved in the planning of the reception too. We had an ice cream truck, jumpee tent and a balloon animal maker. We took dance lessons and did a family dance to the Black Eyed Peas.
5: Brian & Julie What we love about each other....
6: Brian (By Julie) Brian is a compassionate, giving man. He is a wonderful father. This is one of the things that attracted me to him most. Brian has been a volunteer fire fighter for 14 years. He has incredible integrity in everything he does, and serves his community and neighbors everyday. He used to be a custom woodworker and is very handy. Brian now works as a data administrator in computers and is going back to school for this. As a father Brian is very hands on and involved. He goes to all of the kids events and sports. He makes time for them and they share a special bond. | As a husband , Brian is loving and supportive and we have a lot of fun together. We have the same values and goals. The decision to welcome another child into our home is something we are both very excited about. His experiences raising Alex and Marlee will be very helpful as we welcome a new baby into our home.
7: Julie (by Brian) Julie captured my heart from day one with her unselfish approach to life. In her adult working career she has made it her mission to help families even if only to offer comforting words. Julie working at a children's hospital as a social worker has equipped her with many tools and experiences to become a wonderful mother. She already has mastered being a fantastic step-mother to Marlee and Alex. Our marriage has been one of strengths and weaknesses. Her strengths are my weaknesses and her weaknesses are my strengths. I truly believe we were meant to be together.I have found that with her help she has made me a better husband, father, and man. If we are blessed to have another child brought to our home through the selfless act of their mother, Julie will become this child's life long mentor and spiritual guide. We have found that through the teachings of the church and good living our kids have become upstanding, kind and respectful children. I am truly blessed to have her in my family's life.
8: The Kids
9: Marlee Marlee is 14 y.o. and is a High School Freshman this year. She will be 15 in May of 2012. She is an honor student and has aspirations to be a veterinarian one day. She loves animals. We have a multi-pet household (that is our dog Grace with her in the photo) and and she also rides horses through the Hoofer riding club. She and Julie are accredited to do pet therapy with Cooper, and do volunteer visits at a Nursing home. Marlee is also very athletic. She was on the Freshman Volleyball team and had been on Cross Country. Marlee babysits for children in the neighborhood and got her red cross babysitter certification last year. She is excited to have a little brother or sister to teach things to. She will be a very good role model and big sister.
10: Alex Alex is 10 years old. He will be 11 in May of 2012. He is in fifth grade this year. He is very active and makes friends easily. He is sensitive and caring about others. Alex is very athletic and has tried Football, Baseball, Basketball and Soccer. He is focusing on Soccer this year. ( It is a family tradition ) Alex is very good with his baby niece and she finds him fascinating. He is very sweet with her. He is very excited about having a little brother or sister. He will be a terrific big brother.
11: Our Family and Friends
12: Our Extended Family - 3 sets of Grandparents, 3 sets of Aunts and Uncles, 2 Cousins. The Grandparents are ready and able to spoil another Grandchild! | Brian's dad and Jan, brother Chris and sister in law Christina | Julie's Parents | Julie and niece Lauren | Julie's brother Tim, his wife Jen and their daughter Lauren | Alex and Marlee | Brian's mom Sue and Bill | Brian's sister Cindi, Gary and Matt
13: In 2009, I became a big sister to Dulce. She and I have had a lot of wonderful adventures. She and her family and I have become close friends. Her mom teaches me Spanish and I teach her English. I have learned so much from Dulce, about her culture and traditions. Being a mentor has enriched my life greatly. Dulce is excited about my plan to adopt and to be a big sister too!! | Brian and I are both blessed with wonderful friends we have known for years. Most have children of their own as well. They are all very supportive and excited about our decision to adopt. | Dulce | Ryan Ava, Becky and Alli | Cindi and Terry | Beth, Becky Julie and Pam | Shahn, Julie Marni and Cathy | Dulce and friends at a Quinceanera | Dulce and Julie
14: Our Family Values, Parenting Style and Holiday Traditions
15: Brian and I share a parenting philosophy of leading by example. We have rules and structure in our household, but are not so strict that we don't have fun. There is a lot of laughter in our home. We believe children learn a great deal by example - and we try and be the best role models we can be. We go to a Methodist church as a family. We volunteer in the community. The kids have chores and contribute to the household. We eat dinner together as a family every night we can and are actively involved in their lives. We attend all school and sporting events and support the kids' interests and dreams. | Holidays are a big deal for us. Halloween we carve pumpkins, do the corn maze, and costumes for trick or treating. Thanksgiving is all about family and gratitude. Christmas we decorate the house and tree, leave cookies and milk for Santa. We open packages with family. The kids understand the true meaning of Christmas and Easter at church. For Easter the kids love the Easter egg hunt too. The 4th of July is all about the Fireworks!
16: Our Pets We have 2 dogs - Cooper and Grace., Cats Felix and Oliver, Ginger and Shadow. All pets are shelter rescues and are spoiled rotten | Where we live: We live in a south western Wisconsin suburb. We are within walking distance to the schools, We are a block away from the neighborhood pool. There is a bike path we walk the dogs on nearby. Brian has lived here for 16 years and we know our neighbors well. It is a very safe area and has a great school district. Our home is cozy - each child has their own bedroom (Baby will too!) and we have a fenced in backyard for the dogs. | Camping We have a pop up camper and have a blast going to State parks and getting away from it all. Brian is known as the "grill master" and he makes amazing camping food We like to hike and bike and share ghost stories around the camp fire. It is great family time. | Shadow | Ollie and Felix | Gracie and Cooper | Ginger
17: Family Fun and Adventure | Our Home and Pets
18: Sea World | Black Eyed Peas | S Dakota | Door County | Black Eyed Peas Concert | Door County
19: Thank you for taking the time to get to know our family. As we begin this journey of adoption, we have not forgotten that joy we will feel in bringing a child into our lives will also be a loss that will be grieved by you the birth mother. Please know that if you choose us to parent your child, we will raise him or her with great love, and we will provide your child with all the opportunities we can. Your child will know their adoption story, and they will know how much you love them. We are open to establishing on-going communication with you with photos and updates or whatever plan feels comfortable to you. We are open to any questions you may have, and look forward to meeting you in person if you decide to consider our family for your child. We wish you peace with whatever choices you make. God Bless - Brian and Julie
20: "The Child must know that he is a Miracle, that since the beginning of the world there hasn't been, and until the end of the world there will not be another child like him" Pablo Casals