S: Kyle and Michelle
BC: "I didn't give you the gift of life, but in my heart I know the love I feel is as deep and real as if it had been so. For us to love each other is like a dream come true. No, I didn't give you the gift of life. Life gave me the gift of you." -Author Unknown
FC: Kyle & Michelle
1: We are Kyle and Michelle, and we want to thank you for taking the time to learn more about us. When we think of you, we imagine the feelings you must be experiencing as you consider an adoption for your child and we are filled with respect, admiration, and most importantly gratitude for your courage. We are excited that you would consider us loving parents, and we want this book to give you a glimpse of who we are, and who we will be as parents.
2: We grew up in the same town, but did not get to know each other until the end of middle school. After becoming more friendly in band class in high school, we were inseparable for the next three and a half years. We broke up in college due to our long distance relationship but started dating again when Michelle moved back to New York after graduating from law school in Colorado. Kyle got down on one knee and proposed in New York City's Central Park in March 2006. We bought our first home together in October of that same year. | 1996/7 | 1996/ | 1994 | started dating | prom | graduated high school | Our Story
3: 2007 | 2006 | 2006 | engaged | bought our first home | wedding | Our wedding was in September 2007 and was a beautiful day with all our closest family and friends. We tried to have children after our first year of marriage, but the many miscarriages Michelle has had since then has meant she hasn't been able to carry to term. Not being able to have any of the babies we conceived has been hard on us, but this experience has shaped us both individually and as a couple. We have grown even closer together and know that it will only help us be the best parents we can be to our children.
4: I think Kyle is not only an amazing man, he's an amazing human being. He is so compassionate and yet so strong. He is laid back and calm most of the time but can also let loose and have a good time and enjoy people. He's definitely a "foodie" - I have to rein him in when we go to the supermarket because he wants to buy everything! His love of food extends to growing our own organic fruits and veggies to cook with and he is always willing to try something new. He will make a fantastic father because he is so patient, so caring, and is a great listener. I admire him so much. | It is hard to put all Daniel is into words. I can barely remember life before him and couldn't imagine life without him. Daniel is one of the smartest people I know. He can remember so much! He is very handy and can build or fix anything. One of the things that draws people to him is his quick wit and humor. He always keeps me laughing! Daniel is a godly man. He is so disciplined to spend time with God everyday and pray about what's going on in his life. Children love Daniel (or Dan-Dan as our friend's children call him). He will be a great father because of the way he loves and the knowledge he has to teach a child as they grow. | About Kyle by Michelle
5: If I had to define Rachel in one word it would be selfless. I have never known someone so willing to give of themselves like she does. Her service to our church's mercy team and service guild highlights her heart for other people. She is so talented and creative that our friends always ask her to plan and decorate their baby showers. Despite our struggles with infertility, and her personal pain, she is still willing to give of herself to help others. That's how I know she is going to be a wonderful mother. Her personal sacrifice goes largely unnoticed, and sometimes unthanked. Yet despite this, she continues to give of herself. Her life is an example of "love your God with all your heart your soul and your mind and to love your neighbor as yourself" (Matthew 22:37-39). | About Michelle by Kyle | It's hard to describe Michelle in a short summary. She is a very deep and complex person. But the single best word to describe her is passionate. She cares deeply for her family, friends, pets and everything she does. She goes out of her way to visit her grandmother 1500+ miles away in Puerto Rico. She cares for and adores all of our rescue animals. She is also very passionate about becoming a mother. It is something she wants more than anything and she will certainly give her all to being the best mom she can be, loving, nurturing and guiding the life that will be entrusted to her.
6: Kyle at-a-glance | Favorites Color: Green Food: Lasagna Dessert: Black Forest Cake Movie: Empire Strikes Back TV Show: Big Bang Theory Band: AC/DC Book: Lord of the Rings Place to Visit: My family's condo in Florida. | Kyle: +33 years old +Born in Mount Kisco, NY +Is a Power Engineer +Graduated from Binghamton University +Likes working on cars, cooking and bowling
7: Favorites Color: Purple Food: Chinese Food Dessert: Oreos Movie: Wizard of Oz TV Show: The Office Favorite Musician: Adele Book: Harry Potter series Place to Visit: Puerto Rico | If she returns to work part time, childcare will be provided by grandparents and church daycare. | Michelle at-a-glance | Michelle: +33 years old +Born in New York City +Is an IT Attorney +Graduated from NYU & Colorado School of Law +Likes writing, camping & playing with our pets.
8: Kyle tailgating and fishing with Ray & Geoff | Kyle's Family | With Kyle's parents | At Kyle's brother's wedding
9: My parents live just a couple of hours away in the same house I grew up in. My mom has been a homemaker since marriage and my dad has been an engineer for almost 40 years. They are a strong pillar of support for Michelle and me and are eager to be grandparents. My two brothers, Ray and Geoff, both live near my parents and will be great uncles. My family is always getting together for dinner, birthdays, holidays and just to have fun. We often go to NFL games and take family trips to Florida. Every year we go cherry and apple-picking together. We are all so excited to add another family member to share in all these good times.
10: Michelle's Family | With Titi Alice & Julian | Jason, Grandpa, Julian, Dad, and Uncle Eddie | With Mom & Dad, Kristina, Jason & Liz
11: I am very close to my family. I'm blessed to have my parents and in-laws just a couple of hours away. They both still live in the same town that Kyle and I grew up in. My parents do not have any grandchildren yet and can't wait to spoil them. My brother, Jason, and my sister, Kristina, are so excited to be an uncle and aunt. My family gets together often to celebrate birthdays and holidays and we go away together every year. My father is one of five children and there are lots of cousins, including my adopted cousin Julian who is like my younger brother. We can't wait to welcome another child into the family!
12: Friends | Michelle and Cynthia making jam!! | Jeff and Kyle goofing around | Michelle with high school friends celebrating 30th birthdays together!
13: Michelle, Chrissy, and Kristen at the lake | Dana, Kyle and Rudy at a friend's birthday | Kyle and friends celebrating at a wedding
14: This is our dog, Pippa. She is almost 2 years old and loves to play ball. Pippa enjoys hiking and camping with us and loves when her belly is rubbed. | Pets | Pippa
15: Bailey | Zoe | Our two kitties, Bailey and Zoe, are the sweetest cats in the whole world. We love to cuddle with them, but they would rather sleep!
16: Our Home | Our | Our condo | We live in a great neighborhood on a dead end street. We watched our home being built from the ground up! Our home has 2 bedrooms, 2 baths, a large living room and a family den.
17: Our Backyard | We love that our backyard is a nature preserve, where we go walking often. We are only a few minutes away from good schools, church, and friends, and only a couple hours from family. We know all of our neighbors and are active in our HOA.
18: While we love our condo, we have been searching for a single-family home with lots of outdoor space for our children to play in. | The Search For Our "Forever" Home | Barn | What we are looking for...
19: Nursery Ideas | ...in our "forever" home | Big Back Yard
20: Cliff diving in Acapulco, snorkeling in Puerto Rico, posing in 3-D glasses in Washington D.C., skiing in Vermont, Kyle in Maine, pretending to be astronauts at Kennedy Space Center in Florida, at Niagara Falls, Michelle in Berlin, Germany
21: Travel | One of our favorite things to do together is travel. We have both been going places with our families since we were young, when Kyle visited his mother's hometown in Germany and Michelle's family moved to England for almost four years. Since then both of us have backpacked Europe and gone all over the U.S., Canada, and Mexico. We want to share our love of travel with our children so that they can grow up learning about our country, the world and its great diversity.
22: We love gardening and canning our fresh fruits and veggies... | Out of all the hobbies & interests we have, our favorite is just being together. We love to go to Jets football games with Kyle's family. Tailgating before the game in our Jets jerseys and gear is so much fun. We also love organic gardening and canning the fruits and veggies we grow ourselves. | Hiking and camping in the | Adirondacks allow us to | relax and enjoy some time to recharge.
23: Having Fun | Whether it's watching a movie, cooking a meal together, or just sitting on our back deck - we are going to have fun and enjoy each other's company. We are so excited for the chance to bring a child into our family to share our love. | Cold mornings camping in the Adirondacks require a warm fire!
24: Our Marriage | Our marriage is truly a partnership. We communicate well and understand what each other is thinking--sometimes it's easy to take this trust and comfort for granted because we've known one another for so long! But we find our roles change as what we need from one another changes: whether it's maintaining the cars, managing the finances, Kyle cooking dinner or Michelle doing laundry. We make a great team together because we work together to make the decisions that build the life we want.
25: One of the ways that our marriage has been tested is through infertility. It has been very difficult, but it has also strengthened us and matured us; it has made us a better couple. Our supportive families and friends are a blessing and through prayer and their guidance we made the decision to begin the adoption process. We were like-minded when we made the decision--as we both feel it is a privilege and a gift to bring a child into our family. Our family goal is to raise children that have deep love and respect: for their family, our world and its people.
26: Parenting is something we are ready to take on. We believe that there must be a balance between discipline and fun. We will structure a loving home that teaches our child to be respectful and compassionate, but also a true individual that believes in themselves. | Parenting
27: sunny days | We will tell our child about their adoption when it is appropriate depending on their age and maturity. It will always be an open topic of discussion in our home, especially as we would like our first child to eventually have a younger sibling. | Adoption | We have adopted relatives in our family, and both our families know the good things adoption can bring into our lives. | Julian | Titi Alice
28: We make you a promise. When we are chosen for placement, your baby will be in safe and loving hands. We have a deep respect for the delicate feelings involved during this beautiful process. We will have open and honest communication with our children, and will celebrate and honor their history. We truly believe we are lucky to be given the opportunity to have their spirit join our family and because of that our children's lives and comfort will always be before our own.
29: We hope this glimpse of who we are and what kind of family we want to be has given you some comfort and direction in your decision. We love and cherish our family each moment of our lives, and together we will always celebrate life. You will be close to our hearts because of the pivotal role you've played... we will always celebrate you, too. We wish you courage in the days ahead and pray for strength for you as you make the decisions for your child. Thank you for learning more about us. Sincerely, Kyle & Michelle