S: Happy Birthday - 2012
BC: "Mother" is such a simple word, B© Jodie Mayhew As Mother; I am Nurturer A Guardian; A Guide As Mother, I am Gentleness A Warmth of Selfless Pride As Mother; I am Teacher I'm Strength; Security A Mother I am Love & Peace I am The Sanctuary S | 2012
FC: and the Future | Families:The Legacy | A mother holds her families hands for a moment and their hearts for a lifetime
1: Mom- This is a story of both fact, fiction and feeling. They are my memories and it is a story that does not have an ending. We are writing the ending by living our lives. I wrote this because I cannot think of another way to say Thank you for teaching me life lessons that have made our family as caring and loving as they are. Sue
2: H | The couple looked down at the beautiful bundle. They never thought they would ever become parents. It seemed so long ago that they first met and embarked on this journey. The young man, who had finally finished high school at the age of 19, moved the palate of parts around the floor. . He was shy and quiet and generally kept to himself. He wondered, "Would such a lovely girl want to know me?" After all, who was he? Just a stock boy for Kodak.He didn't have a fancy education; he had just finished school after taking time off to help his parents. His mother and father taught him one simple phrase; "Family First".
4: 4 | Maybe he would try anyway. Joan had noticed the slight young man looking her way. She wasn't sure she was at all interested in him. He wasn't very educated, didn't have a very good job, but he looked kind and gentle. He asked her to go to the movies with him, along with his older brother Fred and his girlfriend. She agreed at least there would be other people if she didn't like him. Ron had done it he asked her out and she said yes. It seemed like she was kind of interested in him. Maybe things would work out all right.
5: After many more dates, the fears they both had subsided. They seemed to fit together. Ron was quiet, thoughtful and self assured, while Joan was more outgoing and passionate about things, but unsure of who she was. Ron's family liked Joan well enough, despite the one flaw they saw. She was Catholic, and they were Baptist. In fact, Ron's youngest sister had asked if she had horns, (didn't all Catholics?). They both decided religion would not become a wedge in their relationship. He was willing to take classes for a year and agree to raise their children Catholic. It didn't matter, really he really loved her.
6: Now here they were ready to begin their life together. | 6
7: They began to learn more about each other | 7
8: It all seemed so long ago.Now here they were, so far from where they begun, holding the child they thought they would never have. Joan's sudden illness and the devastating news that she would not be able to have children had strained the relationship. She was devastated. There were other ways, and here they were today, holding their miracle.
9: Here was Susan, so small and fragile.Finally,the family was just that a family. It turned out the lovely little girl was going to face many challenges in her young life, but that would never matter. | She was diagnosed with asthma at the age of two and epilepsy at the age of six. Life would never be easy, but none of it mattered. She was loved and belong to these two loving people.
10: 10 | One day Ron and Joan readied themselves to bring home a new addition to the family Sue was so excited when her parents finally headed to the "baby store" to bring home the new baby. Jeff was not a petite baby but stout, blonde-haired little boy who was always easy going.
11: 11 | He took life as it came at him or so thought his family. Only later, when he was older, did they realize how much pain life had caused. Ron loved his little family and still helped out his parents, but felt he wanted more. He always thought education was important (or else he wouldn't have gone back to school at 19). He dreamed of being the first in his family to graduate college.
12: While working days for Kodak, he began night school at Rochester Institute of TEhnology He eventually earned his BS in Mechanical Engineering. As he headed into a new career and Joan cared for the family, the family was going to change. Joan always claimed she never found her talent, that God hid it under a bushel basket. If you asked her children they would tell you that her talent was raising kids, especially young children. She was about to be given another young soul to guide.
14: One cool sunny spring day in April, another trip was taken to the "baby store". Susan was allowed to go, and she hoped to bring home a sister. To her dismay, her mom and dad were handed a squirmy, noisy little boy. All his life, Kristopehr proved to be as rambunctious and busy as the first time she saw him. This could be the end of the story, but there was so much more love to give. The family loved each other and followed the rule "Family first". You would have thought by the amount of love they
16: Were all related. But on look told you that wasn't true. Sue, with her dark complexion and mousy brown hair, was a sharp contrast to Jeff, who was fair and blonde. Kris was dark haired, wiry and always a blur. Looks never really mattered in their house, but belonging, caring, and helping each other did. Ron's quiet, unassuming personality and Joan's constant care and love allowed
18: each of their kids to be who they were meant to be. The kids never wanted to disappoint or hurt them. They loved each of their parents for different things; Ron's quiet patience, Joan's nurturing ways gave each of them different things. The kids always felt a sense of belonging and love. Kris would not be the last baby in their home.They felt moved to share their love. Ron and Joan both convinced the kids that they should open their home to foster babies waiting for adoption.
19: LOVE | 19
20: One dreary winter day, the cycle was broken, along with Joan's heart. They had Marianne for nine months. She had medical problems that prevented a quick adoption. The family had petitioned the court to adopt her. It did not matter to them that she was deaf. The court denied the adoption because they had already adopted three children. Marianne was taken away the very next day. She was the last child they shared their hearts with.
21: Ron and Joan's normal every day love story turned out to be extraordinary. With Ron's passing from cancer, each one of the kids showed they learned that one important lesson;"Family First". They were there for each other and their mother. No matter what, they would continue to support each other through rough times and revel in the joy of each others' success, and to think it all started with a shy, young man and a young lady with laughing eyes.
22: The story does not end here,there will be many changes in their lives.The children are grown with children of their own. Ed has joined the family and a new chapter is being written. | 22