S: Kristine & Eric Ess
FC: Kristine & Eric Ess & Murphy, too!
1: Kristine & Eric are hopeful adoptive parents from New York waiting to adopt a baby. If you are pregnant and considering and adoption plan for your child please read the following Dear Birth family Letter. Dear Birth family: Thank you for considering an adoption plan. We have so much love to share and want very much to give a child a loving home and hope you will consider us as adoptive parents. About us: We have been married almost 4 years, together for almost 8. We have been anxious to create our family. We so want to bring children into our lives, and our loving home, and fill his or her life with friends, experiences, and wonderful opportunities we can provide. We live in a suburban neighborhood filled with families, and settled into our home the same month we got married. Phew! We enjoy home improvement projects, though neither of us is extremely handy, but we are fortunate to have friends and family members with great talents to help out. Our colonial home has 4 bedrooms – all on the second floor, 2.5 bathrooms, a family room, eat-in-kitchen and formal living and dining rooms. We have a decent sized backyard, ready for a swing set, sandbox and other outdoor toys. Our city and surrounding towns offer many fun and educational opportunities for children. Museums, parks, a zoo, science centers and libraries offer a wide range of family and kid-centric events. We love to plan group outings with friends, and have such a broad circle of friends with expanding families of their own, we can’t wait to have that group expand with our kids. Our families live close by, and are all excited about the news that we want to adopt. Kris has 1 brother, married with a son, Eric has 2 sisters, both married, both have 2 kids. Every family member and friend has been thrilled about our plans to adopt - we are blessed to have gotten so much support from family and friends. We know that our family, friends and our faith in God will be involved in helping us raise this child. When we adopt, we will do all we can to ensure this child has a secure and loving home, surrounded by love, grace and adoration. About Eric (Kris’s perspective): Eric is the gentlest, sweetest man I know. He has such a great sense of humor that everyone around him enjoys – and takes advantage of to tease. My friends warned him before we married that “new guy” bears the brunt of jokes. He married me anyway! And, when we wrote our own wedding vows for our marriage ceremony, everyone in the room cried. He even had these vows printed on a copy of our wedding invitation stationary (clever guy!) and framed for me as a gift. They sit on the end table in our family room for all to read. Kids love him, despite his teddy bear size. Our nieces and nephews, and the children of our friends can’t wait to visit, play with him and give him hugs and kisses. Murphy, our pet Cock-a-poo is helping Eric with his discipline as the kids will test Uncle Eric to see how much they can get away with! Eric is my rock and I can trust him with anything. Our struggles to create a family have been difficult, but Eric stands strong and believes firmly that we will blessed with children. We have a strong and solid marriage and we will walk through life together forever. I love him with all of my heart and everything I have. I so want to share our love and our lives with our adopted children I know Eric will be an amazing dad. About Kris (Eric’s perspective): When I first met Kris she showed the most caring and generous personality that I have ever known. On our first date she even got cupcakes to recognize my birthday few weeks prior. She is the type of person that makes sure everyone is comfortable before her own needs. Kris has an enormous amount of love to give and share. I see this everyday with our dog - how she hugs and smooches him endlessly. This display of affection will definitely carry forward to any children that we bring into our home. About Murphy (speaking of.): Murphy’s joining our family was meant to be. We saw him in a pet store back in 2006. Cooing at him through the glass we pulled ourselves away. We returned a week later, had said, “if he’s still there, he is meant to be ours.” The workers at the store brought him out to us and he ran back and forth between us, knowing he had found his new family. Our Parenting Goals: Our first goal as parents is to provide unconditional love, no matter what. We’ve both had that from our parents and it has carried us through some very challenging experiences in our lives. We also want to provide opportunities for our child. We like to travel – and my job offers an occasion every so often to do that. We just returned from a trip to Santiago, Chile. I was there for work, Eric tagged along and did some sight-seeing until I could free up, and then we enjoyed some of the amazing tourist attractions together before returning to the states. We hope to have that opportunity with children to share the education and diversity and wonders of the earth, and hopefully spark an interest in learning new things. We also intend to be sure that our children know discipline, what is expected of him or her and understands the rules and boundaries we will set as his or her parents. We were both raised with boundaries and consequences, and, though we both tested them, we can look back now and understand the love and protections meant by them. We both feel honesty is a key element in families and we realize every child is unique and will have individual gifts and talents that we will encourage and foster to the best of our abilities. We will make sure that this child can enjoy having grand-parents, uncles, aunties, cousins and friends that will spend quality time together to help him/her develop into a loving, secure individual who has the tools to become successful in life. Our Thoughts on Adoption: I had always assumed we’d have children someday. We never thought that we’d face fertility issues. After unsuccessfully working through intrauterine conception methods, we turned to In Vitro Fertilization. Successful on our first attempt, we were told we’d have twins. Complications arose and we lost them at 20 and 23 weeks in 2009. We want so much to bring children into our lives. We do not enter into this decision lightly, but we know we have the resources and stability and support needed to raise a child. We are looking forward to sleepless nights, changing diapers, doctor visits, cleaning messes, and just enjoying everything about having a child. We have been ready to have a child for a long time and we hope that you will see how much we want to be good parents. We cannot fully apprecaite the journey you are taking, and are very grateful you are considering adoption. We embrace the opportunity to know you and want our adopted child to know you and love you as part of his or her family. We are filled with respect for you as you make this selfless decision. We want what is best for the child and will be sensitive to his or her feelings and needs. We know that you have a hard decision to make at this time in your life. We hope you will contact us. Thank you for considering adoption, and thank you again for learning about us through our profile.
2: "Write it on your heart that every day is the best day of the year." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
3: Eric --- At a Glance Age: 39 Profession: Driver Favorites: Drink: Mt. Dew Hobby: Golf, Hunting Holiday: Ice Cream: ANY, r u kidding? Memory w/Spouse: | Kristine --- At a Glance Age: 41 Profession: Software Devl. Favorites: Movie: Dirty Dancing Music Group: Rascall Flatts Leisure Activity: Shopping TV Show: Anything on HGTV or Food Network!
6: Travel memories - Mexico, Hawaii, Las Vegas
7: Travel memories
10: "It's kind of Fun to do the impossible." - Walt Disney
11: My Favorite place - DisneyWorld "The Happiest Place on Earth" (until you misplace your favorite denim jacket!)
12: That's What Freinds Are For!
13: Our friends are the FAMILY we Choose!
14: "An open home, an open heart, here grows a bountiful harvest." - Judy Hand
15: Christmas Tree CutDown Day - It's a Tradition